Kompressor

employment contract has expired, currently looking for months even with a masters'.

Currently living with two grad students, whom have no student loans to pay off and though they won't say it, obviously look down on me for currently being unemployed. They bitch at me for not going to bars with them when i need to conserve cash and do most of the grocery shopping and housekeeping even though i'm living off my savings. I do it cuz i know how hard school can be and i try to ease their burdens.

No girl, and also looked down upon for not having one despite not being in uni anymore. It's fine by me, but everyone I talk to seems to think i need to hook up and it'll be just as easy as when in college. Most girls i meet [through these guys] are too damn boring/naive for me anyway.

I've stepped on 5 continents, so i'd like to think i have a pretty accurate worldview, which no one really gives a damn about that 'cept me.

Sis is bi-polar/depressed, which the latter i think may be happening to me, but honestly i'm happy with myself if i didn't have other people questioning who i am.

Yahooka seems to be the last bastion of sanity for me, and given that it sounds pretty sad.

What the fuck am i supposed to do...

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Roach

look on the bright side Komp...

at least you aren't me.

Stoney

Wow hun sorry to hear you're in a rut. You are an extremely intelligent guy and I'm sure you will find work soon. And honestly it does sound like a girl in your life would be a good thing but then again a boring one is so not worth your time. Keep your chin up and things will work out I'm sure

my_scatterheart

Keep on movin.
You're trying, right? As long as you keep trying, THAT's what matters, imo.
It's when you stop that it all becomes a problem.

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SageTree

I lovingly say fuck em.

Jobs come and go. What you are doing for your hypocritical room mates should be acknowledged. You don't have $ so you don't spend $. This is sound reasoning. (Apparently they can't teach them everything in school ) And should get off your back about not drinking in bars.

Bring a little home and get to know a good one...that is what they should do.

Partner: This is major personal territory. And highly 'fuck em' related. You are THE only one who can know when it's right and who is right for you. Tell them you don't like the ladies they bring you, and why is it so important to them.

That is really the who thing about 'fuck em'...compassionatel y transfer the question to them, put the heat on them. Why is your life's details so important to them? Maybe they just want you to be happy in their terms. But, shift the focus, be in power if you are feeling in control in these areas.

These are what I think are in your realm of patience. Getting the job, coping with an ill family member and finding a group of people who want to hear your stories.

These type of things will ebb and flow throughout your life always.

"Every authentic life has times of not knowing"...is actually just a quote my wife read me. As I was sitting here thinking of what to say. How's that for an omen?

I think YaHooka is, IRL, and it's not so sad we are what you feel you are left with. We are people sitting here and caring about ya' and don't you forget it But if it's not jiving with what you'd hoped for, I don't take that personally and know where you are coming from.

Life is a process and the journey is the destination...no matter which continent you're on.

Thanks for sharing you life with us Komp. Keep us posted and take care.

SageTree

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Mafoo

i feel for you. whenever im out of a job i always start to feel kind of baseless. its irritating because i hate to think that my job is part of what i use to define my place in the world.

young men have it toughest. once we turn 18 were legal adults but we still dont really have a spot in society and no real security, i think its pretty normal to feel like youre feeling. i can definitely relate

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badgoalie85

this is just friendly advice, but the very first thing is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. if someone is looking down on you just because you don't have a job, then FUCK THEM who gives a shit what they think. as long as you're comfortable with yourself and who you are it really doesn't matter what others think. that said, if you're not happy with your situation, do somethin about it, mang. move out or find a day job or something while you search for a job you really want.

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José

hey man, don't fucking buy them groceries with your own money. if they don't have any loans to pay off form school that most likely means their parents paid for it. if they don't have any respect for you, why do you do their grocery shopping for them? that's just crazy man.. unless they could end up paying your rent sooner or later, I don't think you should put 1cent into their mouths.

Mercury

I've been depressed lately too. I just watch movies and listen to music all day long.

SageTree

Why is it important for you to share or be heard on this subject? Only you can answer that, but I had some thoughts about this. I would like to blabber about for a minute.

I think perhaps you could look for a venue of people who WILL be interested in these stories.

Kids love hearing stories as do old folks. Local schools or colleges might always be looking for someone to talk on a country or topic relevant to your experience.

Your travels mean something to you, and that is obviously valid in what you feel you have to offer the world. Work on a place to share them where they will be appreciated.

Another thought was perhaps explain the bar thing to the room mates and see if they'll bring some drinks home to talk with you sometime. I'm sure they don't have bad intentions for you.

And I apologize for the "fuck 'em", but I don't like it when people pick on people I like. And I think you're a good one Komp, you have been a crucial friend in my life.

All the good things to you,
SageTree

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Kompressor

A job is however something that is the goal of specialized schooling. Even if you stay in the realm of academia, it's publish or perish. I don't see why it has to be irritating if you're contributing as your place in the world.

I value them because i'm surrounded by pretentious college punks and adults who think they can get a grasp of a whole continent/culture based on what they've read. Pretty much the A&P forum here is my conversational life.

I also realize how rare it is to be able to have seen so much, which yes I value people's experiences rather than their 'book' knowledge. Traveling/trying to know the world is my passion.

Ah, if only life was so simple and instant.

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SageTree

People don't want to hear you when you talk, or don't you feel it your aim to help them know more? Is your passion of knowing more for you, them or both?

I can agree with you on YaHooka being a venue to find peers to speak with. It's distilled life here, more likelihood of finding a similar mind. And that stinks to not be able to connect with people face to face.

What does a perfect group of conversationalists look like to you? Where are you sitting? What are you drinking? What is the energy and feel there?

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badgoalie85

sounds to me like you have some work to do regarding getting off of your high horse too. do you really think your worldview is that much more valuable or correct than that of these punk kids or pretentious adults? why do you let them bother you so much?

life is complicated but it can seem a lot moreso complicated if you make it so.

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toastyroach

[QUOTE=Kompressor;518 49372]No girl, and also looked down upon for not having one despite not being in uni anymore. It's fine by me, but everyone I talk to seems to think i need to hook up and it'll be just as easy as when in college. Most girls i meet [through these guys] are too damn boring/naive for me anyway.[\QUOTE]

first off... why the hell are you pying for the groceries when they are out partying at bars?? sounds like a scam and you're getting taken advantage of dude... fuck them for looking down on you especially if that's the case

no girl?? who the hell 'needs' a girlfriend.. thats a sad existance... get your nut off as much and as long as you can... and who cares if they are boring/naive, of cource they are, they're good looking females, just tell them what they want to hear and bust a load on their titties

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Mydriasis

Fuck companions. Love them when you have them, but when they leave you to rot, it's time to part ways.

Kompressor, you can do anything you want. When you ask "What am I supposed to do", your already doing it. For whatever reason this happened, for better or worse, take it as a blessing. Now you can move freely and find your next step.

I believe you are on a path, and no path is paved, when your the first to carve it .

I'm sorry everything piled up on you at once. I know the pain. Just remember to keep your faith and to follow the signs.

Edit - Worst comes to worst, Mydriasis love you.

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