Dealing with Gossip/Judgement/Opinions

turmaline · 02-20-2011, 10:48 AM

I've recently been through a breakup and because I have not been one to make my business public...I think I am beoming a bit of a target maybe hmm..

It's just I see how everyone of our mutual friends thinks my ex the father of my children, is this great person and they have no idea what this person is really like. Now gossip runs crazy, and I have people trying to talk to me, but then i see them "other wome friends" being his best friend on facebook, and I feel like they are just trying to squeeze me for information...I don't really respond to them because I know what they want. I myself have completely cut myself off from everyone in my past. I do not live the same lifestyle i used to live. I do not have anything in common with any of these people but it bothers me still that people form opinions based on their own thoughts..which through the grapevine can make me look like a money hungry greedy bitch, when in all honesty I haven't gotten anything from this man except 20 dollars bi-weekly.

Yet I see everyone on his facebook talking about how he works so hard for his family and how geat of a guy he is and it's all bullshit.

I guess I should just not worry, I know the truth.

I also don't want to be mad just because people like him lol, it's not right to be mad because people like someone.

Geeno · 02-20-2011, 10:51 AM

Whoa. You're a girl????

The Rev · 02-20-2011, 11:01 AM

The real Mr. T was a girl too. An extremely rugged sort; probably dated Napoleon Dynamite's grandmother.

If someone calls you a thing, it does not make you a thing, even if they believe, with all of their heart, what they are saying. Keep your dignity at all times, and you will come through just fine.

The Rev

turmaline · 02-20-2011, 11:04 AM

You see, I agree. I am doing so with my actions. through changing my life for the better. I just don't like the feelings you get, and there is non way to deal with them now besides talking about them.

I know what I am.

I'm Mr.T lol

Geeno · 02-20-2011, 11:09 AM

Okay so girl or not I have two bits of advice:

Not reacting, and not letting things bother you is what defines cool. So play it cool.

and

The dude always claims that the break up was because "shes crazy". That's it. No way around it. Ask every dude what happened with the ex 'oh lucy? Yeah turns out she was crazy'.

turmaline · 02-20-2011, 11:15 AM

Playin it cool you're exactly right, and that's what i'm doin.

thankyou for your 2 cents

02-20-2011, 10:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
turmaline hotdog! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: CANADA Posts: 1,674 Thanks: 513 Thanked 927 Times in 536 Posts	Dealing with Gossip/Judgement/Opinions I've recently been through a breakup and because I have not been one to make my business public...I think I am beoming a bit of a target maybe hmm.. It's just I see how everyone of our mutual friends thinks my ex the father of my children, is this great person and they have no idea what this person is really like. Now gossip runs crazy, and I have people trying to talk to me, but then i see them "other wome friends" being his best friend on facebook, and I feel like they are just trying to squeeze me for information...I don't really respond to them because I know what they want. I myself have completely cut myself off from everyone in my past. I do not live the same lifestyle i used to live. I do not have anything in common with any of these people but it bothers me still that people form opinions based on their own thoughts..which through the grapevine can make me look like a money hungry greedy bitch, when in all honesty I haven't gotten anything from this man except 20 dollars bi-weekly. Yet I see everyone on his facebook talking about how he works so hard for his family and how geat of a guy he is and it's all bullshit. I guess I should just not worry, I know the truth. I also don't want to be mad just because people like him lol, it's not right to be mad because people like someone.

02-20-2011, 11:01 AM	#3 (permalink)
The Rev Clear Light Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: In my head, somewhere. Posts: 17,865 Thanks: 5,018 Thanked 5,420 Times in 2,865 Posts	The real Mr. T was a girl too. An extremely rugged sort; probably dated Napoleon Dynamite's grandmother. If someone calls you a thing, it does not make you a thing, even if they believe, with all of their heart, what they are saying. Keep your dignity at all times, and you will come through just fine. The Rev __________________ Budforce - My Friend August 29, 1973- May 25, 2012

02-20-2011, 11:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
turmaline hotdog! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: CANADA Posts: 1,674 Thanks: 513 Thanked 927 Times in 536 Posts	Playin it cool you're exactly right, and that's what i'm doin. thankyou for your 2 cents Last edited by turmaline; 02-20-2011 at 04:11 PM.

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02-20-2011, 11:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
turmaline hotdog! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: CANADA Posts: 1,674 Thanks: 513 Thanked 927 Times in 536 Posts	You see, I agree. I am doing so with my actions. through changing my life for the better. I just don't like the feelings you get, and there is non way to deal with them now besides talking about them. I know what I am. I'm Mr.T lol

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