ChiefBongWater

So i just broke up with my gf of 1 and 1/2 yrs tonight. Shit is this hard. We were like each others best friends, we loved each other. But recently ive felt like ive been kinda trapped and just needed to be on my own. I feel like such an ass though cause she had no idea this was coming.

The relationship started out great. After a while though up until recently we have been getting into really stupid arguments over pointless stuff. She started to always irritate me and i would get mad real easily.... but overall we were happy. She has been rather clingy though, which may be why i feel like a relationship just isnt for me right now. (ill be 20 in july) im not sure i want anything long term at the moment. I feel like the biggest asshole though for breaking her heart and just springing this on her, and she doesnt understand why Im doing this. Ive never had this much feeling of regret after ending it with someone. I do still love this girl, but something inside me is saying that i need something different

well i guess that ends my rant... Havent really talked to anyone about this yet. Thanks for reading all this tho

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Mafoo

been through the same kinda stuff, i think its natural to wonder whats out there and you have to go with how you feel, definitely

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For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

SageTree

I'm sorry for your confusion/frustration/loss. It's natural to wonder and time will tell if you did the right thing.

You followed your heart in and you followed it out, trust yourself and give it space to breath again.

I did the same thing in 2002. I was with a great girl from 18 to 20. We had good times and it sounds a lot like what you are describing in the good and the bad. One day I just said 'that's it' and broke it off. Initially we tried to stay in contract, but that was without success.

A few weeks later I introduced a friendship w/ benefits to a coworker, which lasted for several months, until she decided to get more serious with a guy. I spent the next 4 months nearly in complete solitude minus the time I went to work. I really got to know myself and how I felt about things. I was 2000 miles from my family friends or anything I knew more than just the short time I lived in Iowa. Eventually I moved back to my home state of PA.

I spent that summer having fun and casually spent time with some female friends. Close to Labour Day I got an email from a friends older sister, just saying hello and welcome back to the state. She said she had absolutely no motive, she is 4 years and 4 months older. I was her baby sisters age!

We planned a trip to DE to see a friend off to Iraq.

When I got to her front door and it swung open, my life was never the same. I can't describe it, but I somehow knew this was my long lost love. Things went fast and we both were surprised and unsure, although madly in love. Despite her extreme doubt of me being younger.

A year later I moved it and a year later we married.

What I learned later is the my Wife has burned a letter charged with herbs asking the Universe to send her a partner, the same day I moved from Iowa!

What I'm saying to you my friend, is that sometimes in the deepest pits of our life we find the perfect gems to shine light around us and beautify our lives. Had I not taken a risk I would not have met my Wife, who with out elaborating has been my consort in every way and I couldn't imagine more bliss.

This Sept will be out 8th year together, 6th in marriage and it's getting better every day.

And it will get better for you as well, I'm sure of it. Keep following your heart, it shall not steer you wrong.

Blessings be upon you,
SageTree

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Mydriasis

Aw shit man I feel for yea. Break ups are always rough. Like Sage says though if something is telling you, you need this time off or the final split, listen.

Hell though we're still young ya know, plenty of fishes in the pond!

I know what you mean though a lot of longer relationships just turn into garbage cuz things get either boring or you get a tolerance to it all(kinda like drugs). And when drugs get bad it takes a personal revelation or new drugs, haha.

But yea dude I wish ya the best man, I'm recently trying to get out on the dating market again(been a few years for me lol), so if I find some cool chicks or something I could help get ya in the mix.

Take care brother.

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ChiefBongWater

Thanks alot guys, this is exactly what i needed to start feeling better. im slowly gettin there but its still tough. Sage tree that is a crazzy story man! You truly are a lucky guy but im sure you know that

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SageTree

Blessed

There aren't coincidences in my opinion.

Hoping you meet the right set of phenomena too brother.

You deserve it.

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