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Old 09-04-2015, 02:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Do you like giving people rides?

I ask this because I run into flack sometimes because I'm the sort that doesn't. See I run into situations where I have a car and other people don't, so they ask me if they can get a ride somewhere.


My usual inclination is to say no because
a) that's probably gonna be like an hour of my time
b) I busted my ass to get my wheels for my convenience


But what I was told today is that I should feel like I want to be helpful and just do it because, it's so much easier for me to drive and I'm saving someone a bunch of time, and I should just feel gratified for having been helpful.



To which I think, well, that's not really help. That's providing a convenience. Help is like.. you're in a jam and you need fucking help right? This is like, I don't want my errand to take too long so I want you to drive me.


Fuck that.


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Old 09-04-2015, 03:01 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I like giving girls rides.

But no, you aren't. If you want to say no, you shouldn't have to feel guilty about it. Polite refusal of favors is totally acceptable.



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Old 09-04-2015, 03:07 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm so Canadian I feel sorry for not being able to give hitchhikers a ride.
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Old 09-04-2015, 03:26 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Honestly it really depends.

I live in a really small town, so hitchhikers don't really "need" the ride. However, if they are around the same age or younger and look like they have some chill, I'll pick em up if I'm bored, want some conversation and have the time. Although I absolutely will not go out of my way to get them where they need.
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Old 09-04-2015, 03:49 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Hitch hiking is illegal in nj.

Id pick people up though if i wasnt in a rush at all.
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The one time i gave a rando a ride, they straight up smoked crack in my car.

So.... I'm way way way more circumstantial now. Like I'd give a mexican a ride before a white or black person.
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Honestly it really depends.

I live in a really small town, so hitchhikers don't really "need" the ride. However, if they are around the same age or younger and look like they have some chill, I'll pick em up if I'm bored, want some conversation and have the time. Although I absolutely will not go out of my way to get them where they need.
In my neck of the woods in BC around the summer time we get a ton of people that come into town who are there for the summer picking season (fruit mainly) and they all come from Quebec and are hugely into the hitchhiking culture.

It's really a gamble on what kind of person you will get, the ones that really irk me are when the woman stand out for a ride and when you stop all the men come out of the woods to hopefully sneak a ride as well.
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Last time I gave a hitchhiker a ride they stole my ray bans
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No.

I like being able to have the freedom of taking my time to go and do what and where I want.

I was actually going to a womans AA group hosted by my sponsor and she asked me to give rides to other women who didn't have cars. I became overwhelmed because my life was so hectic at the time I actually missed a lot of the meetings because of anxiety. I couldn't handle the simple responsibility of having to be there for other people..

My sponsor then dumped me.
She thought it was just because I wasn't putting fourth the effort or work.

I also hate giving rides because my car is a motherfucking disaster most of the time.
I am a slob.

I like freedom and my car is like my alone time.. Downtime place.

My space..cocoon.

I don't mind riding with friends though.

I like riding with friends and do.

Just not acquaintances... So much.

Personal space I guess.
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I ask this because I run into flack sometimes because I'm the sort that doesn't. See I run into situations where I have a car and other people don't, so they ask me if they can get a ride somewhere.


My usual inclination is to say no because
a) that's probably gonna be like an hour of my time
b) I busted my ass to get my wheels for my convenience


But what I was told today is that I should feel like I want to be helpful and just do it because, it's so much easier for me to drive and I'm saving someone a bunch of time, and I should just feel gratified for having been helpful.



To which I think, well, that's not really help. That's providing a convenience. Help is like.. you're in a jam and you need fucking help right? This is like, I don't want my errand to take too long so I want you to drive me.


Fuck that.


Am I selfish?
Yes.. but am I overly selfish?
Yeah fuck that.
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For a second I thought you were quoting your own response Turm and figured you started talking to yourself.
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i don't mind driving people around but people do not call me out of nowhere for a ride unless they really need it.
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I get very stubborn when someone tries to guilt trip me.

On the other hand, I'm carless at the moment, so rides are quite helpful to me. I'll ask for a ride if you're going my way, or to take me along the next time you're going to wherever. I always offer gas money.

Altho, I must admit that I just got a ride from my daughter to a special doctor appointment that was a 3 hour bus ride. She already told me that she'll take me to those appointments and I don't give her gas money, but she gets all my stuff when I die, so it's fair.
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I like to avoid "driving someone around" but I have hitch hiked quite a bit and I will usually pick someone up if they don't look like they are going to ruin my day. And all ways!!! ask where they are going first to help profile them. I also have a single cab truck so if after stopping and talking to um and they seem sketch I just tell um to get in the bed
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Situation of someone asking for a ride never really comes up since I live in a large city. I used a craigslist rideshare for the first time in years yesterday and gave a girl a ride on a five hour trip for some gas money and company. So far I've had good luck picking up hitchhikers.



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