i need some consolation - Page 2

**SageTree** · 10-25-2010, 08:28 AM

Also it would be ironic if a Yankee wooped your ass.... you don't want that to happen again do you ?

Seriously man.... No punches here. I think this is a mistake, a mistake I've seen happen too many times before and in those instances one of the two people got their teeth kicked in... and it was never the 'non-cheater' who enabled the cheater.

Quote:

Originally Posted by myxomatosis

Haha, maybe it was used in a friendly way?

I'm sure.... But I never said you did mean it in a nasty way, correct?

However, on that note it doesn't mean I have to ascribe to such 'friendly' terms, either way you meant it.

Debaser · 10-25-2010, 08:38 AM

I'm going to go ahead and assume that most (if not all) of the people who answered with "hit it, dude" aren't married. Marriages have their good times and bad times, and it sounds like hers is in a current bad time. That's why divorce rates are so high these days, instead of working through the rough patches, people just say "fuck it, I'll move on", which certainly doesn't help the situation.

Put yourself in the other guys shoes, would YOU appreciate everyone telling some dude to go ahead and bang your wife? Cheating is bad, but ruining someone's marriage is worse. If it falls apart on it's own, you're in the clear, but if you hook up with the chick while she's still married, you're just giving her an excuse to get out.

yo. · 10-25-2010, 09:52 AM

I dunno man, I'm just gonna stick to what I said earlier. I'm just gonna go with it and see how things turn out.

cause I know I can't deny it if she puts it on the table...

and just for the record it was a close fight but he was the one that came out bloody, so not saying I kicked his ass but he definitely didn't kick mine.

plus, if he takes his wife for granted and doesn't realize how lucky he is, that's his loss, not mine.
i think, "if you don't, some one else will" is good advice. but like i said i'm just gonna see how things go. who knows she may straight up say lets fuck and i just might say no, i can't be that person. it's a sticky situation, imo.

HTAM · 10-25-2010, 10:38 AM

'if you (I) don't, someone else will'

I think it is extremely poor judgement to justify many decisions based on this.

That you created a thread to get feedback about this suggests to me that something about this situation is not adding up with you, and you're looking for some support or the green light.

Support, we can all give.

You don't need us to green light you, though.

There are obviously issues at hand in their marriage and you are not qualified to assist her. In fact, you present a conflict of interest based on your attraction to her, and the fact that you have already considered sleeping with her anyway.

The thing is, that you only know what she's shown you. Metaphorically.
I'm not sure if you know this (sarcasm) but people can be personality chameleons sometimes, especially with people they feel can satisfy some unfulfilled desire or need they have.

I would be wary of getting involved with someone in her position.
It doesn't sound like she has the coping skills to handle her current predicament, because she's coming to you for support.

Support doesn't seem like what she's after though. I find it difficult to believe she doesn't know that you and her husband don't like each other.
So, if she's setting a plan in motion (and she'll never admit it to you if that's the case) to 'get caught' or to create some jealousy with her husband if/when he finds out, you are participating in the erosion of their marriage.

Instant gratification now could soil your reputation later.

yo. · 10-25-2010, 10:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by higherthanamile

'if you (I) don't, someone else will'

I think it is extremely poor judgement to justify many decisions based on this.

That you created a thread to get feedback about this suggests to me that something about this situation is not adding up with you, and you're looking for some support or the green light.

Support, we can all give.

You don't need us to green light you, though.

There are obviously issues at hand in their marriage and you are not qualified to assist her. In fact, you present a conflict of interest based on your attraction to her, and the fact that you have already considered sleeping with her anyway.

The thing is, that you only know what she's shown you. Metaphorically.
I'm not sure if you know this (sarcasm) but people can be personality chameleons sometimes, especially with people they feel can satisfy some unfulfilled desire or need they have.

I would be wary of getting involved with someone in her position.
It doesn't sound like she has the coping skills to handle her current predicament, because she's coming to you for support.

Support doesn't seem like what she's after though. I find it difficult to believe she doesn't know that you and her husband don't like each other.
So, if she's setting a plan in motion (and she'll never admit it to you if that's the case) to 'get caught' or to create some jealousy with her husband if/when he finds out, you are participating in the erosion of their marriage.

Instant gratification now could soil your reputation later.

best advice so far.
spot on about everything too.

but once again, i'll just have to see how things go.
while trying to refrain from physicalness.

HTAM · 10-25-2010, 10:58 AM

Good luck.

Wisdom comes about 10 seconds after experience.

yo. · 10-25-2010, 11:06 AM

hahah ain't that the truth

LOL that reminds me of the other night, i was at this party and this chick was hittin on me all night, and eventually to the point where she straight asked me for my dick. hahah so ofc i complied and during mid-bj she fuckin gagged and puked on my dick, then continued to suck me off. hahahahah and i was so caught up in the blow job and alcohol it didn't even phase me, UNTIL i nutted. then i felt so fucking nasty i practically begged the guy to let me use his shower.. hahaha good times, good times.

**SageTree** · 10-26-2010, 06:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Debaser

I'm going to go ahead and assume that most (if not all) of the people who answered with "hit it, dude" aren't married. Marriages have their good times and bad times, and it sounds like hers is in a current bad time. That's why divorce rates are so high these days, instead of working through the rough patches, people just say "fuck it, I'll move on", which certainly doesn't help the situation.

