Wirikuta

if I were you, I´ll dump her right there. I would say something along the lines "you know, I´m sorry but I´m breaking up with you because if this works, you´ll be 61 when I´m 50, that is just nauseating. bye."

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eldizle

sucks getting cheated on. happened to me while i was doing my 45 days. thankfully being in jail kept me from doing that same thing i did previously, which incidentally got me those 45 days in jail.

it certainly doesn't seem like it now, but this is a good thing. it would have only made the break harder the longer it went on.

the ones of us the world doesn't kill, grow strong. you can be hard, but hard men break. strong men endure.

Strong women too, and trannies for sure, but i'm talking to a guy here.

Mafoo

KGB, theres no need to justify her text with a response. she fucked you over, and you did the strongest thing possible by getting out of there in a hurry.

no need to ever talk to her again, shes not going to magically change over night and become faithful, so dont give here the luxury of a response.

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For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

turmaline

Everyone needs to calm down.
Ok..she is a woman coming out of a divorce..you asked her what she wanted..and said "lets wait and see" so you didnt give a definate answer to begin with which could leave her bewildred..seeing you are only 24. she is obv. on the rebound and confused as hell..she may be playing the field but there were no definate boundaries set by the situation you described..you never made it clear..shes checking out which way she wants to go..seeing the "stripper" thing..is a little out there..remember she is rebounding and doesnt know what she wants..you just might be what she wants..just be blunt and ask her...tell her exactly what you want...sex is just sex..intamacy is different..by her reaction..hmmm..peop le are only people.

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turmaline

From an older divirced woman on the rebound.

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Mafoo

^ no. just because someones on the rebound does not excuse bullshit like that, and from what he said in the op, it was a little more than just casual sex going on. plus shes fucking other dudes and putting his health into question by doing so.

bail man.

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Roach

herp da derp.

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turmaline

i agree..she shouldnt be doing every "Tom Dick and Harry" im just saying..you are dating a recently divorced 35 year old woman., who's only been with 4 men in her life.shes going to be playing her cards..just make sure.you tell her exactly what you want....And in regards to safe sex...no one clearly knows their partners history. ..doesnt mean they are unsafe..if this was thecase single people should "never" sleep with other single people.:/

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Silverleaf

If you haven't gotten yourself tested yet, then do so. The answer you get from the clinic, I think, answers whether or not acknowledging her existence from this point on in your life is justified. If you have gotten something (possible if everything you've said is legit which I have no reason to think it's not) you are and continue to be the better person for telling her that you've contracted something, you did not have anything coming into the relationship with her, and you didn't fuck around on her while you were seeing each other.

I don't excuse anything she did, but if she looks at you as some young kid who is away half the month working, she might think that the relationship has been open. Or more likely she's just a ho, but she needs to be told to close her fucking legs and not put anyone else's health at risk if she's harboring any bugs in her cunt. It sounds like a fucked up situation. I'm sorry you have to deal with it, dude. If it's any sympathy, your story reminds me of a place I was in not too far back, and it blows. I'd keep up on the booze and def smoke some kind bud to help keep it out of your head for a while, but be sure to be thinking about yourself as the top priority. Take care of yourself, dude, out of the billions of people on planet earth the odds are good that you'll find someone who will make you forget you ever cared about this bitch in the first place.

It drives me crazy about people, it really seems fucking impossible to find a person who isn't going to shit on your soul when you look up to them or make them your universe or even just prioritize them amongst all the other stimuli we're bombarded with in this fuckin nutso ride we're on. It's hard to keep fucking caring after a while, be strong dude.

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P.s. sleeping with "Dick" is fine..just not "Tom and Harry"

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The Rev

I consider myself to be an expert on the subject of this sort of Woman's Inhumanity to Man. I was cheated on by every serious girlfriend I ever had. Saying "I love you" to a woman was pretty much a guarantee that one day, I'd be crying over her leaving me for another dude.

