Life with out a significant other - Page 2

stoneric · 04-09-2010, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Mercury

I once read something interesting that said: When a man is in his 50's and has been single for the most part of his life he almost inevitibaly finds himself with an abudance of money, toys and experience yet completely miserable."

Wrong, wrong, wrong and wrong. Maybe the experience thing just because it's unavoidable. I'm in my 50's, been single all my life, not gay, and happy as a mother. Don''t have an abundance of toys or money but I don't need either. I don't envy anybody, I haven't seen one relationship that I'd trade my single life for. As long as I can make a fist, I can fuck anybody. Of course I'm the most cynical asshole alive so take anything I say with that in mind.

José · 04-09-2010, 01:44 PM

I've never considered it, but what ever floats your boat.

hijabihippie · 04-09-2010, 02:28 PM

I remember when I first came out, I looked around at the local lesbian community and said "You have GOT to be kidding me. THIS is what I'm supposed to aspire to???" So, I walked away. Then someone set me up on a blind date with someone. That was 13 years ago. We're still together. She was the first woman I dated, she was the last woman I dated.
Moral of the story: It's when you stop searching that you find what you're looking for.

Geeno · 04-09-2010, 04:21 PM

^more like 'youve found what youre looking for'

and thats p obvious.

Diff strokes for diff folks.

Lets just settle with that and an added clause that ppl change.

José · 04-09-2010, 05:03 PM

"only names and faces change"

vanilla · 04-09-2010, 09:24 PM

guys let go of youre pride
go for whatever youre in the mood for, nothings better or worse, it's all a matter of personal preference at the time. though eventually im sure most people will want some sort of stability, but that's only generally speaking

doing whatever you please whenever you want is great, but there's something to say about having someone to go home to at the end of that day that really cares about you and vice versa

tedkennedy · 04-09-2010, 09:37 PM

i am gonna die alone , in a deep ditch, covered in maggots

The SARS Volta · 04-10-2010, 12:28 AM

Singlehood suited me quite well for long periods in the past. I had no (in)security/loneliness issues often associated with being uninvolved. Perhaps because it was entirely my call: I wasn't meeting anyone who fit the part, which conversely meant I was not 'ready' for a relationship. Plus, I wasn't gonna kid myself and settle (this paid off immensely).

I remained sexually active but I didn't abuse the freedom. Basically, I reserved casual encounters with few people whom I felt lucky to be banging yet couldn't consider dating, for whatever reason.

However when I met the dude I'm currently with, the transition from being unattached to committed was effortless. Similarly he had also been single by choice a for a year before we joined forces. Both of us have selective, idealist views in common...in this particular arena.

Despite getting comfortable and enjoying single-liberties for some time before this union commenced, I never question my/his propensity to stay faithful or interested. Had I not held off in anticipation of the real deal, I could be dealing with severe regrets right now instead.

The SARS Volta · 04-10-2010, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by BigSpliffSmoka

women are such a pain in the ass. I like being able to pick up and do whatever I want with out any questions and/or nagging.

This outlook on relationships is discouraging. In fact I do not feel entitled to nag my man or boss him around. I'm not his mother & don't intend to exercise undue control over him in any way. A gf/bf should enrich life. The right arrangement with the right person doesn't include frequent interrogation and whining.

José · 04-10-2010, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by tedkennedy

i am gonna die alone , in a deep ditch, covered in maggots

oh yeah, that's going to feel sooo good.

hijabihippie · 04-11-2010, 09:23 AM

I remember when I first came out, I looked around at the local lesbian community and said "You have GOT to be kidding me. THIS is what I'm supposed to aspire to???" So, I walked away. Then someone set me up on a blind date with someone. That was 13 years ago. We're still together. She was the first woman I dated, she was the last woman I dated.
Moral of the story: It's when you stop searching that you find what you're looking for.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Geeno

^more like 'youve found what youre looking for'

and thats p obvious.

Diff strokes for diff folks.

Lets just settle with that and an added clause that ppl change.

No, there was a definite feeling of I'm glad I've figured this out, but I'm not looking to meet anybody, because I've got standards. That was very clear.

Bad dog · 04-11-2010, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Mercury

The single life simply cannot compare to the magic of true love. I really believe that. But it's not like a man cannot survive on his own. We are hunters and providers. I once read something interesting that said: When a man is in his 50's and has been single for the most part of his life he almost inevitibaly finds himself with an abudance of money, toys and experience yet completely miserable."

as compared with the average married man in his fifties with no money, a crappy minivan, several screaming, ungratefull kids, a wife that only gives him a lame fuck twice a month and a lame blow job on his birthday and a job that sucks but he can't leave it because he has to pay for the mortgage and crappy car and screaming kids................ ..

he is obviously in absolute bliss and heaven, couldn't wish for anything else with his life................ .

stop seeing life as a crappy american movie. some people are happy some aren't.
a partner wont make you happy, they can only make you more happy than you already were.

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vanilla the cunning linguist Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: 514 Posts: 5,349 Thanks: 11 Thanked 138 Times in 92 Posts	guys let go of youre pride go for whatever youre in the mood for, nothings better or worse, it's all a matter of personal preference at the time. though eventually im sure most people will want some sort of stability, but that's only generally speaking doing whatever you please whenever you want is great, but there's something to say about having someone to go home to at the end of that day that really cares about you and vice versa __________________

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José YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,364 Thanks: 62 Thanked 147 Times in 72 Posts	I've never considered it, but what ever floats your boat.

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hijabihippie YaHookan Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,481 Thanks: 1,152 Thanked 655 Times in 515 Posts	I remember when I first came out, I looked around at the local lesbian community and said "You have GOT to be kidding me. THIS is what I'm supposed to aspire to???" So, I walked away. Then someone set me up on a blind date with someone. That was 13 years ago. We're still together. She was the first woman I dated, she was the last woman I dated. Moral of the story: It's when you stop searching that you find what you're looking for.

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