fenderbender

alright i need some other opinions on this situation.

small back story first: Ok, so im only 20 years old now, Only been with 3 girls total and only of those girls was just fuckin, the other two were relationships.
keep that in mind.

second half of back story: So i started seeing this girl about a year and a half ago. Awesome girl. smokin hott, 17 years old at the time lol. Shit was going great for a good few months, had some of if not THE funnest times of my life thus far. We became great friends.

Then i break up with her.

broke up for two main reasons, which really combine into just the one.

1st reason: while smoking hot, she didnt/still doesnt have a clue what to do in bed. It's all me. Thats fine and all, but gets boring fast ya know?

2nd reason: At the time i was crushin on this other girl real hard at the same time, but basically I knew i couldnt be faithful. Her being lame in bed just accelerated this I'd say.

Didnt cheat on her, and broke up with her.
Thing is it wasn't a clean break. It was a nice breakup but not clean.

meaning we still are great friends, talk all the time, and end up having sex when she comes back home from college.


K now that's^ current situation with her, now heres the situation with me, dont worry it's not long.


So i have this great girl. She loves me more then anyone ever has, like fucking kills me with love. Shes understanding as well, you can actually explain a logical answer in an argument and she can actually admit defeat lol (a first for the women of my life).
Not to mention shes Smokinggg fuckin hot, likes drugs but isnt a total idiot, goes to college, is sexy skinny and 18, and my only friend and a great friend at that.
She also sucks in bed though still.

Now im fucking young man... real young, only 20. Only been with 3 girls including the girl ive been talkin about.

I wanna fuck some bitches. bad. like real bad. now....

Im scared im gonna miss out on the young girlies and fun that comes with being this age.

But at the same time i KNOW im gonna be kicking myself in the ass later on in life for ruining it with this girl. I could even see myself marrying this girl in the future after i get this pussy-crazy stuff outa my system.

WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?

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fenderbender

also id like to add this...

It is more of an issue now b/c it is now the summer, she is coming home in a couple days.


Also... I haven't done a damn thing all year, just college, 0 friends. Hasnt been a problem as im a total loner anyway and content as hell BUT Im gettin a job in the coming week so ill finally have some money and im looking to socialize for a change.

Socialize also means: work towards getting vagina.

SO

girls coming back, totaly in love with me. I care for her deeply, shes my best friend.
She'd be crushed if i started patrolling for pussy and talking to new girls.

Im only 20 and patrolling for new pussy is all i can think about. I couldnt even be dedicated and faithful to her if i wanted to be. It's fuckin biology yo, i aint strong enough to fight biology off yet.

WHATDO

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Lloydy

Reet it might just be me but I cant see a problem here. Talk to the lass you're with at the minute if you're not enjoying it, sort it out.
The whole wanting to play the field shit always comes back to bite you in the arse, on tap is better, always.

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SmokeaJoint

Shes not that good in bed, and thats the main problem? Well dude, practice makes perfect. Hehe, practice practice practice.

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fenderbender

Nah the main problem is i can't be faithful to this girl.

The her not being good in bed thing just means she isnt really doing anything to keep my head in the game ya know?


It not just the sex either. Im craving that "new girl crush" puppy dog love shit bad.
I really need something new in my life and i want it to be a girl.

But i got a great girl already...


lol im not saying how my life is all shit by any means, its goin great.

I just dont know what to do in this situation. Id like to minimize damage as much as possible so im asking you guys for advice.

Edit:
And word lloydy about havin pussy on tap. While im dieing to fuck around, i KNOW ill regret it in more ways then one. :/

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~1~

Ugh, do I have to say it yet again?

I'll be blunt this time, you can go back every couple years and I say the same damned thing to someone if you want the sweet version.

What the fuck do you want to go compounding problems when you haven't even gotten your own shit figured out? Pussy is not the end all be all and if you really need to get laid it isn't that hard.

Prioritize.

Where the fuck you want to be when you get out of school?

How little can you live on and still be comfortable, this isn't as silly a question as you think, men can subsist on far less than women, far far less than man+woman. So, less money for shit equals more time for getting the learn on since you won't have to budget so much time between school and work to pay for shit you really don't need.

So go back and search if you want some concise answers but the gist of it is there is no reason to clutter up your life with someone elses baggage until you've got your own shit sorted first.

Go get laid.

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fenderbender

um, for the record... i got the rest of my life going pretty well/planned well/ content as fuck now.

If i needed advice on other aspects of my life id of asked for it.

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fenderbender

obviously i have two choices.

Go get pussy, hurt the girl, most likely regret it later on...

or push the biology fueled women seeking feelings aside(dunno if a can) and appreciate what i got.

im just curious as to what you guys think. Especially old bastards like you number1, except you totally let me down with that last shit answer mannnn

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Cerpin Taxt

Clearly, whether directly or not, she is getting in the way of what you believe will make you happiest right now. You have no obligation to stay with her for the sake of solely her benefit; that's not how relationships are supposed to work.

In fact, any obligation you have is with regard to putting an end to this relationship ASAP if you have any care about her feelings. What you feel right now will not just 'go away', especially considering the nature of what you want to do with yourself. I'm not saying that to judge, I'm just saying that it's simply completely contradictory to how you are involved with this girl... think about it.

