shelbert008

so I was talking to my boyfriend (possibly soon to be ex) today and everything was going pretty normal, we were talking about this hookah bar that he went to last night. Then pretty much out of nowhere he texts me and tells me that he asked out this chick on Thursday and she said yes but then he caught her kissing some other dude. Then he sent me another text saying that he didn't really care because she was "out of his age limit". What the fuck? All I could say was "why the hell are you telling me this". Man, I'm still pretty irritated by it. He was just like "well I felt like I needed to be honest with you", which I certainly appreciate, but still. It just really pisses me off, this guy was all like "I really like you and I just want to be with you, will you go steady with me and be my girlfriend" and yet he's going around probably using the exact same line. It's like he doesn't understand that I didn't have to be faithful to him, there were plenty of guys continuing to go after me after I had started dating him. I don't know, I'm just aggravated at the moment. I don't understand why I keep ending up with guys like this, my last boyfriend is starting to look pretty good at the moment.

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Canuck Wisdom

Well, good for you for not doing what he has done for you. Being forgiving is a virtue but if he doesn't care about you enough to not see other girls, and especially if you have options, you can't invest as much emotion in him as you may want to.

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Grieves

Um...he's not your boyfriend if he's asking other chicks out...

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clive

^lol yeah. *shakes head*

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shelbert008

yeah you're probably right. I don't really know. I thought he was a least slightly serious when he introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend, but whatever.

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badgoalie85

try being single for a year. a whole year.

try it, you might like it.

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slapstick

actually, he's right. being single leaves a lot of possibilities open, and less chance of getting hurt by pouring your all into somebody who's going to hurt you in the end.
that, and your boyfriend sounds like a dick.

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my_scatterheart

Girl, seriously?
I hope you know deep down that this dude isn't worth your fucking time if he's doin this shit.
Being alone is better than being treated like shit.
Make it Ex-boyfriend, please.

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Mafoo

soo you have 2 options.
1 go berzerk on him, let your emotions pour out and cuss this clown out

or

you can let him think everythings cool and get him to buy you some stuff, then go berzerk and dump him.

thats how i see it

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burnt_hiphophead

you know i've never really appreciated why girls seem to hate having text conversations until reading that post. what was that dude thinking?

I'd like to list my only reasons that make sense to tell a girl i was seeing something like that (terribly confusing sentence but bear with me):
- blackout drunk
- want her to break up with me so i didn't feel guilty about breaking up with her/hooking up with someone else
- just a total douchebag

My uneducated guess in this case is a combination of #'s 2 and 3 above. I don't know if you have to completely break it off, but I think you should be looking around at other people, since he is obviously and openly doing just that.

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myxomatosis

Dtmfa.

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badgoalie85

you should try fucking his best friend, actually.

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burnt_hiphophead

and then text him to give him your comparison between the two

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shelbert008

I actually went single for a while a few years ago. I started dating again my senior year of high school, and I was single for a little longer than a year. I had just quit using coke and was trying to get my life turned around and all the guys I had been with during that time were only harming me, and really just fucking with my mentality. I felt like I needed to ditch them for a while to just try and figure myself out. I didn't really enjoy it very much lol, I can't help it, I just really like being physical and you really need a guy for that. I definitely learned to not get emotionally attached to guys, but I'm not sure whether or not that's actually hindering me.

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awwsuga23

yeah i agree that he is not your boyfriend if he asked her out. and i cant understand why he even told you that. i think you should talk to him about "defining" your relationship somehow. does he want to continue seeing other people or is he looking for an exclusive thing? if you want to date just him and he doesnt want that, you need to just break it off cuz you will end up hurt

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my_scatterheart

No, sorry. Dude shouldn't get a second chance. Period.

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myxomatosis

Yeah if you were legitimately "going steady" as you put it, that behavior is completely unacceptable and he shouldn't get another chance or even a talk.

In an effort to be more clear about DTMFA.

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oh sometimes the blues is just a passing bird
and why can't that always be
tossing aside from your birches crown
just enough dark to see
how you're the light over me

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slapstick

I'm saving that option to do to my ex girlfriend. she tells me every time we hook up how bad her boyfriend is.

carry on.

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my_scatterheart

^Great set of morals ya got there, pal

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slapstick

thanks. It took a year of her hurting me and fucking me over every chance she got to hone them.

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