*sigh* the one that got away... - Page 2

**SageTree** · 03-02-2009, 11:07 AM

As weird as it sounds, going to the wedding might give you closure to the end of being with her, much like the closure of going to a funeral/viewing. You'll see and something further will click in your head, and it sounds like you are already slightly removed from her in an attracted way.
I think it's okay to talk with her openly and non-judgementally about your concerns. But people will live there life and sometimes all we can do is know that they will be well taken care of, by people like yourself, should something bad happen. We can't always save people from things we think are mistakes. So approaching her with the mindset of caring for her and not worry about him, is how I'd focus that, remeber you are doubting her decision which is shakey ground, so make sure it's about caring for her and not against her or her choice, which is him.
Go and have fun if you can. If you don't feel that good about it, you can leave, no?

Good luck, you'll do the right thing.
SageTree

Mikey · 03-02-2009, 11:36 AM

^^^
sage totally hit a vibe, sounds like closure is exactly what you need

awwsuga23 · 03-02-2009, 11:46 AM

yes going to the wedding will give you closure and i think telling her your concerns about the guy isnt a good idea. I have had meny people, family and friends tell me being with the guy im with isnt a "safe situation" and all of that shit but if a girls in love and her mind is made up, saying anything about it will only make her resent you. go to the wedding, wish her luck and have fun. bridesmades are very very easy for the most part.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 03-02-2009, 05:12 PM

thx for the advice guyses. i'm going to be buying my first suit pretty soon, looks like...

osirus2020 · 03-02-2009, 05:34 PM

Pinstripes, top hat and a cane.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 03-02-2009, 08:00 PM

f that im thinking a nice black suit, black dress shirt, white tie. maybe some loafers... dunno how I feel about loafers though. the suit could have a very subtle dark grey pinstripe or something... maybe.

loafers = dress shoes where I'm from. btw. I don't mean those gay moccasin things.

**SageTree** · 03-02-2009, 08:07 PM

Check out second hand and thrift stores. There are so many nice well priced suits there, and you won't find anyone wearing one like it.....which can be good or bad, depending on what decade the suits are from....***pictures powder blue large lapel fluffy 1975 disco suit*** Unless that is your bag.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 03-02-2009, 09:04 PM

lol that would go over SO well I bet hahahaha

burnt_hiphophead · 03-03-2009, 03:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by grieves

maybe they'll bust him at the wedding...

trailer park boys-style. Shit would be hilarious.

**SageTree** · 03-03-2009, 09:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HYPERFUKBOT

lol that would go over SO well I bet hahahaha

That sorta sounded like I wanted you to get that blue suit, I really meant you should check for a nice 'normal, acceptable' suit.

I wouldn't want you to look the fool brother

Lloydy · 03-03-2009, 10:17 AM

grass him up and use the grand reward to buy drugs

tedkennedy · 03-03-2009, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by grieves

we are all branches, sometimes growing intertwined and seperate again, but we all remain part of the same tree, right now you are both branching out apart but for the good of the tree...

wow. profound

dont let it get you down hyper, theoretically there are more single woman out there that you can and will connect with. brooding over her wont bring her back, and its entirely possible shes not gone forever, just temporarily unavailable. and if her fiance is such a person as you describe it is likely she will be single again at some point and perhaps you still have a chance. but dont wait around.

Geeno · 03-03-2009, 10:38 PM

why does crimestoppers want him

al-Mu'akhkhir · 03-06-2009, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Geeno

why does crimestoppers want him

armed robbery x3, probably some other smaller stuff..

**SageTree** · 06-01-2009, 07:47 AM

Is this the one you are looking for brother bear?

al-Mu'akhkhir · 06-01-2009, 07:52 AM

yessir. thanks bub.

**SageTree** · 06-01-2009, 07:57 AM

no worries. I'm off to work. Catch up with you later. Take care man.

AnimalLover420 · 06-01-2009, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Grieves

Tell her your concerns as her friend in regards to her long term saftey and wellbeing, in a caring but aloof way..and be there for her day, and have fun with your life, hers will do as it should...

This is good advice. Very good. We love Grieves.

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Originally Posted by al-Mu'akhkhir

looks like this will be the first wedding I'll have ever attended... are bridesmaids exceptionally horny or what?

topic: anyways upon further introspection I dont think I have any sexually based feelings for her it's just... fuckign shit man I've never met someone who has understood me so well, nor have I ever met someone who I've understood so well (outside of her). I guess.. I dunno maybe I need more female friends instead of just lays.

gah.

I agree with this. Maybe she's the only one you feel this way about because she's also the only one you've every TRIED to build a friendship with. The cool thing about females is that yes we may be sensitive and emotional, but we make damn good friends if you can find one of us who isn't into gossiping, causing drama, and being high-maintenance like some girls. Sounds difficult, but they're out there.

And as far as the wedding, I do agree that you should go. However, I want to add something to that. You should ONLY go if you are 100% positive that you can attend without causing a scene. It may damage your friendship with her if you pulled a no-show, but it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad as if you made an ass of yourself at her wedding. If you do go, I probably wouldn't drink if I were you. I'm not trying to tell you what you should and shouldn't do, but I would just rather be on the safe side and I know all too well how alcohol is capable of making you spew out your feelings at the most inopportune times.

wnfakind · 06-01-2009, 12:27 PM

I know the feeling dude.. I told her that I would always be there for her but just recently I told her to lose my number and to pretty much fuck off after hearing she's living with some 35 year old coke head now and as she put it she is "using" him but not.. make's no fucking sence but I know her deal now and blow and partying is priority. I started to get my shit together but she bailed on me and alot of my good friend's for her new found druggy friends.. she changed over a period of two week's putting shit up her nose.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 06-01-2009, 12:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AnimalLover420

This is good advice. Very good. We love Grieves.

