generic 'my family is fucked up' thread

[kitch]

my mom's got borderline personality disorder, which is a pain in the ass to deal with in the best of times. About a year and a half ago my uncle got cancer and she ended up writing him a letter about how her old dog was gonna bite him when he got to heaven and some other random BS, which of course pissed that whole side of my family off til they didn't wanna see her. My dad and my sister went down one day to see my uncle without telling my mom, and she just showed up, so my grandfather ended up screaming at her to get out because they didn't want her to know my dad and sister were here.

Well my uncle passed away and my aunt told my mom that there wasn't gonna be a funeral, but invited us. Everything went ok with that.

Since then me and my sister have been kind of sneaking down to visit my grandparents without telling my mom. My grandmother just passed away last weekend and my grandfather told my mom it would take like 2-3 weeks to get the ashes back, which isn't true. I've been waiting to hear from him about when the real funeral is, but it's just such a pain in the ass always having to sneak around behind my mom's back.

Anyways, just wanted to vent.

[my_scatterheart]

Sounds like the rest of your family need to fucking grow up. Seriously, she may have been a shit, but they need to work with her, not just shut her off and be dicks about everything. Shit like that just makes her ailment spike.

[myxomatosis]

Totally fucked up to not let her in on the funerals. I understand she's a pain in the ass and there's a fair chance she'd disrupt the funerals but eh.

[José]

Sucks man, you're definitely doing the right thing though.

[msicidron]

yeah man every family has crazy pain in the asses,,, shits hard

[Mercury]

I don't think you've given us enough of a sense of exactly how far gone your mom is.

Liiike, does she just blab a lot of nonsense, say, 50-70 percent of the time?

Or..

Is she like one wrong look away from attacking people with a knife?

I don't quite understand the reality of this "boarderline personality disorder"

[The Rev]

My mom was nuts, too. Up until a few months before she died, she was constantly (and insistently) going on about people sneaking into her house and doctoring up photos of her and stuff. My dad was too cowardly to confront her, so we were stuck with this situation for like 15-20 years.

When we were little, it wasn't quite as bad, but she could be really volitile, and it really fucked with your head. Like being cool one minute, then hurling accusations the next. Trust me when I say, neuroticism and high intelligence are a lousy mix in a parent. Even my shrink said she probably shouldn't have had kids. I'm still working out the mindfucking to this day.



The Rev

I don't know what to say.

[wellfleation]

I was one of those underachievers while in high school. I just smoked pot every day and ran with the party crowd. My mother (single but her parents gave her EVERYTHING, including a house on Cape Cod) just had low expectations for me and it was a self-fulfilling prophecy. I barely graduated high school mainly due to the fact I missed 42 school days my senior year. (It was the 1st year my HS implemented an attendance policy.) When I told my mother I was going to college at age 23 she did not expect me to graduate. I did not only graduate but did so in the top 15% of my class and was accepted by The Golden Key National Honor’s Society – graduated Magna Cum Laude. I’m not bragging, just showing an aspect of my f-up family.

As a result, as well as other things, I really do not like my mother. I love her but do not like her. My sister is just a drama queen who loves to distort things and cause drama. Pathetic! Then when I bring up how lucky my mother was (living rent free on her mother's dime), she gets al defensive even though my stepfather either physically, or much more, verbally abused me, yet she chose him over us (my sister and I). The older I get the better I understand how f-up my upbringing was.

[my_scatterheart]

Originally Posted by wellfleation

Magna Cum Laude

[Xil]

Originally Posted by myxomatosis

Totally fucked up to not let her in on the funerals. I understand she's a pain in the ass and there's a fair chance she'd disrupt the funerals but eh.

Its a balance between trying to include someone and having an important event turn to shit.

you just gotta weigh the cost/benefit, realistically wouldnt call it totally fucked up

[wellfleation]

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

Um, are you laughing because the word Cum is in there in a Bevis & Butthead kinda a way? Or you are disputing my story? Please do tell.

[bubbler211]

wow where do i start? he hehe
my mom is on the valium,zanax,and 10 other things band wagon
my sis well she is on a ummmm natural high
me well about the worst thing i do now is to take some ultram now and then
my one saving grace is my wife! Love you my baby!!

HEY OBAMA LET US MEDICATE OURSELVES,WE DONT NEED MORE NARCOTICS!!

[my_scatterheart]

Originally Posted by wellfleation

Um, are you laughing because the word Cum is in there in a Bevis & Butthead kinda a way? Or you are disputing my story? Please do tell.

former

My family is fairly decent now..we don't fight anymore.

My dad hit my mom one night infront of me when we were all drinking, so I punched his head in, then kicked him out the door.

Oh yes, we all have fucked up family stories now don't we.

[kitch]

my grandfather and my mom have been fighting on the phone every day for like a week now, at least they're talking but I have to hear about it from both of them. Anyway my mom is pretty much guaranteed to have a big screaming scene if she goes to the interment, so I dunno if it's the best idea. I'm just trying not to think about all of it.

toxic environment for you.