SageTree

Well folks,

I thought sure as shit that when my Wife got her permit that mine would be on the way.

I jumped the gun in posting however.

Yesterday I went for the mail and got my rejection notice, even after my Wife was approved.

The error was in the options of where we could apply.
You have to fit into a category in the 'skilled worker' bracket for immigration.
Which my Wife does.

However I do not.

We were both sure that I for lack of a better expression, would 'coat tail' it in with her.

It didn't matter that I worked my ass off while she was in school so that we could live here more comfortably....

My contribution feels rejected.

The words were to the effect of, 'Your continued residence in Canada is not seen as a valuable asset to the Citizens and Permanent Residence of this Country.'



Had I known the only thing I could have done was arbitrarily have gone into some school program, but it's too late to get accepted first and then apply for a permit. I'm not sure what the options are for that if in say in 6 months I'm accepted and my Wife permit is still valid, we could easily move back. I'm not sure that is an option for her at this point. There are still a lot of questions at this point.

I have until Sept 30th to leave the country....

So tomorrow We are going to the border to talk to an agent about getting an extension so that we can 'finish' our lives here and get the ends tied up.

I'm feeling major grief and feel stupid for making an assumption that I'd get to grow old here.

I guess I still COULD, but I guess I didn't figure it'd be a 'second attempt' at this point

Must be what a climber who doesn't get the peak feels like?

It's not an end really... just a MAJOR fucking bump.

Coming back to the States feels grim and is not a choice really, but I'd say a necessity at this point.




There is more going on inside of me than I think you'd all care to read, but man.... I'm feeling pretty low at the time.

I don't expect the boarder agent to do any miracles tomorrow but know that I can't have more than 6 months here w/ a visitors visa. I don't intend to live here like that though, so just having enough time to get stuff together and close this chapter here would be nice.

We don't know where we are heading right now either.

My Wife has a job interview in Maine which we're both pretty excited about.
And on our way back from Rhode Island this summer we really thought Western Mass and Northern New York looked like cool places.
We've been to/through Vermont and would really think about settling there as well.
Hell, I joked that when we first came to Canada we'd intended to move to Alaska or the Northwest of the States, so maybe since we missed the mark and got the whole way back east we'll make our way out west again, state side.


It's really hard not to feel desperate for any way to stay here, but I don't think this is the time it's going to happen. When I opened that letter I seriously had to sit down quickly as I started to go weak in the knees. Hopelessness and helplessness overwhelmed me.

So unless that agent tells us there was some mix up with my acceptance based on my marriage/partnership, this is it for now.

Back to the States mates.

I'm trying to keep my head up about this and take it for what it is.
A huge freaking change!


My Wife and I are healthy and happy.
5 years together in the States, 5 Years here....
Who knows what is next?



So folks, if nothing else, this is a heads up that I might disappear off and on for a while, and also might explain any tones in my posts that seem out of place.

I really don't know what is going to take place at this point.

I could have 2 days to 6 months left here.


Talk to you soon Yahooka,
SageTree



Oh... here is a kick in the balls....

To apply it was $500 each.

My Wife got her permit, which means they kept it all.
I get back $200 of my money since I wasn't approved.


Enjoy the extra $700 bucks!!!


DANG!!!

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kamikazi89

i hope things go your way, vermont is lovely as is maine

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SageTree

Two things that concern me are the health care issues and the safety/laxity to the herb Smokers.

I mean.... those are the immediate ones, without launching into any of the larger gov't issues.


It was easy to do what I wanted work wise and have health benefits.
And it was also really nice to be able to walk into any job and not have to pee into a cup.

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Galt

Trying to be inspirational and motivational is not my forte as a devout contrarian, but here goes.

When one door closes (literally in this case I suppose) another one opens?

Never trust a government to do the "right" or righteous thing. Their thinking is limited to what their lists and rules tell them to do. Truly the large black monolith. Prepare for the worst, that way you're never disappointed, but sometimes pleasantly surprised.

Don't know you and the wife's professional back grounds but follow the unemployment numbers. I'd throw out Oklahoma, Maryland and Virginia because their numbers are artificially low due to their incredibly high number of Federal jobs (which with any luck will be getting cut in large numbers going forward). New Hampshire is one of the wealthiest States left in the U.S. Being close to money is always good.

Look at the bright side. At least....well... all right, maybe there isn't a bright side. Moving always sucks even when it's just down the street. I feel for ya brother. Let me try to finish that thought once again. At least you still have each other.

