so theres this girl... - Page 2

yo. · 12-01-2010, 01:51 PM

my advice is to not go with your feelings, being some one who is shy to pick up girls, you're probably the type who thinks you like any one who shows any sign of affection towards you. i know i am. so in the long run, you'll either be shot down and sour you friendship, or you'll hook up with her and eventually that'll sour too. cause she doesn't seem like your type. she's that young and already been fuckin around got married, divorced and etc etc.

thats a negative ghost rider

~1~ · 12-01-2010, 02:00 PM

Meh, 21 year olds looking for relationship advice...

You want some advice?

Don't have any serious ones until you have at least $15,000 in the bank and your car is paid off. Probably somewhere around the mid thirties.

Don't misunderstand me, there are exceptions to every rule, I'm one myself having married at 22 and staying married to the same woman since.

But I'm the only one I know who did.

Once you can figure out the shit life hands you on your own, then you can think about finding someone to share the spoils with, up until you're on top though you should travel light and be ready to bounce with a seconds notice just in case something life changing pops up.

$.02

tedkennedy · 12-01-2010, 03:17 PM

mission accomplished.

my_scatterheart · 12-01-2010, 03:21 PM

@1 A lot of the shit life hands you is delivered by others. And there's something to be said about going through the worst of times with someone. Down and out, and not a penny to your name. It weeds out the time-wasters, the good-for-nothings, the lapse in judgments.

Live your life and try to be kind whilst doing it. (That includes yourself)
my girly two cents

myxomatosis · 12-01-2010, 03:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by yo.

my advice is to not go with your feelings, being some one who is shy to pick up girls, you're probably the type who thinks you like any one who shows any sign of affection towards you. i know i am. so in the long run, you'll either be shot down and sour you friendship, or you'll hook up with her and eventually that'll sour too. cause she doesn't seem like your type. she's that young and already been fuckin around got married, divorced and etc etc.

thats a negative ghost rider

I think you missed a post.

Anyway, hope it all goes swimmingly ATU.

fenderbender · 12-01-2010, 06:52 PM

i only read like a the first few posts but ill say this.

If you do not try and pursue her, and you truly feel love for her, You will ALWAYS regret being a pussy...

it might fuck with the friendship, but honestly dude, friends come and go all the time. Chances are eventually you will move away from one another again and the friendship will die anyway.

Go for it...

~1~ · 12-01-2010, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

@1 A lot of the shit life hands you is delivered by others. And there's something to be said about going through the worst of times with someone. Down and out, and not a penny to your name. It weeds out the time-wasters, the good-for-nothings, the lapse in judgments.

Live your life and try to be kind whilst doing it. (That includes yourself)
my girly two cents

Jeeze, I didn't say go hermit style.

You make an interesting point though, some of lifes shit is brought on by others and there IS something to be said about going through it with someone else.

But...

Don't let dead weight and drama drag you down.

Debaser · 12-01-2010, 10:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Captain Cannabis

in my experience (and i'm not going to pretend like i have more than anyone else), the friend zone doesn't exist. if she is a real friend, making a move won't sour your already strong friendship. if she wants to be more than friends, making a move first is a good idea.

True, if she is a real friend, making a move won't sour the relationship, but it WILL definitely leave you in the friend zone. I have heart wrenching first hand experience with that.

The thing about the friend zone though, is that it doesn't come from the object of your affection, it's self imposed.

Captain Cannabis · 12-01-2010, 11:01 PM

word. i got locked in and broke out a couple times, so there is always hope.

Cerebro · 12-02-2010, 02:14 AM

yeah, that's the way of life sometimes, sometimes it's not
at the end of the day, it's all play for girls
talk about love
people make up their own truth
people are blinded by misconceptions of entitlment
change is the only constant in my life, so i agree with the sentiments of
if you never ever go, you'll never ever know
2c

José · 12-02-2010, 12:36 PM

fear of rejection is a bitch, don't let it affect you. I feared rejection for a LOONG time. If you are sincere, things will fall into place.

Sir-Ex · 12-02-2010, 08:46 PM

There's this girl I want to ask out but I'm afraid to because I've literally only seen her about 3 times in my life and maybe spent 30 minutes around her in total.

I hardly know her but for some reason she's in my head. Very cute to me. But I'm afraid she'll think I'm a weirdo for just contacting her on facebook out of the blue to ask if she wants to go out.

Then again, what do I have to lose?

Sir-Ex · 12-03-2010, 12:18 AM

FUCK IT.

I facebook asked her out. I hope this ends up being a good thing,

Cerebro · 12-03-2010, 02:41 AM

Yeah, I hope she doesn't ....
nope; cant think of any way that can really go wrong
but i hope she says yes
charisma check

**SageTree** · 12-03-2010, 06:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sir-Ex

FUCK IT.

