Bambi

This is about about one of my bestest friends. I've known this girl since high school and we've had our little arguments here and there, but nothing this serious...

It wasn't like we even argued, but I guess I should take the blame. It all happened because I didn't attend her brother's graduation party a few weekends ago.

It wasn't like she did something to tick me off, but I was going through so much stress; dealing with family and work. So I just wanted to be left alone & I told her to forgive me, but right now wasn't the time for me to be around people. I did send my congrats to her brother too.

And I was hopping she would at least be understanding about the situation since she went through that before & I gave her space...

But now she won't text me or call me. Her birthday was just yesterday & I wanted to treat her out for lunch, but she just ignores me. I think our friendship is definitely over, and I don't know what else to do. I asked my other best friend and even my mom, but they both told me there's not much for me to do except just let it go. I don't want to because this girl is like my sister, but I don't want to push it & make the situation worse.

What else to do?

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Sugar420

maybe just wait. you know, "love is patient..." and so in time she'll get over her mad.


unless you know that shes not the kind of person that gets over things but is the kind of person who just cuts you out forever... in that case, you might just have to let go.
it can be so hard if its someone whos been an important part of your life, but letting go of attachments is something that everybody has to face up to sooner or later. so in that way its a growing experience. this doesnt mean you have to ever stop loving your friend or stop being glad you had good times together, but that you can be able to let her live her life and stay busy living yours and be ok with it.

im kinda facing a similar situation so i hope i make sense and that these thoughts help you to put things in perspective.

the-who?

I'm sorry but I have to "lol" at the amount of guests currently viewing this post. There's 21 at this very moment (Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 22 (1 members and 21 guests) Is that not excessive to anyone else? And lol at mad being used as a noun ^

But to adress the OP's issue... you didn't do anything wrong.. I don't understand what went on. So you didn't go to a party because you wanted to be alone.. so what? If your friend is emoing out about that.. well she can just get over it, that's about the only solution.

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Mercury

Somehow you're just going to have to find the strength to carry on.

Tricto

I think Veda has some good advice, since (imo) it was over something so small, it would take a tremendous amount of effort on her part to stay mad at you for that long, I think after a little while (~few weeks, month for two) she should realize if she was that good of a friend what she's missing out on due to her overreaction.

Best of luck to ya

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Buck up, get on with your own life.

People will come and go in your lifetime man, thousands of them, some will be for good and others not so good. Thing is though, you're going to wake up with yourself every day until you die so thats the one you need to worry about most.

If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you then it is yours. If it doesn't, you got work in a half hour, get up and get ready...

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Bambi

Thanks for the advice, it kind of eased my frustration at this point...I'm hoping we get back to talking sooner, I know I'm a very impatient person, but this hasn't happened to us before so I guess you can say I'm kind of scared of losing her. We've been through some of the best times of our lives as well as very rough times. We've always had each others' back.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things do get better.

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Bambi

That's what I'm confused too. I mean, I wouldn't be upset if she didn't show up for my brother's graduation party. If anything, I would be very understandable if she was going through a rough patch. Methinks something else is going on...I've just never seen this kind of behavior in her.

Mercury, Tricto, and No 1 thanks for the advice too. No 1, I had to get a kick out of that quote. Especially the last part....

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