What dont you like about yourself? - Page 5

Lloydy · 10-09-2011, 01:03 PM

B. · 10-09-2011, 01:45 PM

haha

Quote:

Originally Posted by Geeno

How do you know other people are naturals? Do they tell you that? And you believe them?

Once you got the skills you might be inclined to tell people the same thing.

I just assume that socialising is a natural part of what people do, and being completely inept at it due to a personality disorder isn't natural.

But yeah, maybe I shouldn't assume, I know I'm not the only person that has these problems, but at 31 I really should have at least made some progress, am starting to feel too old for this bullshit!

Meh, I hate whining about it, it makes me feel like I am fishing for sympathy or something, which really is the last thing I want.

The Rev · 10-09-2011, 04:31 PM

Socializing is natural, but the environment in which we do it isn't, and that can be a problem. I mean, humans without civilization live in small, close-knit communities where they have to interact all the time. Today, a person's life is compartmentalized, and much more self-oriented (my job, my house, my life), so s/he can easily withdraw from interaction with others. There are no more of the "natural" forces at work that kept people social, so you have to make an effort now.

The Rev

**SageTree** · 10-11-2011, 09:44 AM

I wish I was better at staying in touch with my family and friends.

I wish I could always live up to my ideals.

Qui-Bong Jinn · 10-11-2011, 04:45 PM

I'm also quite bad at socialising B. I don't think being shy is a personality disorder though. I find I'm better at making conversation when I'm not all burntout and shit, so I stopped the wake and bake before class.

I wish I wasn't so terribly scared of public speaking.

BudSniffer · 10-11-2011, 06:27 PM

I wished I wasn't so negative and stressed all the time, mostly because of my job......

B. · 10-11-2011, 07:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Qui-Bong Jinn

I'm also quite bad at socialising B. I don't think being shy is a personality disorder though. I find I'm better at making conversation when I'm not all burntout and shit, so I stopped the wake and bake before class.

I wish I wasn't so terribly scared of public speaking.

Cheers man.

I do actually have Avoidant Personality Disorder, or Alien Vs Predator disorder as I prefer to call it (AvPD)

, it is more a defense mechanism that makes me severely distrusting of new people and situations than shyness, as I am not really that shy when I feel comfortable.
It just takes a massive effort to become comfortable with people, and most people, understandable so, have not got the patience to get to know me properly.

Public speaking is not something I am so bad at, similar to talking freely on the net, just make it so it is impersonal in your head, focus on the points you have to cover, and keeping your voice loud and clear, rather than the people watching you.
Not easy at first, but it is something you get used to.

I remember the first time I played out at a club, I was absolutely terrified as I was playing in front of a crowd of people I mostly knew, couldn't stop looking up and noticing faces etc and freaking out, went to bits... very embarrassing!
Since I learned to just focus on the records, try and get lost in the music, and blur my eyes when I look up, so that I only see a general picture of what's happening instead of actually making eye contact with whoever is right in front of me, it is much easier!

Sir-Ex · 10-11-2011, 07:21 PM

I like to look in their eyes and mind fuck them with music love when I play.

Terry · 10-11-2011, 11:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Roach

It's not something I really hate about myself, but I find that growing old tends to be a pain in the ass.

Probably irreversible too

Damn I may have to steal this for my next sig.

Puffman · 10-12-2011, 12:47 AM

its all pretty much been said but here goes:
-i almost always take the easy way out. school, work, relationships, pretty much everything. my laziness can be pretty extreme at times and it can also have some pretty negative effects on stuff like hygiene.
-i hate small talk and am generally terrible at it, but i suppose i'm improving.
-i am terrible at talking to hot girls. if some random hot girl talks to me for some ungodly reason i start sweating and jumbling words and shit. its bad. i watch my friends approach girls at the bar with ease and confidence and it just baffles me how they do it. or maybe it baffles me why the fuck i can't do it.
-i smoke way more weed than i should and when i do cut back or quit it never lasts more than a week or so.
-i'm pretty addicted to porn
-like CW, i'm going bald at an alarming rate
-i am constantly comparing myself to my peers in usually very negative ways. for example, i'll justify my own laziness because a friend is even lazier.
-sometimes i just can't drop an argument, and it really annoys people

it all comes back to a cripplingly-low self-esteem and complete lack of discipline. i think deep down i don't believe i'm worth the effort to improve myself. i have been considering seeking professional help for years but obviously haven't gotten around to doing it.

**~~chellelouj17~~** · 10-12-2011, 05:48 AM

What I don't like about my attitude is my being insensitive... It might be because I am a loner type and don't want to go out often. So when in school or work, I would do things my own way and not tending of other people's feelings. I really hate that part of myself...

Sir-Ex · 10-12-2011, 09:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SageTree

Understatement of the Year, Man!!!

compliments often make me feel uncomfortable

**SageTree** · 10-12-2011, 09:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sir-Ex

compliments often make me feel uncomfortable

Brilliant cross thread action...

I don't like it when I make people uncomfortable.

You STINK EX!!!!!! BOOOO!!!!!

Sir-Ex · 10-12-2011, 10:07 AM

lol its no prob. i've always been shy about people directing praise at me rather than the products or accomplishments themselves.

