DanDomingo

a long time ago my dad dated this lady who had 2 awesome daughters, we ended up caring about each other a lot...in the end because of the toxic relationship i had to leave and i regretted it for a long time, 6-7 years...so much that I ended up staying with a horrible girlfriend just because i didnt want to do the same, but thats besides the point...

well i found them on facebook and they were happy to hear from me...

one of the girls got pregnant at like 15 and i hadn't talked to her in 6-7 years...she called me tonight and wants me to be a part of her life...problem is we both acknowledge we had feelings for each other but she said shes still about her babys dad even though he treats her bad and is always in jail...

should I even bother being a part of her life, i miss her so much and she misses me, but im not sure if i could handle all that kind of drama, she invited me up to stay but im apprehensive...it means a lot her and her sis still remember and care about me...but i think i made a mistake digging into the past...

just wanted some thoughts...

ps, i have avoidant personality disorder which makes it even harder...

osirus2020

To me it sounds like her boyfriend isn't giving her enough attention so she's trying to rope someone else in to be her and her baby's bitch. It just seems odd that suddenly she wants you to be part of her life.

What are your intentions with this girl(s)?

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fenderbender

7 years is a long time brother...

If you do this, it is gonna stir up some mental shit for you. If you think you can handle it i say go for it. Take the trip up and check out the situation.

While you are there be super weary of being played. Be cautious as fuck and make sure to look at her and the scenario from an observer's point of view.

I know you've never really forgotten about these two girls, so you kinda HAVE to go. If you dont you'll always have that "What IF" thing and that sucks...


So yeah.. i think you should go check shit out, Take everything very very slow, and keep in mind how most of the time the past should stay in the past.

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Geeno

Don't get caught in the trap of captain save-a-ho.

It's seriously a trap.

Healthy relationships involve both people meeting each other at positive equal grounds. Since we are the only ones that can help ourselves, people looking for co-dependent relationships are doomed from the beginning.

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rhymeswithcusac

This sounds like a really sticky situation. If you're coming about this from a place of friendship and you in no way, shape, or form feel anything in a romantic way towards her, then I say go for it. It sounds like the girl(s) played an important role in your life, so you'd probably regret at least not checking up on them to see how they are. But if this is coming from a romantic place, then I would not go see her unless she broke it off with her boyfriend and has had some time to heal by herself. You don't want to get caught up in some kind of triangle, especially when there are kids involved.

Ultimately it's your decision to make.

I say smoke on it =)