You guys won't believe this shit...

vanilla · 11-04-2009, 08:33 PM

So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.

She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.

Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.

I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ?

crookedhatinator45 · 11-04-2009, 08:35 PM

say exactly what you just said to us basically.

BibleGuy · 11-04-2009, 08:44 PM

^ I agree. Be kind, but honest. Marriage is for people in harmony.

Metta

vanilla · 11-04-2009, 08:54 PM

I think im gonna see how long i can fake this for

FoTwenny · 11-04-2009, 09:16 PM

Pics so we can judge whether she's worth the hassle or not?

**Mafoo** · 11-04-2009, 09:37 PM

been through that. not the explicit mentioning of marriage but thats because i got out before that point. you gotta realize that your lifestyles probably arent compatible, that makes for an easy break up IMO

Tricto · 11-04-2009, 09:41 PM

Tell her to quit pretending we live in the dark ages

crookedhatinator45 · 11-04-2009, 09:45 PM

^ aka break-up.

Sugar420 · 11-04-2009, 10:12 PM

why not just join their church? whats the big deal?

Mercury · 11-05-2009, 01:58 AM

how about you give it another 3 years? like a rational human being.

badgoalie85 · 11-05-2009, 04:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vanilla

So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.

She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.

Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.

I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ?

seems to me like you already know what to do.

Flamingnun · 11-05-2009, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by vanilla

she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.

abort, abort!

verklingen · 11-05-2009, 06:49 AM

convert religions? what are you now?

Tricto · 11-05-2009, 07:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by v3d4

why not just join their church? whats the big deal?

Because she's trying to coerce him into staying with her through spirituality. Sounds wrong to me.

http://www.mcpeepants.com/sounds/024...uperspore4.mp3

11-05-2009, 09:46 AM

Raw dog and bail

Just tell her you don't feel comfortable doing things this way. Support her beliefs and suggest a compromise. Maybe go to church with her to let her and her parents know that you do truly care about her and to give yourself a chance to truly get a feel for what it is she's asking you to do and take it from there.

**SageTree** · 11-05-2009, 10:46 AM

Yea what doesn't she want you to convert to? And does it totally defy your beliefs?

But my true thoughts are:

WHY? Why or what does she want from you doing this?

If you know it'd be half hearted then you should say that to her, why she'd want a half hearted commitment to religion, because that half hearted religious 'journey', might ultimately lead to a half hearted feeling about the whole relationship rather than just respecting your opinions on the matter. Which may be somewhere in the middle of yes and no.

A lot of people sit through church each week, and go about their lives otherwise.

On the other hand if she is really that great, maybe you'd enjoy seeing a part of her life that is important to you.

If she wants you to convert for her parents sake, or to make things easier. I don't know man. Once the ball is rolling on a story, you have to keep it going, and that is tough.

Good luck man, maybe just have fun while you can and it wasn't the right time.

Much love,
Sage

Qui-Bong Jinn · 11-05-2009, 01:22 PM

You've been with her 5 weeks, get rid of her, and find some new pussy. Personally, if a girl cant accept me how I am, then I get rid of her, I dont put up with bullshit like that. And the whole marriage thing is a huge redflag of clingyness, I'd get out before its to late.

Lloydy · 11-05-2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Flamingnun

abort, abort!

funniest post ive seen in a long time

Lloydy · 11-05-2009, 01:35 PM

also why the fuck do these people feel the need to convert people, theyre like the fucking borg or something

**AlteredStateGrl** · 11-05-2009, 01:48 PM

get the fuuuuuck outta there.

