Bearsy

I can handle my alcohol, and I don't drink often. Now that I've started working it's about once a week, but sometimes not even.

When I'm by myself or just a couple people in a laid back setting (unless I make an active decision to get wasted), I can pace myself and have moderate amounts.

But whenever I'm at a party I'm more or less unable to pace myself and I don't know how to stop drinking.

I only party about once a month, but if every time I go out drinking with friends I black out, then I guess I have some issues to work on.

I black out, get sloppy, get handsy and the next morning when you're sitting around the table with coffee recounting the party, I always end up red with embarrassment. Not to mention the potential damage I'm doing to my body and my wallet.

As usual with my G&S threads, I don't really know where I'm going with this, but I think it's good that I'm able to recognize that I need to work on this and if any of you have any tips/advice I'd appreciate it.

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Don't go to parties.

Sir-Ex

Don't bring as much booze/money. Don't bring your bank card or your credit card.

If it's a house party, just bring your 6 or 12 pack or however much you're intending to drink including an allowable leeway for drinks given to you.

If it's a bar, only bring so much cash and don't have the cards.



That's one way to make it easier if you're the sort that doesn't know how to ch-ch-check yo'self.

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Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

adventure

well congrats on the control you DO have. that's is quite commendable. unfortunately the only real answer is, do not put yourself in that position at all. Your can make the rational decision not to have the 6 or 8th drink, but you can't the 20th. That is understandable and there really is not way to control it. Hanging out in smaller groups is funner anyway!

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my_scatterheart

Not sure I really have advice, because I don't know you very well. I never had an addictive personality, and it was easy for me to quit addictive behaviors and substances if I felt I had a reason to. If I didn't convince myself that I had some legit reason, I didn't bother. So my abuse coupled with depression was hard because I just really didn't give a fuck about any of it.
My advice: Care more. Get it in your mind that it's the end of the goddamn world (if you really want to change). Then change it. Bootstraps.

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The Rev

Maybe drinking like a wildman is just your party habit, one you've had for years. If so, you can change the types of parties you attend, and your drinking will change naturally. My guess is, the kinds of parties you go to now are events where drinking yourself blind is acceptable and even encouraged.



The Rev

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Roach

Try making your parties more of a social event, than a race to oblivion. People want to know you, for who you are, and not what you can turn into. When you inhibit an inhibition you get an action...and alcohol is NOT the solution for lowering your inhibitions.
You seem to be realizing this on your own.
...the difference between "social drinking", and "anti-social drinking".

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Mikey

Maybe try and attend a party or two without drinking, at all....like be the designated driver or something. And once you go to a few without drinking you can slowly pace yourself back in?

I don't know dude. In my experience everything would of always been better if I had just avoided drinking all together.

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Rubix

dont party with people you dno't know or intend on talking to while sober the next day

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wellfleation

The hardest part is admitting your an alcoholic.

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Rubix

even harder is admitting to being a DRUG addict

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Qui-Bong Jinn

pffft, man when I go to parties I do the exact same thing, but I go to parties so seldomly, that I don't really care. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you bro.

What are you two talking about (Rubix & wellfleation)?
He said he doesn't drink that often.

Lloydy

Everyone gets rat arsed and makes a tit of themselves once in a while. Thats what parties are for

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wellfleation

Anyone who drinks to excess has a drinking problem, so I've been told. Normal people don't go out and get wasted. Normal drinkers do not have to "plan" how their drinking will go.

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SageTree

Lots of good advice here Bearman.

Trying having a drink, then water, then a drink, then water....

Two reasons.
One: Your body will be more hydrated and you'll feel better.
Two: Having something in your hand is nearly MORE crucial to the social acceptance over the beverage in the glass.

So on that note...

Maybe enjoy a N/A drink once in a while too?

Or put a shot into a large cup of liquid, so the drunk will be slower, but you'll always be drinking.


But yea...loads of good tips in here.

Good luck man.

Maybe setting up a goal to save money will help you as well?

I really liked the suggestion of not bring too many drinks/too much money/no bank card and stuff like that.

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Lloydy

Yes they do.

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SmokeSomeDoja

^ha!

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shai_hulud

some recognize, few rectify.

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deadhead94

When I drink, I aim to get smashed. I don't do it a lot, so I tend to drink until it becomes acutely unsafe to continue. I don't drink often enough to learn pacing.


I'm not even kind of remotely close to being any kind of booze hound (ie: a normal person) and I get wasted when I go out.

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HTAM

Let's get wrecked and drunk shit!

There are plenty of moments in your life when accomplishing that is imperative.