Zefir

ok. So i'm baked. A bit

Sit in my armchair, music on and old memories comes back.

I watch my old pics and wonder what was so special in my first girlfriend so i was crazy about her?

Maybe she was just first so everything we were discovering together? long hair? first kiss? or maybe it is just the way the brain works - remember only good things?

How do you think?

The Rev

I think it's just a guy thing. The first serious girlfriend is going to be special to us. I still think of my first girlfriend with a kind of nostalgic longing. She was really cool. A very independent tomboy type girl, like Tom Sawyer, but as a 16 year old girl with a smoking hot bod.



The Rev

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JcP

I'm still not "over" my first love.

Granted the person I'm in love with doesn't exist anymore (as time changes everyone), but still.

I think it has to do with the true-love/first-love mentality we get put in at an early age with princesses and princes and all that stuff.

It's the foundation for almost everyone's sexuality and understanding of relationships (at least at first) and what we all "wish" for.

then when we get first love we are convinced we've found our princess/prince.

imo.

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Just look out around us, people fightin their wars...
They think they'll be happy when they've settled their scores...
Let's lay down our weapons
and hold us apart
be still for just a minute
try to open our hearts
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Originally Posted by The Rev It's not what you see, it's that you're looking.

Man in Black

she was the most beautiful creature god ever created and it was too good to be true

and she just impressed me as being the single most badass female I'd ever met at that point in time. i don't mean badass like she was a just a cool chick, which she was, but she was a real hard ass, a bitch, if you will. we used to bang heads like crazy but she was the first girl to actually fall in love with me and vice versa. i don't think anything will ever top the love we had for each other at the beginning.

/goes back to listening to country music

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mothernature

Not a guy thing....

I still love my first love. I have thought about looking him up, but I'd rather keep the image I have of him now. To me he is a big, strong beautiful man of 19. The man that all others were compared. In real, he's now probably some pot bellied alchy with no hair. Sigh....

~1~

This is funny..

I still talk with my very first serious relationship now and again (love at 12? please...) and our sons hang out together.

I mean I'm 'over' her because since we've grown up together for the most part, like has been said, people change but I guess I've never really been 'without' her so to speak so I guess I can't really contribute much to this whole longing for the lost one. Her and my wife get along fine too by the way.

Carry on...

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turmaline

I can only imagine.

Cerebro

I didn't go thru alot of that first love stuff myself
not when i was in my teens anyway
i'm kinda going thru it much more recently
but i definitely find that when i meet someone from my past i usually feel a bond created by some shared history, or intimate knowledge
so; not only rose coloured glasses imo

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yo.

generally when you look to the past, or reminisce, you tend to especially when you had strong feelings, good times together but a bull shit reason to split.

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Über King

yeah i have a weird history with my 1st girlfriend. we went out for about a year, broke up, grew quite distant, then became friends, then she got cancer.

its strange coz even though shes very different from the girl i went out with 4 years ago, there are still shimmers of her that come through and make me have strong feelings for her. its kinda difficult trying to balance those feelings while trying to be a supportive dependable friend to her in a time of crisis.

but for the most part its all good, id describe her as one of my closest friends, and we often share anxieties over members of the opposite sex etc without any complications.

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Waves

not only do you just remember the good things, but the first time you do anything in life is always more exciting/you spend the rest of your life chasing that feeling, not just relationships

its the human condition

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Geeno

sigh

good thread

i'll cosign to all of this.

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Jimmycube

yes yes, i fond my first love at like 15 or so....we dated till we had a child together, then i got paralyzed and when i came back from the hospital i bugged out basically and ran off with my heroin dealer for about a year or so *i think* then my baby mama and child almost died in a car accident and i came back to them and got off the opiates.

now we lives together, own a home together and it feels nice. I was just talking to turm about it actually. My child and girl keep me sane.

if it wasnt for them i would be all stung out on heroin or dead maybe.

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Jimmycube

prob dead..i was trying pretty hard to die actually...so yeah my first love saved my life kinda

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turmaline

I really don't get the first love thing...etc. never been hung up on anyone...cacoming from someone who has been married...it is quite strange to read this thread and now realise i have never been there.

tedkennedy

first love is an intense experience. after that its basically just downhill

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turmaline

so i is lucky.

Cerebro

i was the same as you turm, married, but never knew that crazy love
but i found someone to love, and have been thru the emotional wringer ever since
single again now, but i def didnt cope too well with the break-up
as compared to the divorce which was quite straight forward

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