Linkey

In high school I had this girlfriend who I really liked the very minute I met her but my anxiety/confusion at that age caused the relationship to not last longer than a few months.

3 years later... My buddy starts inviting this same girl over to chill with all the usual people we hang out with (basically to get the guy:girl ratio up to 1:1). At this point I was still battling intense social anxiety so I rarely talked to her. She soon started dating a guy that I had known my whole life but was definitely an acquaintance, not a friend.

2 more years later... I am finally becoming the person I want to be and my social anxiety is barely noticeable. I feel great! Anyways, over these previous 2 years I have become good friends with both the guy and his girlfriend(my ex from a long long time ago). We are all going to college so I would see them over the summer and during all the breaks. Over the past year and a half their relationship has deteriorated to drunken hookups (that they both tell me they regret afterward) and awkward moments when they are both invited to the same party.

The present... It is winter break for us college kids. I have been hanging out with the guy hiking, getting stoned/drunk, etc. I have been seeing the girl a lot more though. The two are completely broken up at this point. Last week, we were both moderately drunk and she insisted on sleeping in my bed. Sleeping is all that happened though, I made sure not to lead her on at all sexually except we were very close the whole night(spooning etc.). Over the past week she had been increasingly flirting with me. I love spending time with her and we are very honest around each other. She is considered a "strange" person by most which makes her feel unappreciated. I am one of the few who understands her personality and will listen to her seriously. The guy(her ex) is a good friend but so is the girl. I just don't know what to do.

If she was just any girl then I wouldn't think twice to stop seeing her and not risk a friendship over it. The problem is that I am more comfortable and honest with her than I am even with my best friend(not her ex btw).

I feel like I am already pretty deep in this especially considering that everybody who was at my party(when we slept in my bed) thinks we had sex. And my friend (her ex) has likely heard about it by now.

I don't know what to do... I would love some advice.

Mikey

you were there first, your all adults now and are allowed to make your own decisions
i'd say hit it

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my_scatterheart

She's single, you're not crossing any boundaries. And if your friend has a problem with it he sounds like drama and prolly isn't worth your time.

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Mafoo

i agree with everyone. your friend shouldnt feel bad about it, they broke up for a reason im guessing, so hes got no reason to feel bad about it.

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farmergiles

If everyone already thinks you have then there's not much to lose.
I'd also say hit it.

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mothernature

I would talk it over with your friend (the ex-boyfriend). No matter what, it's gonna be awkward. I'd tell him the truth, which is you like her. He may not care. After all, she was your girlfriend first.

If he doesn't understand, then he probably wasn't much of a real friend anyways.

Cerebro

dont delay
go play
ex sounds gay
that's my say

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Mikey

so raw dog and bail eh?

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Linkey

well i went for it

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