I agree with this. Maybe she's the only one you feel this way about because she's also the only one you've every TRIED to build a friendship with. The cool thing about females is that yes we may be sensitive and emotional, but we make damn good friends if you can find one of us who isn't into gossiping, causing drama, and being high-maintenance like some girls. Sounds difficult, but they're out there.

And as far as the wedding, I do agree that you should go. However, I want to add something to that. You should ONLY go if you are 100% positive that you can attend without causing a scene. It may damage your friendship with her if you pulled a no-show, but it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad as if you made an ass of yourself at her wedding. If you do go, I probably wouldn't drink if I were you. I'm not trying to tell you what you should and shouldn't do, but I would just rather be on the safe side and I know all too well how alcohol is capable of making you spew out your feelings at the most inopportune times.

i have a wicked terrible self consciousness, especially when I'm drunk. but yeah ladies do make nice, loyal friends.

03-02-2009, 11:07 AM	#21 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 22,612 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 11,486 Thanked 5,709 Times in 4,024 Posts	As weird as it sounds, going to the wedding might give you closure to the end of being with her, much like the closure of going to a funeral/viewing. You'll see and something further will click in your head, and it sounds like you are already slightly removed from her in an attracted way. I think it's okay to talk with her openly and non-judgementally about your concerns. But people will live there life and sometimes all we can do is know that they will be well taken care of, by people like yourself, should something bad happen. We can't always save people from things we think are mistakes. So approaching her with the mindset of caring for her and not worry about him, is how I'd focus that, remeber you are doubting her decision which is shakey ground, so make sure it's about caring for her and not against her or her choice, which is him. Go and have fun if you can. If you don't feel that good about it, you can leave, no? Good luck, you'll do the right thing. SageTree __________________ YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance. "We're not here to judge what's good from bad, But to do the things that are right." Last edited by SageTree; 03-02-2009 at 12:04 PM.

03-02-2009, 11:36 AM	#22 (permalink)
Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,294 Thanks: 1,080 Thanked 2,013 Times in 1,344 Posts	^^^ sage totally hit a vibe, sounds like closure is exactly what you need __________________ RIP Gov

03-02-2009, 05:12 PM	#24 (permalink)
al-Mu'akhkhir Vem Para Ficar Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in some pussy Posts: 3,265 Thanks: 500 Thanked 351 Times in 270 Posts	thx for the advice guyses. i'm going to be buying my first suit pretty soon, looks like... __________________

03-02-2009, 08:00 PM	#26 (permalink)
al-Mu'akhkhir Vem Para Ficar Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in some pussy Posts: 3,265 Thanks: 500 Thanked 351 Times in 270 Posts	f that im thinking a nice black suit, black dress shirt, white tie. maybe some loafers... dunno how I feel about loafers though. the suit could have a very subtle dark grey pinstripe or something... maybe. loafers = dress shoes where I'm from. btw. I don't mean those gay moccasin things. __________________

03-02-2009, 08:07 PM	#27 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 22,612 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 11,486 Thanked 5,709 Times in 4,024 Posts	Check out second hand and thrift stores. There are so many nice well priced suits there, and you won't find anyone wearing one like it.....which can be good or bad, depending on what decade the suits are from....*pictures powder blue large lapel fluffy 1975 disco suit* Unless that is your bag. __________________ YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance. "We're not here to judge what's good from bad, But to do the things that are right."

03-02-2009, 09:04 PM	#28 (permalink)
al-Mu'akhkhir Vem Para Ficar Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in some pussy Posts: 3,265 Thanks: 500 Thanked 351 Times in 270 Posts	lol that would go over SO well I bet hahahaha __________________

03-03-2009, 10:17 AM	#31 (permalink)
Lloydy KTF Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: England Posts: 11,692 Thanks: 469 Thanked 2,188 Times in 1,002 Posts	grass him up and use the grand reward to buy drugs __________________ Keep the red flag flying high

06-01-2009, 07:47 AM	#35 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 22,612 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 11,486 Thanked 5,709 Times in 4,024 Posts	Is this the one you are looking for brother bear? __________________ YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance. "We're not here to judge what's good from bad, But to do the things that are right."

06-01-2009, 07:52 AM	#36 (permalink)
al-Mu'akhkhir Vem Para Ficar Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in some pussy Posts: 3,265 Thanks: 500 Thanked 351 Times in 270 Posts	yessir. thanks bub. __________________

06-01-2009, 07:57 AM	#37 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 22,612 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 11,486 Thanked 5,709 Times in 4,024 Posts	no worries. I'm off to work. Catch up with you later. Take care man. __________________ YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance. "We're not here to judge what's good from bad, But to do the things that are right."

06-01-2009, 12:27 PM	#39 (permalink)
wnfakind YaHookan Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 43 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	I know the feeling dude.. I told her that I would always be there for her but just recently I told her to lose my number and to pretty much fuck off after hearing she's living with some 35 year old coke head now and as she put it she is "using" him but not.. make's no fucking sence but I know her deal now and blow and partying is priority. I started to get my shit together but she bailed on me and alot of my good friend's for her new found druggy friends.. she changed over a period of two week's putting shit up her nose.

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