Put yourself in the other guys shoes, would YOU appreciate everyone telling some dude to go ahead and bang your wife? Cheating is bad, but ruining someone's marriage is worse. If it falls apart on it's own, you're in the clear, but if you hook up with the chick while she's still married, you're just giving her an excuse to get out.

Quote:

Originally Posted by higherthanamile

'if you (I) don't, someone else will'

I think it is extremely poor judgement to justify many decisions based on this.

That you created a thread to get feedback about this suggests to me that something about this situation is not adding up with you, and you're looking for some support or the green light.

Support, we can all give.

You don't need us to green light you, though.

There are obviously issues at hand in their marriage and you are not qualified to assist her. In fact, you present a conflict of interest based on your attraction to her, and the fact that you have already considered sleeping with her anyway.

The thing is, that you only know what she's shown you. Metaphorically.
I'm not sure if you know this (sarcasm) but people can be personality chameleons sometimes, especially with people they feel can satisfy some unfulfilled desire or need they have.

I would be wary of getting involved with someone in her position.
It doesn't sound like she has the coping skills to handle her current predicament, because she's coming to you for support.

Support doesn't seem like what she's after though. I find it difficult to believe she doesn't know that you and her husband don't like each other.
So, if she's setting a plan in motion (and she'll never admit it to you if that's the case) to 'get caught' or to create some jealousy with her husband if/when he finds out, you are participating in the erosion of their marriage.

Instant gratification now could soil your reputation later.

These are two SUPER good posts. Thanks fellas. As a married man myself, this is the stuff that was also rattling around in the back of my mind to be said, so I'm really glad you two nailed it for me.

10-25-2010, 08:38 AM	#22 (permalink)
Debaser Baked Fresh Daily Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Winnipeg Posts: 1,186 Thanks: 32 Thanked 303 Times in 177 Posts	I'm going to go ahead and assume that most (if not all) of the people who answered with "hit it, dude" aren't married. Marriages have their good times and bad times, and it sounds like hers is in a current bad time. That's why divorce rates are so high these days, instead of working through the rough patches, people just say "fuck it, I'll move on", which certainly doesn't help the situation. Put yourself in the other guys shoes, would YOU appreciate everyone telling some dude to go ahead and bang your wife? Cheating is bad, but ruining someone's marriage is worse. If it falls apart on it's own, you're in the clear, but if you hook up with the chick while she's still married, you're just giving her an excuse to get out. __________________ Wouldn't it be great to heal the world with only a song? Message CM47: Let's go pay some hookers to knock our junk around.

10-25-2010, 09:52 AM	#23 (permalink)
yo. Controversial Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: SOCAL Posts: 1,160 Thanks: 676 Thanked 202 Times in 143 Posts	I dunno man, I'm just gonna stick to what I said earlier. I'm just gonna go with it and see how things turn out. cause I know I can't deny it if she puts it on the table... and just for the record it was a close fight but he was the one that came out bloody, so not saying I kicked his ass but he definitely didn't kick mine. plus, if he takes his wife for granted and doesn't realize how lucky he is, that's his loss, not mine. i think, "if you don't, some one else will" is good advice. but like i said i'm just gonna see how things go. who knows she may straight up say lets fuck and i just might say no, i can't be that person. it's a sticky situation, imo. __________________ "God" is an alien and we all came from another galaxy as an expansion of our specie's existence.

10-25-2010, 11:06 AM	#27 (permalink)
yo. Controversial Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: SOCAL Posts: 1,160 Thanks: 676 Thanked 202 Times in 143 Posts	hahah ain't that the truth LOL that reminds me of the other night, i was at this party and this chick was hittin on me all night, and eventually to the point where she straight asked me for my dick. hahah so ofc i complied and during mid-bj she fuckin gagged and puked on my dick, then continued to suck me off. hahahahah and i was so caught up in the blow job and alcohol it didn't even phase me, UNTIL i nutted. then i felt so fucking nasty i practically begged the guy to let me use his shower.. hahaha good times, good times. __________________ "God" is an alien and we all came from another galaxy as an expansion of our specie's existence.

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10-25-2010, 10:38 AM	#24 (permalink)
HTAM Old School Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 3,872 Thanks: 2,368 Thanked 2,117 Times in 1,179 Posts	'if you (I) don't, someone else will' I think it is extremely poor judgement to justify many decisions based on this. That you created a thread to get feedback about this suggests to me that something about this situation is not adding up with you, and you're looking for some support or the green light. Support, we can all give. You don't need us to green light you, though. There are obviously issues at hand in their marriage and you are not qualified to assist her. In fact, you present a conflict of interest based on your attraction to her, and the fact that you have already considered sleeping with her anyway. The thing is, that you only know what she's shown you. Metaphorically. I'm not sure if you know this (sarcasm) but people can be personality chameleons sometimes, especially with people they feel can satisfy some unfulfilled desire or need they have. I would be wary of getting involved with someone in her position. It doesn't sound like she has the coping skills to handle her current predicament, because she's coming to you for support. Support doesn't seem like what she's after though. I find it difficult to believe she doesn't know that you and her husband don't like each other. So, if she's setting a plan in motion (and she'll never admit it to you if that's the case) to 'get caught' or to create some jealousy with her husband if/when he finds out, you are participating in the erosion of their marriage. Instant gratification now could soil your reputation later.

10-25-2010, 10:58 AM	#26 (permalink)
HTAM Old School Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 3,872 Thanks: 2,368 Thanked 2,117 Times in 1,179 Posts	Good luck. Wisdom comes about 10 seconds after experience.

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