"That song was great!" = w00t

"You're awesome man!" = blush get me outta here

PEEEENIS

**SageTree** · 10-12-2011, 10:36 AM

Nice POST

Jester4yall · 10-16-2011, 08:25 PM

I hate that
-I'm easily side tracked
-I tend to come off as a dick if you didn't know better
-I sometimes define my self-worth by monetary value
-I can't make small talk
-I feel awkward around strangers
-I don't act my age (I act like a kid sometimes)
thats all for now

Sir-Ex · 10-16-2011, 08:33 PM

I get the feeling that since so many people don't like to small talk, that perhaps it's not something we should want to do in the first place.

10-09-2011, 01:03 PM	#81 (permalink)
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The Rev Clear Light Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: In my head, somewhere. Posts: 17,863 Thanks: 5,015 Thanked 5,419 Times in 2,864 Posts	Socializing is natural, but the environment in which we do it isn't, and that can be a problem. I mean, humans without civilization live in small, close-knit communities where they have to interact all the time. Today, a person's life is compartmentalized, and much more self-oriented (my job, my house, my life), so s/he can easily withdraw from interaction with others. There are no more of the "natural" forces at work that kept people social, so you have to make an effort now. The Rev __________________ Budforce - My Friend August 29, 1973- May 25, 2012

10-11-2011, 09:44 AM	#84 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	I wish I was better at staying in touch with my family and friends. I wish I could always live up to my ideals. __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

10-11-2011, 06:27 PM	#86 (permalink)
BudSniffer Just bein' me Join Date: May 2002 Location: waayyyy over yonder Posts: 822 Thanks: 413 Thanked 306 Times in 186 Posts	I wished I wasn't so negative and stressed all the time, mostly because of my job...... __________________ "Nobody thinks the way that I do, I guess nobody dares. My head's so full of things, I set my mind free of them. I'm breaking the rules, breaking all the rules. " -Ozzy Osbourne

10-11-2011, 07:21 PM	#88 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,413 Thanks: 1,725 Thanked 3,816 Times in 2,256 Posts	I like to look in their eyes and mind fuck them with music love when I play. __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

10-11-2011, 04:45 PM	#85 (permalink)
Qui-Bong Jinn Jedi High Council Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kingston, Ontario Posts: 2,121 Thanks: 905 Thanked 496 Times in 368 Posts	I'm also quite bad at socialising B. I don't think being shy is a personality disorder though. I find I'm better at making conversation when I'm not all burntout and shit, so I stopped the wake and bake before class. I wish I wasn't so terribly scared of public speaking.

10-12-2011, 12:47 AM	#90 (permalink)
Puffman LeavesOfGrassMyAss! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Canada Posts: 6,550 Thanks: 538 Thanked 251 Times in 163 Posts	its all pretty much been said but here goes: -i almost always take the easy way out. school, work, relationships, pretty much everything. my laziness can be pretty extreme at times and it can also have some pretty negative effects on stuff like hygiene. -i hate small talk and am generally terrible at it, but i suppose i'm improving. -i am terrible at talking to hot girls. if some random hot girl talks to me for some ungodly reason i start sweating and jumbling words and shit. its bad. i watch my friends approach girls at the bar with ease and confidence and it just baffles me how they do it. or maybe it baffles me why the fuck i can't do it. -i smoke way more weed than i should and when i do cut back or quit it never lasts more than a week or so. -i'm pretty addicted to porn -like CW, i'm going bald at an alarming rate -i am constantly comparing myself to my peers in usually very negative ways. for example, i'll justify my own laziness because a friend is even lazier. -sometimes i just can't drop an argument, and it really annoys people it all comes back to a cripplingly-low self-esteem and complete lack of discipline. i think deep down i don't believe i'm worth the effort to improve myself. i have been considering seeking professional help for years but obviously haven't gotten around to doing it.

10-12-2011, 05:48 AM	#91 (permalink)
~~chellelouj17~~ Banned Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 7 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	What I don't like about my attitude is my being insensitive... It might be because I am a loner type and don't want to go out often. So when in school or work, I would do things my own way and not tending of other people's feelings. I really hate that part of myself...

10-12-2011, 10:07 AM	#94 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,413 Thanks: 1,725 Thanked 3,816 Times in 2,256 Posts	lol its no prob. i've always been shy about people directing praise at me rather than the products or accomplishments themselves. "That song was great!" = w00t "You're awesome man!" = blush get me outta here PEEEENIS __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

10-12-2011, 10:36 AM	#95 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	Nice POST __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

10-16-2011, 08:25 PM	#96 (permalink)
Jester4yall Spark It or Park It Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Africa Posts: 3,653 Thanks: 2,760 Thanked 1,316 Times in 943 Posts	I hate that -I'm easily side tracked -I tend to come off as a dick if you didn't know better -I sometimes define my self-worth by monetary value -I can't make small talk -I feel awkward around strangers -I don't act my age (I act like a kid sometimes) thats all for now __________________ http://i.imgur.com/CTV2E.gif In matters of style, swim with the current; In matters of principle, stand like a rock. -Thomas Jefferson You will encounter many distractions and many temptations to put your goal aside: The security of a job, a wife who wants kids, whatever. But if you hang in there, always following your vision, I have no doubt you will succeed. - Larry Flynt

10-16-2011, 08:33 PM	#97 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,413 Thanks: 1,725 Thanked 3,816 Times in 2,256 Posts	I get the feeling that since so many people don't like to small talk, that perhaps it's not something we should want to do in the first place. __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

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