Distance in a relationship

Bearsy · 09-22-2010, 09:01 AM

My girlfriend and I live about 25 miles away from each other and neither of us have a car, so we only get to see each other on weekends(which we spend together from Fri-Sun) or whenever other mutual friends are able/willing to pick me up which is few and far between.
We text each other all day but I don't know how to keep conversations fresh. Neither of us work(although we're both looking) or go to school right now, so "How's your day going" is pretty much the same answer of "Just got up, watching TV".
What are some ways to handle this?

awwsuga23 · 09-22-2010, 01:29 PM

wow thats no good. ki11a and i lived in different states for almost a year and managed to keep things more exiting than that lol. It rly depends on how much your into the person. Get on the webcamz and do dirty things haha. Talkin on the phone for a long time is key if you cant be around them If its not rly worth all that to you then bail id say.

Grieves · 09-22-2010, 01:37 PM

25 miles is nothing...get a bus pass and quit whining...if you need to make excuses than you are just setting yourself up for failure...

Captain Cannabis · 09-22-2010, 01:41 PM

you think 25 miles is hard.. my girlfriend lives 8 times zones away from me.

if you actually do like each other it will work out.

crookedhatinator45 · 09-22-2010, 03:03 PM

start riding your bike to her or meeting eachother half-way. like grieves said, 25 miles 25 schmiles.

Flamingnun · 09-22-2010, 03:08 PM

Get a drivers liscence..?

Kompressor · 09-22-2010, 03:15 PM

I'm pretty sure he has a license, just no car that isn't occupied by someone else during the week.

Brush up on your convo skills: ask open-ended questions, make her talk about herself and vice versa, likes/dislikes, plan a surprise for her and make her want it all week long, etc...

There's a million things Bearz, use your noggin.

**SageTree** · 09-22-2010, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Kompressor

I'm pretty sure he has a license, just no car that isn't occupied by someone else during the week.

Brush up on your convo skills: ask open-ended questions, make her talk about herself and vice versa, likes/dislikes, plan a surprise for her and make her want it all week long, etc...

There's a million things Bearz, use your noggin.

Talking on the phone might be helpful.
It's just more REAL than texting, it seems to me.
And Komp really has some good ideas.
DO something TO talk about maybe?
Watching anything interesting?

Skype has cam access and so do other things. Seeing each other on a phone call could be really good for the ole heart as well.

Also, if you aren't working why can't you be there or her there more than just weekend? Stay around for a few days and see if you can get a ride in the middle of the week even?

You CAN do it Bearman.

Parallax · 09-22-2010, 04:39 PM

get yourself a bicycle

Sir-Ex · 09-23-2010, 08:57 AM

My take on it is: 3 days a week is plenty.

Lloydy · 09-23-2010, 02:08 PM

Seeing each other at weekends is ideal, you dont have to put up with their bullshit during the week. BONUS

Bearsy · 09-24-2010, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sir-Ex

My take on it is: 3 days a week is plenty.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lloydy

Seeing each other at weekends is ideal, you dont have to put up with their bullshit during the week. BONUS

Apparently not... just got the "I don't feel like this is working, it's neither of our faults and we want this to work but we don't see each other so we're probably just better off as friends" thing today.
So there's that.

msicidron · 09-24-2010, 01:33 PM

well then.

get a bike or bail

Captain Cannabis · 09-24-2010, 01:45 PM

thats weak bro

Sir-Ex · 09-24-2010, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bearsy

Apparently not... just got the "I don't feel like this is working, it's neither of our faults and we want this to work but we don't see each other so we're probably just better off as friends" thing today.
So there's that.

I'm thinking this whole thing probably has to do more with your guys' personalities and experience than with the distance.

If you need to see someone more than three whole days in a week, what you actually need is the opposite. I mean I guess it all depends; that's just how I feel, so take it as you will.

Plus 25 miles is only about an hour and a half away by bike, and half that if you guys meet halfway.

Grieves · 09-24-2010, 02:02 PM

sounds like there were too many excuses and not enough lovin...there will others....chalk this one up to experience and don't cling...

Mikey · 09-24-2010, 07:15 PM

yeah dude sounds like your bailing
25 miles is not alot

i walk (no joke) 5km every morning to work, it takes me about 50 minutes

if you get a bike, and if she'd meet you halfway

or maybe you just don't even want this to work

best of luck with the decision you make

09-22-2010, 01:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
Grieves The Worst Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Interstate 8 Posts: 12,090 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 2,577 Thanked 3,117 Times in 1,712 Posts	25 miles is nothing...get a bus pass and quit whining...if you need to make excuses than you are just setting yourself up for failure... __________________ "And no matter what they said dollar is not your friend and it's the feelings that are hard to know are the feelings that all come slow No matter what they said dollar is not your friend and these feelings that so hard to know are the feelings that wont let go No don't let go, till you find a home World Unite and I'll love you forever"

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Captain Cannabis safety word: more Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: m.i.a. Posts: 13,922 Thanks: 2,705 Thanked 3,174 Times in 1,812 Posts	you think 25 miles is hard.. my girlfriend lives 8 times zones away from me. if you actually do like each other it will work out. __________________ fuck the monkeys

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Kompressor Voice of Reason Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Illinois Posts: 8,361 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3,069 Times in 1,634 Posts	I'm pretty sure he has a license, just no car that isn't occupied by someone else during the week. Brush up on your convo skills: ask open-ended questions, make her talk about herself and vice versa, likes/dislikes, plan a surprise for her and make her want it all week long, etc... There's a million things Bearz, use your noggin. __________________ Think like a man of action, act like a man of thought. -H. Bergson

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Parallax Admiral Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,739 Thanks: 160 Thanked 590 Times in 318 Posts	get yourself a bicycle __________________ FUCK THE ROBOTS!!! NUKE THE WHALES!!!

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Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,416 Thanks: 1,726 Thanked 3,820 Times in 2,258 Posts	My take on it is: 3 days a week is plenty. __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

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Lloydy KTF Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: England Posts: 11,976 Thanks: 533 Thanked 2,478 Times in 1,139 Posts	Seeing each other at weekends is ideal, you dont have to put up with their bullshit during the week. BONUS __________________ Keep the red flag flying high

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msicidron vibing Join Date: May 2007 Location: North America Posts: 959 Thanks: 229 Thanked 157 Times in 122 Posts	well then. get a bike or bail __________________ \|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|

09-24-2010, 01:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
Captain Cannabis safety word: more Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: m.i.a. Posts: 13,922 Thanks: 2,705 Thanked 3,174 Times in 1,812 Posts	thats weak bro __________________ fuck the monkeys

09-24-2010, 02:02 PM	#16 (permalink)
Grieves The Worst Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Interstate 8 Posts: 12,090 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 2,577 Thanked 3,117 Times in 1,712 Posts	sounds like there were too many excuses and not enough lovin...there will others....chalk this one up to experience and don't cling... __________________ "And no matter what they said dollar is not your friend and it's the feelings that are hard to know are the feelings that all come slow No matter what they said dollar is not your friend and these feelings that so hard to know are the feelings that wont let go No don't let go, till you find a home World Unite and I'll love you forever"

09-24-2010, 07:15 PM	#17 (permalink)
Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,443 Thanks: 1,144 Thanked 2,246 Times in 1,475 Posts	yeah dude sounds like your bailing 25 miles is not alot i walk (no joke) 5km every morning to work, it takes me about 50 minutes if you get a bike, and if she'd meet you halfway or maybe you just don't even want this to work best of luck with the decision you make __________________ RIP Gov

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