Be happy about yourself?

Canuck Wisdom · 04-11-2009, 06:41 AM

What do you guys do in order to be happy about yourself?

I've noticed that I havn't been happy about other people, and I've been blaming them or myself, but really, it stems from whether or not I am happy about myself. If I'm getting my work done, if I'm active and social and if I treat others well.

What do you guys think of when you ask, 'what do I do that makes me happy'?

**SageTree** · 04-11-2009, 06:56 AM

Taking time to clear my mind. Going for a long walk on the trail leaves me with all the silence I can dive into. Think about a time when you would have said 'yes, I am happy' and ponder what was happening then and try to apply that to today.

macenzy · 04-12-2009, 12:13 AM

if you go on a long walk like sage sugested but bring an ipod or other music player it's more relaxing and thought clearing but long-term does not give the same effect as a walk just to think about and ponder life.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 04-12-2009, 01:49 AM

reflecting upon what I've done in life. in particular i guess a few bad habits that i've kicked makes me really happpy about myself.

msicidron · 04-12-2009, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by macenzy

if you go on a long walk like sage sugested but bring an ipod or other music player it's more relaxing and thought clearing but long-term does not give the same effect as a walk just to think about and ponder life.

heh yes. i usually let mother nature provide the soundtrack for meditation, but at times when i just need to chill, stop thinking about whatever i might be stressing about, music definitely helps me relax.

**SageTree** · 04-12-2009, 09:42 AM

I think your both saying take some personal time to be only with yourself, no ?

**mothernature** · 04-12-2009, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SageTree

I think your both saying take some personal time to be only with yourself, no ?

I totally agree with this. I generally listen to up-beat music, extremely loud, and dance and sing around until I feel better.

Doing something for someone worse off than you, is also a good way to feel better about yourself.

drunken13astard · 04-12-2009, 05:03 PM

Me personally, I like doing some of my hobbies. Working out, Golf, anything to keep your mind occuppied. When I don't go out and stay shelled up in my house, that makes me feel unhappy ,and then I don't go out because I'm already down on myself.

You have to keep yourself busy and do things you like, that is how I stay happy, have an active lifestyle.

my_scatterheart · 04-12-2009, 06:09 PM

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

**SageTree** · 04-13-2009, 06:18 AM

Hope you're feeling okay today man.

maszac · 04-14-2009, 07:14 AM

being around people that i can make smile and that can make me smile.

and a walk is nice, of course.

thinking to myself what i want and then doing it.

for example, getting my G.E.D.

today i have the first orientation and afterwords i am sure i'll be happy with myself.

Mikey · 04-14-2009, 07:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

Wow, that used to be me, the always smiling always glowing try to give it your best shot no matter what! attitude.
And now for some reason I'm a bitter ass.
I think I'll try to be nicer again.
Thanks for the inspiration.

Charley Phogg · 04-14-2009, 10:22 AM

Helping out my family, paying bills on time, walking in the woods, throwing a happy and nonconfrontational party, and taking a shit all make me happy about myself.
Feeding my cats, as well.
Finishing homework assignments.
Wearing cool sunglasses.

Lloydy · 04-14-2009, 11:01 AM

I watch jeremy kyle

verklingen · 04-14-2009, 11:31 AM

i try to do things that make me feel happy about myself. i'm always looking at the things i do, and i try to consider how they may be affecting my experience of life and my sense of self. i consider myself extremely lucky to have a steady job and a family, as i've found both of these are extremely rewarding toward that end. so i guess it would boil down to keeping occupied, for me.

The SARS Volta · 04-14-2009, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

I tried that and it felt like I was masking. Letting it out and venting works better for me...but it's not quite a guarantee.

osirus2020 · 04-14-2009, 02:12 PM

Jerking off sometimes helps.

my_scatterheart · 04-14-2009, 02:15 PM

@ sars, of course it's gotta be from the heart m'love. But there's definitely still the times where you gotta just be wading through it, you're right about that

José · 04-14-2009, 02:23 PM

I really value my time alone, but I also like to hang out with people I like to be around.

