yo.

So tonight this girl that I haven't seen in years stops by and we hung out for a few hours and it went really well. Although I'm the kinda dog that jumps at any sign of interest from a girl

But here's the twist. She's married and has a 10 month old kid. Now the only reason we're talking talking, is because they're going through a rough patch and they're to the point where they hate each other. Now I like to maintain dignity, so as hard as it was, I refrained from getting physical with her, especially since I've known her husband since middle school. But I really really wanted to. And I was definitely gettin the vibe that she did too.

Basically I'm posting this to hear that I'm not really in the wrong.. I mean, the married girl wants to hang out, so we did. It's not my fault, or even a bad thing if we start developing. I'm not pushing towards them splitting up, I actually talked to her about their problems and gave her the assurance that maybe that's just how things are sometimes.. So it's not like I'm advocating a divorce or anything, but I definitely don't wanna seclude myself from the possibility of being with her (and her kid) in the future sometime.






... so what do you guys think?

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mothernature

I keep getting hung up on this:

Why, after years, did she come to see you? Why not some other friend?

Did you all have the flirt thing going back then?

How close are you to her husband? Are you friends?

toastyroach

simple solution for your scenario:

Have you ever fucked a married woman before?
IF no, do it, life is short.
IF yes, don't bother wasting your time with drama. Go find some hot 19 year old that wants to bang in a cluck-u-chicken parking lot (hawwt)

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Roach

seems you're being used...

that's ok, unless you do something dumb like banging your buddy's wife.

then it's on you.



Wait till after the divorce, and then-----maybe.

Good chance it'll screw up the friendship either way.

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Mafoo

i think you can most likely find a girl with less attachments

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yo.

I don't remember how we started texting, but that was about 5 months ago. And just last week she texted me about this dream she had about me and her. That's what sparked everything up. Like we've been talking a lot since then..

And yeah we used to flirt when we were younger and I've always wanted to get with her, she's super fucking gorgeous, and she's chill, she smokes and she drinks every now and then but she is a really good, loving mother.

I met her husband back when he first moved here, me and my brother were his first friends here but I was really just the little bro that tagged along, and he had a younger brother so it was like that, I was mainly friends with ole dudes brother (devin) and my brother was friends with him. I actually never cared for the dude, he's a egotistical yankee, imo. And we fist fought once over some dumb shit, I was prob 13 and he was 16 maybe 17. But anyways he disappeared a few years ago, never talked to him since. So na we're not really "friends" per se, we're just mutual really. And I even talked to the girl and told her I'm not gonna be the reason they divorce or anything cause I'd just feel really guilty cause this dude is seriously lucky to have such a good girl. (well maybe. i dunno how good she is coming to hang out with me behind her husbands back, but you know how its different when your the one she's talking to, i don't think it's "using" me either cause she could seriously have any one she wanted. SUPER sexy body, you would NEVER guess she had a kid, ever!)

But any ways she told me that ya know it wouldn't be my fault, if they got a divorce it'd be her choice and not to feel bad, so it sounds like it's coming..

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osirus2020

I'd hit it. You're not the one cheating.

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ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

yo.

I'm not gonna be the one she cheats on ole dude with though..
Just trying to be ethical.

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Captain Cannabis

ethical is not up to you.. if she wants it give it to her or shell go somewhere else. you might as well enjoy yourself. you aren't the one in a relationship.

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Mafoo

well in terms of ethics, it sounds like shes already being emotionally unfaithful to her husband. are you 100% sure you arent misreading the situation? mistaking kindness for attraction?

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osirus2020

Exactly. If you don't fuck her then somebody else will.

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SmokeaJoint

The question, as it stands, seems to be To Fuck, Or Not To Fuck. I say, get you some man. I personally would recommend against a relationship until you are mentally and financially able to help support the child though, and thats a huge deal.

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my_scatterheart

So walk away. Don't be dumb. Not worth the drama.

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yo.

Good, but mixed answers... haha

But yeah she said she wants to chill again and party some time so I'm jus gonna go with it and see what happens. If we party then yeah. it's goin down!! :hellyeah:

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Mafoo

(strap it up, shes obviously fertile)

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Captain Cannabis

you have to follow everyones advice at the same time

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SageTree

Dude, I don't know how small the town you live in is, or how much you value your relationship with this man... but you're young and have a lot of time to get your ass beaten, that is all I'm saying.

I don't think buddy is going to care MORE that she cheated ... he's going to be WAY more concerned about you.... he didn't say ANY vows of richer or poorer, in sickness or health to you.. so I'm thinking he is going to whip you till you are poor and sick ...

And highly doubt... 'I didn't cheat' logic is going to matter.


My advice is don't do something you'll have to live with and maybe look over your shoulder or hear about for a long time....

be careful and never under estimate that people DO find out and never under estimate the wrath of a jealous man. Failing marriage or not, I think he's most likely to still care.

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myxomatosis

You've been friends with her husband since middle school and they are married with a 10 month old kid? Seems like it answers itself there dipshit.

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SageTree

^+1

- dip shit

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myxomatosis

Haha, maybe it was used in a friendly way?

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