'New girl crush' also doesn't last forever, so you will undoubtedly become frustrated with any relationship if that is one of your main goals at this point in time. As far as this talk about being able to marry her... You aren't searching for that type of relationship right now, and basing a marriage off of one found during this time probably wouldn't be the wisest decision. Not to mention, 20 and 18 are still incredibly young.

Be safe, be honest to yourself and any lucky girl you get with, and go get yours.

You need to be comfortable with yourself before you can be honestly content with another person. How one becomes comfortable remains subjective, and thus, I leave that up to you

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Parallax

you've got it made, asshole, enjoy it before its gone

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Jester4yall

I agree a lot with ~1~ except it really sounds like you got a pretty kewl girl coming home to ya.. ~1~ dood you coulda helped me with this post more than once.. Very well put sir..
Cerpin had a good point with "New girl crush' also doesn't last forever, so you will undoubtedly become frustrated with any relationship if that is one of your main goals at this point in time. As far as this talk about being able to marry her... You aren't searching for that type of relationship right now, and basing a marriage off of one found during this time probably wouldn't be the wisest decision. Not to mention, 20 and 18 are still incredibly young."
But fender:
Mang on 1 hand I wanna tell you to stop actin a fool u got your future planned out.. Props 4 that @ ur age I had half a clue what I wanted with my life. On the other hand I wanna say your 20yo do you know for sure what you want in a wifey? Your in a just plain fucked up spot.. No offense to you but wow...
Is she pretty open about sex man? I only ask this bc I figure if so maybe start being a lil ore vocal in your fantasies and etc. To warm up the subject.. Then be like well I've always wanted a girl that would do so and so (beat around the bush a bit about what you feel she's lame @ in the sheetz). Yoi seem like a sex guy (aren't we all ) if she doesn't open up like you'd want her to , get a bit more adventurous or w/e then you'll know its not working out and troll for tang.. But be sure you try hard to keep that amazing friendship as in say something more about you not knowing what you really want or who you really are bs mumbo jumbo bc FRIENDS are harder to find then a lay.. Best of luck to ya dood

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Mafoo

dont have much to say about wanting to play the field, i had that same urge. now im not getting laid and im fucking FRUSTRATED as shit if youve got something good and the only problem(ps that logic thing is the thing i look for in women, not to be demeaning to the beautiful women of yahooka and the world, just alot of the girls i know, logic is lost on them. /aside) is shes not good in bed, you must be like the sculptor gently forming the clay(woman) into something beautiful.

fact is she may not know what you want or maybe shes afraid to get crazy with you, just be gentle and tell her how you like it or w/e. id be happy to be in your situation, tbh. probably just means she hasnt been handled too much in her time, yaknow?

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The Rev

You can fix the bad in bed thing. Having someone who "kills you with love" is a very rare thing. Very rare. And losing such a thing can leave you regretting for YEARS. Maybe your whole life.



The Rev

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~1~

Yeah, so let's invite someone else in to double the chances of it getting all fucked up. You're a broken condom away from having all those plans, woosh, down the shitter.

Other aspects?


Son, it's all one life. Every thread you tug here moves something else on over there.

Keep your shit straight, 'sallimsayin..

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adventure

You know what the right answer is... you keep saying it.... "I know I will regret it" Its like doing hard drugs... You know you shouldnt... it will feel really good right now... but its the wrong thing. You said shes your best friend, you must be on hard drugs because that shit doesn't come around very often. Some people find it when they are 20 some find it when they are 40...
If shes your "best friend" talk to her about the problems with boom booms... and if she loves you so much I'm sure she is willing to try and please you!

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Mafoo

i wouldnt do it in a conversation, id do it during sex. just be like hey is it ok if i hang you upside down and piledrive you a little?

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fenderbender

Can someone tell me in a convincing fashion,

That ill still be able to sex young girls in a few years.

lol on top of havin urges to get inside every pussy i see, im quite scared that ill miss my window of opportunity with dem young girls.

It probably stems from the fact that i feel like i missed out on highschool pussy since i had only one girlfriend at the time and was "in love". Used me hardcore during my highschool years then dumped me right after we graduated.
even though i probably got laid much more then the average highschooler considering i also lived with my hot highschool girlfriend lol. idk i still feel like i missed out though wtf.


I'm starting to feel greedy and selfish thinking about this. I should probably start appreciating what i got more.
I just hope i don't regret shit when she dumps my ass right after i totally fall in love with her...

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fenderbender

and word mafoo. She's litterally the only girl ive met so far to be able to see logic in an argument lol.


im not saying shes always calm cool and collected or anything. She'll lose her shit and be crazy just like the emotionaly driven woman that she is..., but the fact that i can basically Always calm her down and explain the situation to her and she can then get it and push emotions aside in a conflict is fucking amazing.


Every other girl ive known, if emotions are fueling some idea they have in their head, that idea is NEVER changing lol.


like ive actually won arguments and shit... Thats gotta be a good sign of a keeper right?

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you are a moron fb

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Jester4yall

I think you've already found your answer younger one.. It's the girl you got..

Also your outta hs and you got constant pussy.. That's called "winning". You'll still be able to break some off if things don't work out with present girl. Think about it every year,A fresh draft class comes thru a bar door, a supermarket, whatever.. So the fucks will be there but a fuck is just a fuck.

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