Geeno

Okay so as some of you may know I moved to NC last year and started living with my sister. This has been -okay- so far but this past winter we moved in to a lake front condo that's been great to live in so far, but she's become increasingly motherly in a negative way and is in general the greatest non work related source of negativity in my life.

Enter the dog. So I found a dog last week and she's been great so far, except my sister doesn't want me to keep it. So much so that she's already got 3 people lined up to take it. I really want to keep this dog as I want a companion. The only problem is that sometimes I have to work out of town, which has become more and more rare. My father said he'd be willing to meet me half way to take the dog for these kinds of weeks - he lives 4 hours away for 9 months of the year. Sister also raises a good point that I don't want to be tied down with a dog this early in my life... but at the same time I think some form of commitment might not be a bad thing for me.

She says that if I want to keep the dog I need to move out ASAP. I'm thinking about it. Typing this out made me feel like it's pretty much all positives to moving out of my sisters place. I'd appreciate some feedback though.

Right now I pay 450 for rent/water/cable and my other bills add up to about 100 a month. That's about 1/4 of my monthly income. I'm thinking I could find a cheaper less extravagant place for about 3-400. Hopefully my boss has some rentals available still.

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Roach

wow, I live in a shit hole for 500 and it's probably going up.

Yea, if rentals are that inexpensive, go with your own apt. and let dad take the pup when you are out and about. Sounds like a win win.

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AnimalLover420

My advice is to find a friend who will watch the dog when you go out of town so you don't have to drive to meet your dad and so your sis will stop bitching about it. That would be an easy fix and should help for the here and now. As for whether you should move out, I think so man. Not just so you can keep the dog, but because that's the beauty of living on your own- not having to answer to people. You are wasting your single years living with a female who tries to tell you how to live, there's plenty of time for that later when you've got a wifey. I think you'd have more hotties lining up to come home with you if you didn't have a naggy sister in the next room too.

Really think about the point your sister made about committing to a dog. Would you feel better about getting rid of her and not being tied down to a pet, or would you miss her like hell? I'm sure it's a little bit of both, but I'm definitely of the mindset that if this dog is loyal to you, you should be loyal back. My new dog has done some really annoying shit since we got her (like destroying our garden) and it gets on my nerves, but there is no way in hell I am getting rid of her. I even told my husband that wherever that dog goes, I go, so if he's going to find a new home for her it had better be with a hot, single man.

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Geeno

Yeah the only shot I have at getting a place for 300-400 is if my boss has a rental. They're old ass houses split into duplexes and shit but theyre not in the ghetto at least.

It's just that I don't feel like I could have asked for a better dog! I do kinda feel the whole tied down thing... and there is a woman with 3 acres that said she'd take her, but damn this is a class dog.

I'm definitely gtfo'ing of my sisters place though asap, you're absolutely right AL. Even if I sacrifice my quality of living space I'd be gaining a tremendous amount of liberation.

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Captain Cannabis

don't turn into one of those people who refuses to have by using dog care as an excuse.

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Geeno

refuses to have what?????

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Lloydy

pics of your sister?

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mothernature

I think he means refuses to have a dog because of the care required. That's what I read anyway.

I think you should go for it. If you have a bond with this dog, well, that's special.

Honestly, I would be wanting to move anyway, just because of the negative mothering thing.

Maybe, try to find a roommate to split the bills. Get a sitter for the dog when your out of town. It doesn't have to be your dad. It could be that woman with 3 acres.

What kind of dog is it?

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Geeno

I'm trying to find a place to live unfortunately my best option, my supervisors rental places, are full right now. The shitty part is that because of his insane wife - he occupies one and his step-son occupies another... He pays himself rent but I know for a fact that the step son doesn't pay him at all. When I called and asked he said he didnt have any, then thought about it for a minute and said he'd see what he can do.. either way I'm considering that outlet beat for the time being.

The dog is a 24lb Australian shepherd/cattle dog/border collie type mutt. A medium sized dog, super obedient and affectionate. Not hyperactive but still energetic. Pretty much exactly what I'm looking for in a companion.

I'm asking around with friends to see if they know anyone that needs a roommate with a dog. It's a tough sell but like you've all pointed out, I really do need out of this situation. I realized it on my trip to NY last weekend. I've dealt with the negativity as it had previously been worth the convenience of a place to live and dependable person to live with... but all the guilt trips and limitations I'm dealing with are beyond unreasonable.

edit: Also, this sister I live with is fat so pics wouldn't help anyone.

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Mafoo

when you work out of town where are you staying? i was thinking, becuase i have a friend who does this with his pitbul (most well behaved dog ever btw), you could take the dog with, but i dont really know what your work schedule is like.

i think you are old enough for a dog if you are old enough to support yourself n stuff.

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Silverleaf

Go on craigslist or something or just walk around a hood you like and call some realtors' numbers off the sides of buildings. You can find a spot to live on a budget like that no problem, I'm sure, and that way you aren't accountable to family, co-workers (esp. managers, imo). Moving out isn't the same experience until you're really on your own, namsayen maign?

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Roach

How much are one bedroom apt's in and around where you want to live ?

....just curious, around here they start @ $700 for something half decent, with one month in advance held as security deposit. Most now require credit check.

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Sir-Ex

A) A proud man with his faithful canine companion
B) A proud man with no dependants to worry about
C) A pampered man who lives with his sister and no dog
D) A very well fed man with no sister and no dog and a barbecue in need of cleaning


take your pick

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Stonie Jo

You will probly be able to get along better when you aren't living together. You will definatly be happier. It's too bad you can't take the dog with you to work! Good luck man!

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my_scatterheart

Do yourself a favor and don't rent from someone that you know via work related dealings. Doesn't matter if they're nice, your best friend on the job, love you more than their own son ... so much potential for dumb shit to go wrong that's totally out of your hands.

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Mafoo

i feel like you should work on your sister more.. i dont know where you live or anything, but dogs are pretty good as far as hearing intruders and theives on your property. even in a nice area, thats a good thing to have.

not to mention the uconditional love you'll get from the dog.

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The Rev

1) Admit that you love your new dog so you can rule out all options involving not keeping the dog. The regret otherwise will be more than you can bear, and will haunt you into alcoholism and probably prostitution.

2) Beat the crap out of your sister (you know you want to)

3) Post pix of said sister for Lloydy.

4) Get your own place. Living with family will slowly suck your soul out through your ass. This is not my opinion, but a scientifically arrived at fact. Despite any inconvenience or extra money, you will be much happier.



The Rev

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Geeno

Trying to find another place to live. Trying trying.

Sister already has a dog, a 6 lb wiener dog that is very cute but very mean to all other people and dogs. You can't take it anywhere cause it is very aggressive to almost everyone.

My dogs the complete opposite so far, obedient and loving.

Sister won't even speak to me right now. The females in my family are pretty bad at expressing themselves. They just get evil and vengeful, never logical or reasonable.

All this bullshit makes me consider retreating to NY all that much more.

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my_scatterheart

Tell her she can't be fat, naggy, AND evil. It's like a rule.

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Geeno

Can't tell her anything. It only makes it worse.

I only say evil because of that, it turns into an "i'm going to up the ante" game with her in .2 seconds.

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