I facebook asked her out. I hope this ends up being a good thing,

It could also be totally flattering ? Hope you get a good response.

fenderbender · 12-03-2010, 09:27 AM

facebook lol

smooth...

E-mackin on girls and finding drugs are the only things that makes facebook worthwhile...

SmokeaJoint · 12-03-2010, 10:40 AM

Well, although hooking up via facebook is against everything in my Player's Handbook, I really do hope it works out for ya.

mrprobation420 · 12-03-2010, 11:52 AM

well ive skimmed through all these wonderful posts of wonderful advice so i figured id give mine... now bare in mind a lil of my background i dont do relationships. mainly ongoing sexual encounters... the last relationship i had was summer of 07 with a girl i had been "friends" with since 7th grade she was obsessed with my then and by highschool she got over it still talking to me... anyway long story short, she turned out to be crazier then most... raging alcohalic and thats coming from someone(me) that just got out of rehab for being poly addicted(more then 2 drugs) anyway thats last time i labeled a girl as girlfriend... i hate that word btw. so for the next few years(which i dont remember bairly) i just "hooked up" at parties with girls i didnt even know there names and would forget in the next couple episodes/binges.... anyway

more recently in january i started to work at kohls dept. store. worst job ever but i was always high. i was like 1 out of 10 guys that worked there and they had about 100 employees. every single female there loved me i always made it a point to go out of my way to help all of them old young hot ugly but played it shy kept to myself and shit got in got paid got out(. but my point i ended up splitting the 2 hottest girls that had been good friends long before me up. and made one a fuckbuddy and other a friend that i was also sleeping with at first it was very good except one was married and the other i hooked up with one of my oldest ex. friends. anyway they both had no prob. cheating with me so they where both kinda the closest thing to a relationship i have had since high school . that situation turned out to be a fucking nightmare and thats an understatement.

im 21 now since 4-20 this year i basically went from shy nicest guy ever to a high drunk asshole that was completely out of control. so i didnt have to hurt them and just say "i dont want to do this with you anymore" to either of them breaking something off with girls isnt my style either. but i did this cuz i was on a new drug episode and a new acquiantance of mine took me to this girls. i knew in the first 5 minutes i wanted her. about 2 nights later i came there alone we went out i have no idea what we did but when i went to say goodnight we almost fucked on her front porch. i took her to my place tho. after about 2 months i ended up being the asshole she didnt buy it tho so i ditched her not 2 sound harsh im never mean just untolerable.

so my advice is go for what you want... not to be confused with taking what you want... that can get you in trouble.

atleast if you extend yourself shy or not you never have to wonder what if. even if she shoots you down go find some other girl and take her around her if you can remain friends and treat her like a queen to make this girl see what shes missing and mabye she will come to you and realize she made a mistake.

in short its better to go for what you want then remaing unhappy always with the thought of what-if. thats in my opinion.

im stuck regreting what if cuz i used my addictions to push away the girl that i hooked up with my friend. she was probably the only girl i ever could of seen myself with... but life goes on we are young and theres millions of girls out there

Cerebro · 12-03-2010, 08:07 PM

12-01-2010, 01:51 PM	#21 (permalink)
yo. Controversial Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: SOCAL Posts: 1,160 Thanks: 676 Thanked 202 Times in 143 Posts	my advice is to not go with your feelings, being some one who is shy to pick up girls, you're probably the type who thinks you like any one who shows any sign of affection towards you. i know i am. so in the long run, you'll either be shot down and sour you friendship, or you'll hook up with her and eventually that'll sour too. cause she doesn't seem like your type. she's that young and already been fuckin around got married, divorced and etc etc. thats a negative ghost rider __________________ "God" is an alien and we all came from another galaxy as an expansion of our specie's existence.

12-01-2010, 02:00 PM	#22 (permalink)
~1~ Successful Failure Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: where 'they' can't see. Posts: 10,925 Thanks: 466 Thanked 1,581 Times in 925 Posts	Meh, 21 year olds looking for relationship advice... You want some advice? Don't have any serious ones until you have at least $15,000 in the bank and your car is paid off. Probably somewhere around the mid thirties. Don't misunderstand me, there are exceptions to every rule, I'm one myself having married at 22 and staying married to the same woman since. But I'm the only one I know who did. Once you can figure out the shit life hands you on your own, then you can think about finding someone to share the spoils with, up until you're on top though you should travel light and be ready to bounce with a seconds notice just in case something life changing pops up. $.02 __________________ "And those who are successful, be always on your guard. Success walks hand in hand with failure, along Hollywood Boulevard" Ray Davies --------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------- Click Here Asshole

