Apology for bad things in my past

stretchyside · 04-10-2009, 11:21 PM

Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about or would it be better to just try and forget about it and just not bring it up since it seems these other people don't think about it at all. freakin confused

Xil · 04-10-2009, 11:23 PM

just apologize. if it'll bring you peace of mind then thats better than obsessing and being miserable.

slapstick · 04-11-2009, 12:36 AM

and if you can't do it in person for one reason or another, do it in this thread. I know I've got my share of things I wish I could apologize for.

**SageTree** · 04-11-2009, 06:52 AM

If more good that bad comes from a situation then it should be carried out? Do you think this will bring more pain for you or them by bringing it up again? Sometimes it's just okay to Thank people for putting up with your stuff, and keep it positive, leaving things open to be talked about more if need be.

Good luck

**mothernature** · 04-11-2009, 07:57 AM

It depends on who/what you're talking about.

If you stole grandma's wallet years ago, then yeah, apologize and do something helpful for her.

If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.

Apologies are words. Without actions to back them up, they are meaningless.

Peace seeker · 04-11-2009, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by stretchyside

Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about

maybe u can make a list like Earl Hicky on "My name is Earl"

stretchyside · 04-11-2009, 10:36 AM

^ lol. I love that show

thank you for the advice people

Mikey · 04-11-2009, 12:30 PM

Out of curiousity,what kinda stuff did you do?
You don't have to answer if you don't want to.

Ego Tripping · 08-09-2009, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mothernature

If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.

Well, it could be a bit of both...but I agree.

**Mafoo** · 08-09-2009, 03:35 PM

nobodys got white sheets.

if youre feeling bad about something, chances are its YOU that needs to sort it out with YOURSELF. if you ditched a girl, or whatever(just an example), apologizing to her and saying how you feel bad is just going piss her off and probably dig up a bunch of shit that was probably better just being left to settle. i think its probably good that you feel bad, it shows that you've changed and realized you werent living in accordance with YOURSELF.

Mikey · 08-09-2009, 04:54 PM

why bump a 4month old thread?

back on topic, did u end up apologizing?

Mydriasis · 08-09-2009, 07:09 PM

I've had this happen to me, but only when I was really depressed. I passed out a bunch of cool wild-flowers I found at these peoples doors. I knew it probably would go unrecognized to them but it helped me.

04-10-2009, 11:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
stretchyside Illbuythat4adollar Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: inhellwaitin4pizza Posts: 66 Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 5 Posts	Apology for bad things in my past Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago. How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about or would it be better to just try and forget about it and just not bring it up since it seems these other people don't think about it at all. freakin confused

04-10-2009, 11:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
Xil OD'ing on sobriety Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mizzura Posts: 3,334 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 1,036 Thanked 1,158 Times in 717 Posts	just apologize. if it'll bring you peace of mind then thats better than obsessing and being miserable. __________________ "we'll show these fascists what a couple of hillbillies can do"

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slapstick serial time killer Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: las cruces, New Mexico Posts: 332 Thanks: 75 Thanked 105 Times in 86 Posts	and if you can't do it in person for one reason or another, do it in this thread. I know I've got my share of things I wish I could apologize for. __________________ ^ nigga went to "dont know what the fuck is going on" college - GHM "well, they say that life is a joke. so try not to wait til the last moment to laugh at it." -verklingen

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SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	If more good that bad comes from a situation then it should be carried out? Do you think this will bring more pain for you or them by bringing it up again? Sometimes it's just okay to Thank people for putting up with your stuff, and keep it positive, leaving things open to be talked about more if need be. Good luck __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

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Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,443 Thanks: 1,144 Thanked 2,246 Times in 1,475 Posts	Out of curiousity,what kinda stuff did you do? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. __________________ RIP Gov Last edited by SageTree; 04-12-2009 at 09:40 AM. Reason: be nice now, we're here to help, not judge.

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mothernature ancientbongmaster Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kentucky Posts: 1,232 Thanks: 1,201 Thanked 809 Times in 487 Posts	It depends on who/what you're talking about. If you stole grandma's wallet years ago, then yeah, apologize and do something helpful for her. If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish. If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere. Apologies are words. Without actions to back them up, they are meaningless.

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stretchyside Illbuythat4adollar Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: inhellwaitin4pizza Posts: 66 Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 5 Posts	^ lol. I love that show thank you for the advice people

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Mafoo nice daze Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: the anguish of anticipated transformation Posts: 5,973 Thanks: 3,775 Thanked 2,651 Times in 1,697 Posts	nobodys got white sheets. if youre feeling bad about something, chances are its YOU that needs to sort it out with YOURSELF. if you ditched a girl, or whatever(just an example), apologizing to her and saying how you feel bad is just going piss her off and probably dig up a bunch of shit that was probably better just being left to settle. i think its probably good that you feel bad, it shows that you've changed and realized you werent living in accordance with YOURSELF. __________________ PLUR For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

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Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,443 Thanks: 1,144 Thanked 2,246 Times in 1,475 Posts	why bump a 4month old thread? back on topic, did u end up apologizing? __________________ RIP Gov

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Mydriasis Do Not Resuscitate Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,293 Thanks: 840 Thanked 431 Times in 298 Posts	I've had this happen to me, but only when I was really depressed. I passed out a bunch of cool wild-flowers I found at these peoples doors. I knew it probably would go unrecognized to them but it helped me. __________________ ۞ Last edited by Mydriasis; 08-09-2009 at 09:18 PM.

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