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Old 03-02-2017, 10:26 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Experience with random roommates?

So the past six years or so I've been kinda doing living on my own for a couple years, fallback with my old man for a year, live solo for a couple, fallback with my dad. More and more I've been seeing living on my own is not currently a viable financial for me at the moment so I'm kind of looking for the random roommate option. I was hopefully wanting to live with a friend but they're pretty much all married at this point or moved out of town. I'm just wondering what your guys expenciences are?

I've had a lot of friends do this and most of the time it seems like a nightmare but occasionally it seems really fun. My main concerns is people being opposed to my lifestyle and by that I mean I'm a pretty private, quiet dude who's pretty depressed that drinks a ton and smokes a lot of weed. That being said I'm always pretty friendly and laidback. Even when I'm fucked up im not throwing parties or loud or breaking shit. If anything I just pass out. I also don't get how sharing a kitchen works. I'm pretty good about doing dishes and shit but id hate if people started eating my shit or keeping track of who bought what groceries.

Any tips? Success stories? Horror stories?
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Old 03-03-2017, 12:43 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Can I ask you something? Do you like your friends? Want to keep talking to them and having a relationship with them that doesn't involve a lot of resentment?

If the answer is yes, then don't. move. in. with. your. friends. ESPECIALLY if they're married.


Random roomate is fine but you gotta find someone who suits you, honestly best if you find someone who works while you're at home and vice versa.
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Yeah I don't really like roommates I've never had spectacular results. Even my bff was annoying.
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My roommates are my best friends but then we've shared in a common peril and now democracy pervades our ship from steerage to captain's tabble. Also we all clean up after ourselves.
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Yeah, sometimes it can work out sometimes it really doesn't.
Even your best friend will be seen in a completely different light after you start living with them.

Case in point, I moved in with 3 of my friends into a 4 bedroom house last October.
Two days before move in, one friend says his girlfriend is going to move in with him, everyone's fine with it but me, I say they should pay more, everyone disagrees.

Cut to January of this year and another of my roommates moves his WIFE in, as they got married in November so she wouldn't get deported back to France. I failed to realize they have to live together for the next 2 years or their marriage is fraudulent. I've nicknamed her "French Fraud" and frankly I don't trust the bitch.

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I'm moving out at the end of the month
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I have had roomates, i have had the "guy on the couch", have been the "guy on the couch", lived with weird extended family, lived with gf's family, lived with friends.

If it is essential for survival there isn't much to do but to do it and allow the events to dictate the experience. If I was to offer advice, keep in mind that it is imperative to not view roommates as friends or siblings that won't cross your boundaries and vice versa. There will be times where your shit gets stolen(or used) there will be times that someone leaves a passive aggressive note about cleaning up the kitchen. A lot of people are not mature enough to hash things out in a productive way so shit gets toxic. The best ways to avoid that is to make sure that you have your own space, you keep your shit locked up, and always try to find a mutual way to be comfortable rather than trying to get someone to do things "your way".

If you are coming into someone else's space, than offer to do chores, you aren't a bitch by pitching in beyond money. You are being respectful of communal spaces by keeping them usable for all.

It sounds pretty negative but it is more things to consider and there is a lot of good that comes out of having roommates...When on the same page you always have someone to talk with, bounce shit off of, unfiltered opinions. If done right it can be really easy to stack money if you are only having to pitch in a few hundo for roof and utilities and save the rest. Keep that in mind, only take on roommates if you know that you are disciplined enough to stack funds because your main objective should be to be able to move before the lease (arrangement) is up.
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Two days before move in, one friend says his girlfriend is going to move in with him, everyone's fine with it but me, I say they should pay more, everyone disagrees.
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Everyone is wrong. You're right.


How it's supposed to work:

Utilities - if not included, they are divided evenly among adults living the household

Rent - a good split is 75%/25% - 75% of the total rent paid is divided evenly across the number of rooms (not people) and 25% goes into the common space, which is divided evenly across the number of people. Simplifying the equation such that we assume one person doesn't occupy more than one room:



So say you have a 4 bedroom place, and its rent is $2000. There are 2 people who each have their own room, 2 people in one room, and for some reason, 3 people in the last room.

Their rent would breakdown thusly:

The people who each have their own room pay about $446 each
The two people who share a room pay about $518 together ($259 ea.)
The three people who share a room pay about $589 together ($196 ea.)

But perhaps the common area is really nice and frequently used, maybe a 60/40 split would be more appropriate, rendering:

The people who each have their own room pay about $414 each
The two people who share a room pay about $529 together ($264 ea.)
The three people who share a room pay about $643 together ($214 ea.)



Show that equation to your friends, and help them become better friends more deserving of a jonas
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My roommates are my best friends but then we've shared in a common peril and now democracy pervades our ship from steerage to captain's tabble. Also we all clean up after ourselves.
And under a year ago you were resorting to poisoning your asshole roommates for eating your food lol.
Im assuming you moved.
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Yup, everyone I talk to this about agrees with me. Not sure how I ended up with roommates who all don't seem to give a fuck or think it's perfectly acceptable.

(I'll potential write a longer response, but go to this website https://blog.splitwise.com/rent-calculator-faq/ that seems to divvy up the costs of rent according to many other factors, that I presented to my roommates but they all thought it was unnecessary and looked at me like I was crazy)
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And under a year ago you were resorting to poisoning your asshole roommates for eating your food lol.
Im assuming you moved.
That was over 3 years ago fender lol
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That was over 3 years ago fender lol
Goddamn seriously? I was even gonna say like six months ago but upped it a bit lol.

Idk. Past ten+ years of yahookan history just all blends together.
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Reggie where you at? Im looking for a roommate too.

I even have a feeling you were a fellow NJ resident, however i might be mixing you up with another.
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Reggie where you at? Im looking for a roommate too.

I even have a feeling you were a fellow NJ resident, however i might be mixing you up with another.
Lol I'm a southern Ontario Canadian but I appreciate that you're even asking. Thanks for everoyone for responding. I actually tried to move in with what I considered to be with a really good friend at the time twice before and we never fought more just looking at places. First time because he didn't put any effort into looking and had ridiculous high expectations and the second time because semi was extremely low income and extremely into crack/meth. It's just sad that I work 40-50 hours a week over minimum wage and living on my own seems unrealistic at this point. That's another issue though. I'm also terrified of bed bugs and cockroach infested places which seem to be more and more common in my area no matter how nice the place looks.
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I moved in with my best friend from childhood.

We haven't spoken in years.

I'd never have a roommate

Even with all 4 kids I'd still make it on my own
Fuck living with random people.

Get out of my house!
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I think all of yahooka should rent a house together. That'd be the coolest thing ever.


I still hold onto the dream that one of us will hit it rich someday and do something cool like that. All expenses paid yahookan reunion.
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Room mates generally suck ass.
Id suggest moving further out of the city core til your income matches the rent. Id rather spend an extra 1/2 hour in traffic than wasting all my mental energy planning the perfect murder.
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[QUOTE=fenderbender;5 2302607]I think all of yahooka should rent a house together. That'd be the coolest thing ever. QUOTE]

That brings up the interesting conundrum of where should that house be?
My vote would be for Vancouver, North Shore mountainside with a view of the Ocean.
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I think all of yahooka should rent a house together. That'd be the coolest thing ever.
That brings up the interesting conundrum of where should that house be?
My vote would be for Vancouver, North Shore mountainside with a view of the Ocean.
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