12-01-2010, 03:17 PM	#23 (permalink)
tedkennedy now 14% blacker Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 3,229 Thanks: 71 Thanked 585 Times in 364 Posts	mission accomplished. __________________ matthew munari

12-01-2010, 03:21 PM	#24 (permalink)
my_scatterheart Today, I am alive. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 3,565 Thanks: 1,486 Thanked 3,328 Times in 1,870 Posts	@1 A lot of the shit life hands you is delivered by others. And there's something to be said about going through the worst of times with someone. Down and out, and not a penny to your name. It weeds out the time-wasters, the good-for-nothings, the lapse in judgments. Live your life and try to be kind whilst doing it. (That includes yourself) my girly two cents __________________ Be mindful even if your mind is full. -J. De La Vega

12-01-2010, 11:01 PM	#29 (permalink)
Captain Cannabis safety word: more Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: m.i.a. Posts: 13,922 Thanks: 2,705 Thanked 3,174 Times in 1,812 Posts	word. i got locked in and broke out a couple times, so there is always hope. __________________ fuck the monkeys

12-02-2010, 12:36 PM	#31 (permalink)
José YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,364 Thanks: 62 Thanked 147 Times in 72 Posts	fear of rejection is a bitch, don't let it affect you. I feared rejection for a LOONG time. If you are sincere, things will fall into place.

12-02-2010, 08:46 PM	#32 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,416 Thanks: 1,726 Thanked 3,820 Times in 2,258 Posts	There's this girl I want to ask out but I'm afraid to because I've literally only seen her about 3 times in my life and maybe spent 30 minutes around her in total. I hardly know her but for some reason she's in my head. Very cute to me. But I'm afraid she'll think I'm a weirdo for just contacting her on facebook out of the blue to ask if she wants to go out. Then again, what do I have to lose? __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

12-03-2010, 12:18 AM	#33 (permalink)
Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,416 Thanks: 1,726 Thanked 3,820 Times in 2,258 Posts	FUCK IT. I facebook asked her out. I hope this ends up being a good thing, __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

12-03-2010, 11:52 AM	#38 (permalink)
mrprobation420 YaHookan Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: michigan(unfortanatly) Posts: 321 Thanks: 3 Thanked 14 Times in 8 Posts	well ive skimmed through all these wonderful posts of wonderful advice so i figured id give mine... now bare in mind a lil of my background i dont do relationships. mainly ongoing sexual encounters... the last relationship i had was summer of 07 with a girl i had been "friends" with since 7th grade she was obsessed with my then and by highschool she got over it still talking to me... anyway long story short, she turned out to be crazier then most... raging alcohalic and thats coming from someone(me) that just got out of rehab for being poly addicted(more then 2 drugs) anyway thats last time i labeled a girl as girlfriend... i hate that word btw. so for the next few years(which i dont remember bairly) i just "hooked up" at parties with girls i didnt even know there names and would forget in the next couple episodes/binges.... anyway more recently in january i started to work at kohls dept. store. worst job ever but i was always high. i was like 1 out of 10 guys that worked there and they had about 100 employees. every single female there loved me i always made it a point to go out of my way to help all of them old young hot ugly but played it shy kept to myself and shit got in got paid got out(. but my point i ended up splitting the 2 hottest girls that had been good friends long before me up. and made one a fuckbuddy and other a friend that i was also sleeping with at first it was very good except one was married and the other i hooked up with one of my oldest ex. friends. anyway they both had no prob. cheating with me so they where both kinda the closest thing to a relationship i have had since high school . that situation turned out to be a fucking nightmare and thats an understatement. im 21 now since 4-20 this year i basically went from shy nicest guy ever to a high drunk asshole that was completely out of control. so i didnt have to hurt them and just say "i dont want to do this with you anymore" to either of them breaking something off with girls isnt my style either. but i did this cuz i was on a new drug episode and a new acquiantance of mine took me to this girls. i knew in the first 5 minutes i wanted her. about 2 nights later i came there alone we went out i have no idea what we did but when i went to say goodnight we almost fucked on her front porch. i took her to my place tho. after about 2 months i ended up being the asshole she didnt buy it tho so i ditched her not 2 sound harsh im never mean just untolerable. so my advice is go for what you want... not to be confused with taking what you want... that can get you in trouble. atleast if you extend yourself shy or not you never have to wonder what if. even if she shoots you down go find some other girl and take her around her if you can remain friends and treat her like a queen to make this girl see what shes missing and mabye she will come to you and realize she made a mistake. in short its better to go for what you want then remaing unhappy always with the thought of what-if. thats in my opinion. im stuck regreting what if cuz i used my addictions to push away the girl that i hooked up with my friend. she was probably the only girl i ever could of seen myself with... but life goes on we are young and theres millions of girls out there __________________ Its jus me against the world baby!

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