I love to ride my bike and get lost in the mountains, and once you get up them, you get to go down! It's weird, if you bike up a mountain, the way down almost seams longer because the way up your working so hard your mind is all over and time just flys. Computer games, going on a walk for some arizona ice tea. go to bed early, anything that pleases me.

shai_hulud · 04-14-2009, 02:32 PM

I sodomize sheep

04-11-2009, 06:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	Taking time to clear my mind. Going for a long walk on the trail leaves me with all the silence I can dive into. Think about a time when you would have said 'yes, I am happy' and ponder what was happening then and try to apply that to today. __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

04-12-2009, 01:49 AM	#4 (permalink)
al-Mu'akhkhir Vem Para Ficar Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in some pussy Posts: 3,203 Thanks: 500 Thanked 351 Times in 270 Posts	reflecting upon what I've done in life. in particular i guess a few bad habits that i've kicked makes me really happpy about myself. __________________

04-12-2009, 09:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	I think your both saying take some personal time to be only with yourself, no ? __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

04-12-2009, 05:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
drunken13astard Just call me Asshole Join Date: May 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 486 Thanks: 28 Thanked 23 Times in 16 Posts	Me personally, I like doing some of my hobbies. Working out, Golf, anything to keep your mind occuppied. When I don't go out and stay shelled up in my house, that makes me feel unhappy ,and then I don't go out because I'm already down on myself. You have to keep yourself busy and do things you like, that is how I stay happy, have an active lifestyle. __________________ Champagne for my real friends, and real pain for my sham friends

04-12-2009, 06:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
my_scatterheart Today, I am alive. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 3,565 Thanks: 1,486 Thanked 3,324 Times in 1,870 Posts	Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying. Smiling when I don't feel like smiling. Making light of the heaviest of situations. Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it. Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense. I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset. __________________ Be mindful even if your mind is full. -J. De La Vega

04-12-2009, 12:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
macenzy YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 18 Thanks: 4 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	if you go on a long walk like sage sugested but bring an ipod or other music player it's more relaxing and thought clearing but long-term does not give the same effect as a walk just to think about and ponder life.

04-13-2009, 06:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	Hope you're feeling okay today man. __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

04-14-2009, 07:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
maszac toast Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: kc Posts: 915 Thanks: 1,458 Thanked 266 Times in 162 Posts	being around people that i can make smile and that can make me smile. and a walk is nice, of course. thinking to myself what i want and then doing it. for example, getting my G.E.D. today i have the first orientation and afterwords i am sure i'll be happy with myself.

04-14-2009, 10:22 AM	#13 (permalink)
Charley Phogg A Devious Degenerate Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Crab Nebula Posts: 455 Thanks: 25 Thanked 30 Times in 27 Posts	Helping out my family, paying bills on time, walking in the woods, throwing a happy and nonconfrontational party, and taking a shit all make me happy about myself. Feeding my cats, as well. Finishing homework assignments. Wearing cool sunglasses. __________________ If you are the big tree... We are the small axe

04-14-2009, 11:01 AM	#14 (permalink)
Lloydy KTF Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: England Posts: 11,974 Thanks: 533 Thanked 2,477 Times in 1,138 Posts	I watch jeremy kyle __________________ Keep the red flag flying high

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verklingen Radical Dreamer Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: texas Posts: 8,005 Thanks: 811 Thanked 1,491 Times in 946 Posts	i try to do things that make me feel happy about myself. i'm always looking at the things i do, and i try to consider how they may be affecting my experience of life and my sense of self. i consider myself extremely lucky to have a steady job and a family, as i've found both of these are extremely rewarding toward that end. so i guess it would boil down to keeping occupied, for me. __________________ “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” rip matt

04-14-2009, 02:15 PM	#18 (permalink)
my_scatterheart Today, I am alive. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 3,565 Thanks: 1,486 Thanked 3,324 Times in 1,870 Posts	@ sars, of course it's gotta be from the heart m'love. But there's definitely still the times where you gotta just be wading through it, you're right about that __________________ Be mindful even if your mind is full. -J. De La Vega

04-14-2009, 02:23 PM	#19 (permalink)
José YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,363 Thanks: 62 Thanked 147 Times in 72 Posts	I really value my time alone, but I also like to hang out with people I like to be around. I love to ride my bike and get lost in the mountains, and once you get up them, you get to go down! It's weird, if you bike up a mountain, the way down almost seams longer because the way up your working so hard your mind is all over and time just flys. Computer games, going on a walk for some arizona ice tea. go to bed early, anything that pleases me.

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shai_hulud Om nom Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: ab, ca Posts: 2,161 Thanks: 440 Thanked 600 Times in 335 Posts	I sodomize sheep __________________ "There are only three useless things in this world. Nuns' nipples, bishops' balls and an employer's praise without a raise."

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