Originally Posted by v3d4

i think this is a real opinion and a real question that deseves to be addressed

obviously we know an internet hug is not the same as a real hug, and cant replace or come even close to the physical touch of another human
but we are a community of humans here, despite the separation of distance, and as such we are constantly reaching out and touching each other in many ways as we normally communicate by posting and reading eachother's thoughts

this is how real human relationships develop, so that when i am am internet hugging you it means that i am really thinking about you the person, not just some abstract entity that causes words on a screen, but a real person that i am in contact with. even thousands of miles away i can help you carry whatever burden of sorrow no matter how heavy, and i can shine a little light in the darkness of your lonliness, and i can share the joy of your celebrations.

all of this without judgment and without conditions, without any motivation to get anything from you, with no reason to be fake or anything like that, just friends saying to each other: despite all the bullshit, i care.

if that still seems stupid or worthless then maybe its because thats not what you need right now, but some people do need that, and it is not stupid or worthless to them. understanding that, it is not stupid or worthless to me, because i see it as a kind of pure uncoerced acknowledgment of self that crosses all barriers.

but i didnt come here to write a philosophical perspective on the socio-psychological value of internet huggles

Originally Posted by Silverleaf

i could use a hug.

i fucked up at work today. well, several months ago i did anyways, i used the wrong math because at that time i didn't understand a caveat. but i only found out that i fucked up today, and then i proceeded to look like a fool as i called folders and went through six rolls of fucked-up microfiche to try to find anything to cover my ass, as i hastily threw together reports that had no page numbers, not highlighted or marked in any way, so everyone in the meeting is lost as to what i'm saying, as i admitted my error and took responsibility for costing the company, yeah. wasn't a shining moment. and even though both my oversight and the guy who really screwed the pooch were both indicted in the situation, i was the one feeling left high and dry. based on what i've seen, the client is going to walk away none the wiser, but it's just going to be one big thing at the office. It'll subside and i'll live to fight another day, but now is really a terrible time for this all to happen, especially this case (for the most absurd reasons), especially how long it's been floating in the air (for the most absurd reasons).

also, i'm feeling very unsteady about recent personal decisions i've made. i'm trying to answer to myself, but it seems much harder now than it did the first time this all happened. i don't know to what facet of the problem that speaks to, but i have ideas. i do know, however, that yet again, i've fucked up. it's become clearer by the day. and it's not really something i can up and fix without hurting people, which is how i kind of got myself feeling this way in the first place.

my brother's in a real fucked up situation, too. through no fault of his own, i think most would agree, and we can leave it at that. we aren't really very close, we're a little apart in age, and i always harbored all these feelings that he's too young, too immature to "get it" for so long, but given what he's going through now (and how it sort of indirectly affects me) we're a little closer.

i want it to be the end of march, and i want to know if i'm going back to school, or if that's just another fuck up of mine waiting in the wings.

i thought of starting a thread, but i don't really want to talk about it. i just kind of want to be someone i can be proud of. and i want a hug from someone i feel means it. yahooka always makes me feel good, i's hoping it might do the same right now.

Originally Posted by toastedkat

Gentle and loving momma hugs to you all. I was Blessed with 63 years with my mom, living with her for all but about 7 of those years. In all those years when I thought about how close we were, how good she was to me, all I could think was I would melt into a little puddle and someone would have to pick me up with a blotter. Now that she's passed, I have nothing but happy memories. She and I were both fortunate, she wasn't in pain.

It's so much more difficult when you lose someone who is young and they have to go thru something like Chemo....

Sending hugs and healing vibes for everyone's heart who is facing a loss and for those who are suffering. Be it family, friend or furry friend.

Mega hugs,
Kat

Originally Posted by Mikey

fuck fuck fuck
i can hardly stand anything right now
i feel like punching walls and ripping apart the dry wall

how i can i fucking hate someone so much when i love them?

i guess it's my fault, i told them a long time ago i've forgiven them, but i really didn't and it still hurts

Originally Posted by Mafoo

mikey