Am I hypocrite asshole who would make you sick? - Page 2

Sir-Ex · 05-18-2011, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by mothernature

Sir-ex, I like you and the love you have for your daughter shows, BUT.....

You said you share responsibility of the child care. 2 afternoons a week and 1 overnight is not sharing. Your ex is the primary care giver of your child. Period.

Then, I would consider child support. Do you pay it? How does your child survive?

Now this upcoming gig you referred to. Are you a paid musician? Is this part of your 46 hour workweek? Is this fun for you? What I mean is, is playing music a real job or something you are doing to further your own music career or just something you do for fun? For yourself.

If I was the judge of your case, I would give you both joint custody, primary residence with her, and you would pay child support.

Having said that, the next time she calls showing her ass like that, hang up. You should not have to put up with that shit. And please, please, please, don't involve the child in the arguments.

I don't know how it's not sharing, but you're right she is the primary and I'm the secondary.

And yeah I do pay her for child support.

And yeah, the music is for fun for myself and others, and to further my musical abilities I suppose. Whether it's a job or not, music is a real passion of mine.

edit: pardon me, I don't know why I said 2 afternoon it's actually 3.

reedit: upon re-reading my 1st post, I did say 3. No need to correct myself.

Sir-Ex · 05-18-2011, 12:12 PM

ps, I don't argue in front of the kid. soon as things start to get heated around her, I change the subject or walk away entirely.

Captain Cannabis · 05-18-2011, 01:21 PM

its probably frustrating for her that she can't get you to fight back. that would give her an easy win in a custody battle

The Don · 05-18-2011, 02:50 PM

How old is she ex?

I think mothernature is pretty dead on with her assesment of the situation..

I don't know man.

Personal question: What does it mean for you to be with your daughter? How does it feel? Do you ever miss your her? I hope this dosn't sound snarky, i'm genuinely curious. For my own reasons.

Geeno · 05-18-2011, 03:07 PM

You probably are a hypocritical piece of shit but it's not wrong to do what you did, and its not necessarily wrong to be a hypocritical piece of shit.

**SageTree** · 05-18-2011, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by The Don

For my own reasons.

Hey man..... will you change your screen name to 'Papa Don' when you gain fartherhood this summer?

**mothernature** · 05-18-2011, 03:25 PM

I'm sorry...I read 2 afternoons.

When I think of sharing, I think of a 50/50 split. I realize that's not realistic in alot of situations.

I'm glad you pay your child support. So many just have excuses for not.

I don't know the laws up there, but if you really believe she would take this to court, you might consider having the courts set up your visitation schedule (your schedule, confirmed by the court), just so she can't jerk you around whenever she feels like it.

And yeah, don't tell her too much. You all are split up. She doesn't need to know your business. And get receipts for the child support.

It seems to me you're a good poppa.

Sir-Ex · 05-18-2011, 09:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Don

Personal question: What does it mean for you to be with your daughter? How does it feel? Do you ever miss your her? I hope this dosn't sound snarky, i'm genuinely curious. For my own reasons.

it's all a dream in between

The Don · 05-18-2011, 10:24 PM

What?

05-18-2011, 12:12 PM	#22 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,416 Thanks: 1,726 Thanked 3,821 Times in 2,258 Posts	ps, I don't argue in front of the kid. soon as things start to get heated around her, I change the subject or walk away entirely. __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

05-18-2011, 01:21 PM	#23 (permalink)
Captain Cannabis safety word: more Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: m.i.a. Posts: 13,922 Thanks: 2,705 Thanked 3,174 Times in 1,812 Posts	its probably frustrating for her that she can't get you to fight back. that would give her an easy win in a custody battle __________________ fuck the monkeys

05-18-2011, 02:50 PM	#24 (permalink)
The Don You follow? Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 11,151 Thanks: 544 Thanked 781 Times in 426 Posts	How old is she ex? I think mothernature is pretty dead on with her assesment of the situation.. I don't know man. Personal question: What does it mean for you to be with your daughter? How does it feel? Do you ever miss your her? I hope this dosn't sound snarky, i'm genuinely curious. For my own reasons. __________________ I am genuienly sad about my thanks:post ratio

05-18-2011, 03:25 PM	#27 (permalink)
mothernature ancientbongmaster Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kentucky Posts: 1,232 Thanks: 1,201 Thanked 809 Times in 487 Posts	I'm sorry...I read 2 afternoons. When I think of sharing, I think of a 50/50 split. I realize that's not realistic in alot of situations. I'm glad you pay your child support. So many just have excuses for not. I don't know the laws up there, but if you really believe she would take this to court, you might consider having the courts set up your visitation schedule (your schedule, confirmed by the court), just so she can't jerk you around whenever she feels like it. And yeah, don't tell her too much. You all are split up. She doesn't need to know your business. And get receipts for the child support. It seems to me you're a good poppa. __________________ Sometimes sleep is the best revenge- Luke

05-18-2011, 10:24 PM	#29 (permalink)
The Don You follow? Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 11,151 Thanks: 544 Thanked 781 Times in 426 Posts	What? __________________ I am genuienly sad about my thanks:post ratio

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