11-04-2009, 08:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
vanilla the cunning linguist Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: 514 Posts: 5,349 Thanks: 11 Thanked 137 Times in 92 Posts	You guys won't believe this shit... So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple. She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff. Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her. I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ? __________________

11-04-2009, 08:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
vanilla the cunning linguist Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: 514 Posts: 5,349 Thanks: 11 Thanked 137 Times in 92 Posts	I think im gonna see how long i can fake this for __________________

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FoTwenny Eats laughs Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Middle Earth/Narnia Posts: 2,413 Thanks: 1 Thanked 407 Times in 164 Posts	Pics so we can judge whether she's worth the hassle or not? __________________ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ Check it __________________ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/ _/

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Mafoo nice daze Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: the anguish of anticipated transformation Posts: 5,973 Thanks: 3,775 Thanked 2,648 Times in 1,697 Posts	been through that. not the explicit mentioning of marriage but thats because i got out before that point. you gotta realize that your lifestyles probably arent compatible, that makes for an easy break up IMO __________________ PLUR For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

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Tricto updating Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 435 Thanks: 184 Thanked 79 Times in 59 Posts	Tell her to quit pretending we live in the dark ages __________________ Human rights went on vacation Money took over a long time ago... Cuando la historia no se puede escribir con la pluma, se escribe con el fusil

11-04-2009, 08:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
BibleGuy YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 328 Thanks: 137 Thanked 136 Times in 85 Posts	^ I agree. Be kind, but honest. Marriage is for people in harmony. Metta

11-04-2009, 10:12 PM	#9 (permalink)
Sugar420 Freedom Bird Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 6,132 Thanks: 39 Thanked 176 Times in 728 Posts	why not just join their church? whats the big deal?

11-05-2009, 01:58 AM	#10 (permalink)
Mercury Special Delivery Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The States Posts: 8,150 Thanks: 294 Thanked 801 Times in 539 Posts	how about you give it another 3 years? like a rational human being.

11-05-2009, 06:49 AM	#13 (permalink)
verklingen Radical Dreamer Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: texas Posts: 8,005 Thanks: 811 Thanked 1,491 Times in 946 Posts	convert religions? what are you now? __________________ “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” rip matt

11-05-2009, 09:46 AM	#15 (permalink)
Stoney Guest Posts: n/a	Raw dog and bail Just tell her you don't feel comfortable doing things this way. Support her beliefs and suggest a compromise. Maybe go to church with her to let her and her parents know that you do truly care about her and to give yourself a chance to truly get a feel for what it is she's asking you to do and take it from there.

11-05-2009, 10:46 AM	#16 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	Yea what doesn't she want you to convert to? And does it totally defy your beliefs? But my true thoughts are: WHY? Why or what does she want from you doing this? If you know it'd be half hearted then you should say that to her, why she'd want a half hearted commitment to religion, because that half hearted religious 'journey', might ultimately lead to a half hearted feeling about the whole relationship rather than just respecting your opinions on the matter. Which may be somewhere in the middle of yes and no. A lot of people sit through church each week, and go about their lives otherwise. On the other hand if she is really that great, maybe you'd enjoy seeing a part of her life that is important to you. If she wants you to convert for her parents sake, or to make things easier. I don't know man. Once the ball is rolling on a story, you have to keep it going, and that is tough. Good luck man, maybe just have fun while you can and it wasn't the right time. Much love, Sage __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

11-05-2009, 01:22 PM	#17 (permalink)
Qui-Bong Jinn Jedi High Council Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kingston, Ontario Posts: 2,121 Thanks: 905 Thanked 496 Times in 368 Posts	You've been with her 5 weeks, get rid of her, and find some new pussy. Personally, if a girl cant accept me how I am, then I get rid of her, I dont put up with bullshit like that. And the whole marriage thing is a huge redflag of clingyness, I'd get out before its to late.

11-05-2009, 01:35 PM	#19 (permalink)
Lloydy KTF Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: England Posts: 11,971 Thanks: 533 Thanked 2,476 Times in 1,138 Posts	also why the fuck do these people feel the need to convert people, theyre like the fucking borg or something __________________ Keep the red flag flying high

11-05-2009, 01:48 PM	#20 (permalink)
AlteredStateGrl (òÓ,)_\,,/ Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 10,426 Thanks: 2,181 Thanked 1,823 Times in 1,115 Posts	get the fuuuuuck outta there. __________________ The sweetest kittens have the sharpest claws.

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