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Old 04-10-2009, 11:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Apology for bad things in my past

Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about or would it be better to just try and forget about it and just not bring it up since it seems these other people don't think about it at all. freakin confused
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Old 04-10-2009, 11:23 PM   #2 (permalink)
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just apologize. if it'll bring you peace of mind then thats better than obsessing and being miserable.
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Old 04-11-2009, 12:36 AM   #3 (permalink)
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and if you can't do it in person for one reason or another, do it in this thread. I know I've got my share of things I wish I could apologize for.
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Old 04-11-2009, 06:52 AM   #4 (permalink)
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If more good that bad comes from a situation then it should be carried out? Do you think this will bring more pain for you or them by bringing it up again? Sometimes it's just okay to Thank people for putting up with your stuff, and keep it positive, leaving things open to be talked about more if need be.

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Old 04-11-2009, 07:57 AM   #5 (permalink)
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It depends on who/what you're talking about.

If you stole grandma's wallet years ago, then yeah, apologize and do something helpful for her.

If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.

Apologies are words. Without actions to back them up, they are meaningless.
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Old 04-11-2009, 09:33 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about
maybe u can make a list like Earl Hicky on "My name is Earl"
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Old 04-11-2009, 10:36 AM   #7 (permalink)
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^ lol. I love that show

thank you for the advice people
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Old 04-11-2009, 12:30 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Out of curiousity,what kinda stuff did you do?
You don't have to answer if you don't want to.
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Old 08-09-2009, 03:21 PM   #9 (permalink)
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If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.
Well, it could be a bit of both...but I agree.
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Old 08-09-2009, 03:35 PM   #10 (permalink)
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nobodys got white sheets.

if youre feeling bad about something, chances are its YOU that needs to sort it out with YOURSELF. if you ditched a girl, or whatever(just an example), apologizing to her and saying how you feel bad is just going piss her off and probably dig up a bunch of shit that was probably better just being left to settle. i think its probably good that you feel bad, it shows that you've changed and realized you werent living in accordance with YOURSELF.
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Old 08-09-2009, 04:54 PM   #11 (permalink)
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why bump a 4month old thread?

back on topic, did u end up apologizing?
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Old 08-09-2009, 07:09 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I've had this happen to me, but only when I was really depressed. I passed out a bunch of cool wild-flowers I found at these peoples doors. I knew it probably would go unrecognized to them but it helped me.
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