al-Mu'akhkhir

... has informed me that she's getting married near the end of the summer. we are exceptionally close friends (we refer to each other as "brother" and "sister"). I thought I was over her and shiznat... but when she dropped this bomb on me today, I feel... terrible.

should I go (to the wedding)?

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Grieves

and hook up with her maid of honor...

be the friend you tell her you are, get the fucking/together idea out of your head and support your friend...

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Mafoo

yes, you say that you are close friends so you need to support your friend.
its probably gonna suck but shes obviously found someone so you should be happy for her and move on.
easier said than done though

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al-Mu'akhkhir

yeah that's kind of what my gut feeling was initially, but I mean shit... the dude she's getting married to has warrants out for his arrest, and she's a recovering addict. Like less than 2 years outta... wherever people go when they're addicted.

I mean like the local crimestoppers wants this guy so badly (I ain't gonna snitch on my homegirls fiance for 1k). I haven't even really talked to her since I found this out. Should I just stfu and let her go about her life or?

I don't for a second believe that we have any kind of chance at being together again... I just kind of have an inclination that this won't end well.

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Grieves

Tell her your concerns as her friend in regards to her long term saftey and wellbeing, in a caring but aloof way..and be there for her day, and have fun with your life, hers will do as it should...

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al-Mu'akhkhir

^ you are a wise, wise man.

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pacman

Take advantage of the open bar and hook up with as many brides maids as possible.

al-Mu'akhkhir

looks like this will be the first wedding I'll have ever attended... are bridesmaids exceptionally horny or what?

topic: anyways upon further introspection I dont think I have any sexually based feelings for her it's just... fuckign shit man I've never met someone who has understood me so well, nor have I ever met someone who I've understood so well (outside of her). I guess.. I dunno maybe I need more female friends instead of just lays.

gah.

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Grieves

yes you will get laid, remember this isn't the end of the friendship, just a new chapter in her life...


we are all branches, sometimes growing intertwined and seperate again, but we all remain part of the same tree, right now you are both branching out apart but for the good of the tree...

You are taking it the right way using it as perspective rather than regret, for this i applaud you...

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al-Mu'akhkhir

secondary thanks.

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Grieves

lulz editing posts deletes thanks

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al-Mu'akhkhir

the thanks system is a fickle mistress.

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burnt_hiphophead

Since you guys are still friends, I think that even if it is awkward for you to be at the wedding, it would be even more awkward being around her after if you didn't go. Just don't show up and get hammered and try and make a move on her or something, it's time to redirect your efforts mang.

Who knows maybe this dude gets arrested and it falls through haha. It fuckin sucks trying to get over someone, i still think about my ex all the time and we haven't had any contact in almost a year. I know it's over but it's hard to shake that feeling of what might have been.

And by the way, she DID invite you right? Does her fiance know about your history together? I remember an episode of how i met yo mama where they talked about how you should never invite an ex to your wedding... guess it's different if you stayed friends. good luck dude

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Neildo

similar thing has happened to me in the last week. i'm quitting the job we both work at because of it. i hate working there anyway, she's the only reason i stay there.

holy shit, i just realized that's why i left my last job too. women!! godddamnit.

edit: i don't know about you, but i can't even stand to be in the same room with her right now. especially can't stand seeing them together. actually hurts physically. damn i'm a big ol puss.

you should go if you're less of a pussy than me. you probably are. you're her friend, she'd be happy to see you there, i'm sure.

be wary of the open bar.

shai_hulud

s'up.

gl

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FineazPR

ABSOLUTELY!!..be the friend she knows you to be. Wish her well. and have a total BLAST at the wedding. If it was supposed to Happen between yous, it should have. She may be the one that got away in your world...most of us have at least one...

Mercury

lol the nigga is wanted by crimestoppers? Uh, elephant in the chapel! I guess you should go to the wedding, if not for the excuse to wear your best tall tee. And as far as your friend/ex-lover, it doesn't sound like you missed much of a boat.

And remember to bring a gift for fucks sake. I reccomend engraved crystal wine glasses.

Grieves

maybe they'll bust him at the wedding...

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crookedhatinator45

worrd, i feel you bot-effer.

you should go and be there for her. that's one of the biggest days of her life, you should be there and support her.

one of my ex's who is like my sister, best friend, moms, everything asked me that same question [if i'd go to her wedding is she got married one day and it wasn't me-- this is after we had broken up].. I told her it would be difficult, but i'd be there, because like i said, that's one of if not the biggest day of her life, and i'd want/need to be there for her. plus, you don't want to regret not going.

if you're close like bro and sis, you're like family. that girl that i was talking about always tells me whenever we get in fights or shit happens, "shit may happen, but family's family, and family sticks together."

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Mikey

just go to the wedding
abuse the open bar
and take pride in the fact you've boned the bride before the groom did

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