Here's what I learned, to save yourself from unnecessary pain:

1) Make the break clean and final. Don't try to be friends, don't try to get her back, don't talk to her at all. Even if she comes to you, and you really really want to. It only leads to additional humiliation and disappointment.

2) Don't take it personally. I've had girlfriends who were less than perfect in many ways, but it never "drove me" to cheat. It drove me to deal with the problem, because I'm a mature person. People do what they do because of who they are. So, don't go wondering "What did I do?" because you didn't do anything.

3) It hurts like shit. It WILL hurt like shit. And you just have to ride it out, because there's really nothing you can do to lessen the pain. That being said, spending time with other people like good friends is much healthier than holing up by yourself somewhere.

Well, hang in there man. Getting fucked over sucks on a bunch of levels, but it's not the end of the world. You'll see.



The Rev

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Harry Pothead

See, I don't know why I liked you so much
I gave you all, of my trust
I told you, I loved you, now that's all down the drain
You put me through pain, I wanna let you know how I feel

Fuck what I said it don't mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw 'em out
Fuck all those kisses, they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I don't want you back

Fuck what I said it don't mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw 'em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I don't want you back

You thought, you could
Keep this shit from me, yeah
You burnt bitch, I heard the story
You played me, you even gave him head
Now you asking for me back
You just another act, look elsewhere
Cause you done with me

Fuck what I said it don't mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I don't want you back

Fuck what I said it don't mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I don't want you back

You questioned, did I care
You could ask anyone, I even said
You were my great one
Now it's, over, but I do admit I'm sad.
It hurts real bad, I can't sweat that, cause I loved a hoe

Fuck what I said it don't mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw 'em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I don't want you back

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KGB

Mr T. I clearly made it clear to her that i was serious because on all my days off, i would only spend with her. I spend christmas with her family for heavens sake. I met all her friends and was introduced as her boyfriend and not some boy toy. I told her i cared for her and would go to hell and back for her and her son. We almost bought tickets to Paris the day i found out but i left my wallet in my car and we decided to buy them after the the movie. Good thing that i did.
Thank you for your support and guidance my friends. I was serious about her and i was seriously played and hurt. I cant stop analyzing this whole situation. I think the only thing that makes sense is what Roach said. All the signs point to it. She is just simply sick and needs help. Its heartbreaking that she didn't ask me for help. But after all i think i have strength to forgive, and enough power to forget.
Geeno, your swimming pool comment put a big smile on my face. Thank you for that. I mean that.
V

Peace seeker

KGB, u gotta realize that a woman 35-40 divorced with a kid, has different priorities in her life than a 24yo male.

In my early 20's i had been a boy-toy for a coupla cougars. No big deal.

If u want my honest opinion, at 24yo you re at your prime to be dating HOT girls in their early twenties, not cougars. Trust me when u r 40, you will see the hot girls in their 20's and be like "dayoum!! i want to hit that". But then u ll be married and with two kids and sex wont be your 1st priority. Sleep on the other hand will be (your priority)

So forget your fling with your lady friend. Go out, enjoy, have some beer with your friends and find a nice girl your age. Rebound sex is the greatest.

Dont think u did something wrong and she cheated on you. PEople can cheat even if they have the best person on earth next to them.

you sound like a person with a heart. Find a good girl and focus your energy there.

Harry Pothead

She let a stripper cum inside her, and then came home to spread her new germs to you for Christ sake!!

DON'T FORGIVE HER!! SHE WILL END UP DOING IT AGAIN!!

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KGB

You misunderstood me. Forgive and forget but not take her back. I wouldn't be able to trust her again if I took her back, and then what good is the relationship. I am 110% done with her.

tedkennedy

you sir are talented at giving advice and making metaphors.

KGB, i hope things are working out for you ! thats a sad story...

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ChiefBongWater

It is sad, sad that girls can't just be honest and shit. They're so caught up in they're games...

All i can say is to focus on yourself right now and you will eventually find a better girl.
Maybe start working out, get in great shape... then go swimming and hit up some hotties! Hope all is well with ya ..

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