“A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth — that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire.Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved. In a position of utter desolation, when man cannot express himself in positive action, when his only achievement may consist in enduring his sufferings in the right way – an honorable way – in such a position man can, through loving contemplation of the image he carries of his beloved, achieve fulfillment.”

Viktor Frankl

Consider your situation an opportunity for new adventure. Meeting new people and getting to know new places is a big part of what makes our journey worthwhile. Just remember, it's all in the gettin' there and how ya do it, not in where you end up.

Good luck and happy landings.

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Come to England. We'll take anyone!

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fenderbender

aw im sorry to hear that sage. That truly sucks man.


The Adirondack area of NY, maine, and vermont area is probably the chillest area in the east.
Love it there. Absolutely beautiful.

New hampshire is beautiful too, but everyone i met there was a total dick so idk.

Goodluck man, and know that if you settle down in that area, you will definitely be getting a visit from me at some point

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Lloydy

We'll probably give you some free shit too!

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KaptNemo

Man that truly sucks Sage! I hope you're able to get an extension at the very least.

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adventure

wow... Sage Im so sorry to hear. You will be in my thoughts homes!

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Galt

Liar, liar, pants on fire. You won't let Michael Savage in.

Besides...we've all seen your free shit and we like our teeth straight and our fizzy yellow water cold (makes it easier to distinguish from a bottle of piss).

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Mikey

best of luck dude
and keep trying keep trying thats what the system is there for
it doesn't always go your way right away but in the end the right thing happens it just might take a while

good luck and we're rooting for ya

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SageTree

Thanks Dude. My Wife just applied to a job in Vermont. And over all that is a part of the States I wouldn't mind living in, I would like it actually!



In legality questions I went here: State By State Laws - NORML

Vermont for all it's head shops and outside toking has alarmingly different laws compared to Maine and New York. New York's laws surprised me a lot actually and it's pretty mellow stuff w/ civil infractions and fines, but not time. Maine isn't bad, Massachusetts it very friendly law-wise as well.

And speaking of New Hampshire.... strict as fuck on the laws.

So now that this dictates where I move, but honestly, it's a freedom that I've come to enjoy living here.

Getting pulled over and having a cop laugh at a gram was scary, but shit... he only took it.
I can handle that.

I have a few simple pleasures in life, and smoking is one of them for me, so it's important that I feel safe and secure doing so, that is why I bring that aspect up.


I think Mass has some public health care stuff going on but am not sure what exactly, that interests me.

If I can't get out west, I figure I mide-as-well settle in a part I've never lived in before and try to surround myself with semi-like minded folks politically since that is what a lot of stuff seems to boil down to in the States.

That is one thing I remember.... too many conversations ending up about policy and stuff like that.

We'll make it Fender, it's just a really hard blow to the pride/ego and hopes we had.

When we get settled, let me know man, I'm down with a visit.

Me too man. I figure they give folks temporary holiday time to be here, so I should at least be able to get THAT much if not more.

A friend suggested that I go to my local member of parliament, but I really doubt they'd care as I'm a non citizen and don't have the ability to vote.

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Galt

Mikey, while I applaud your encouraging remarks, I would suggest that your faith in "the system" is quite delusional. About the only thing that you can be sure of in that regard is that "the system" will ultimately fuck things up and good will not prevail. That will depend upon Sage...and people, not some fucked up "system". The "system" is the root of the real problem here in the first place my friend.

Sage will land on his feet 'cuz he's got a brain and knows how to use it.

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- Galileo Galilei (1564-1642)
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"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
- Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968)

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adventure

I have been smoking for 10+ years now in NY, and have no issues whats so every. All of the cops I know, find it a waste of their time. I have a friend who is a cop in Maine and he said that a lot of the cops up there are stricter, because the are not used to it as much, so its seen to be more taboo. And they do not have as much to do!
and a story for everyone!
I was over my friends house who is a City cop, with two other friends who all smoke (not the cop), my NYPD friend had a fellow cop over, while we were there he called his two friends who smoke and told them to come over, it was like we were on some stoner play date. lol

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SageTree

That's the problem... 'our'...

I like cellar temperature ales.

I'm already feeling like I don't fit in

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adventure

American has 10x more micro brewery then any other country. Budweiser is not my American beer

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adventure

is Galt DH older brother?

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Lloydy

I like "proper" American beer, just not the fizzy yellow shite like Bud and Coors

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