KGB

Hello my fellow yahookans. Its been a long while since i wrote anything on here. Every time i wrote something that happened to me, i always got great feedback and great advice. When times get tough i always turn here.
As the tittle says, i found out yesterday. I have been dating this woman. She is 11 years older than me. We met at college. She approached me and wanted to hang out. Me being a complete pussy, would never approach a woman like her. Not because she is hot, but because she was way older than me. Women like her are most always married. She was going through divorce. We started to hang out and she turned out to be a great a friend. Soon things became more physical and we started dating. She asked me what i wanted out of this relationship, just to fool around or actually be serious. i told her that we should just wait and see. that was 6 months ago. Things were great. It was obvious that i was serious. She would cook for me and do everything a woman does. I felt loved, not liked. She used to be married to a rig worker and he was addicted to drugs and steroids and would control her. She had a kid with him and then they split up. The kid is great, he is only four years old and i really liked hanging out with him. He liked me too. we would play football, nintendo, xbox, and just hang out. I enjoyed my time spent with him and her.
I have a job that requires me to be out of town for 10 days. Money is great but its sucks being away from home for so long. I told her that its what i do, and if she was cool with it then ok but if not then don't play me. She said ok as long as i didn't do any drugs (which i don't) and not cheat on her ( i never have). She said that she was with only 4 men in her life and she never cheat on any of them. So thing were good. she would text me and i would call her every night. On my days off i would come home and spend time with her and her kid. We would go to see movies and go to amusement parks, restaurants.
Before i went on my days off i asked her to send me a picture of herself and she did. She was all done up and her face was smeared with paint of seduction. I texted her to find out why she was all done up and she said that she was going out with her coworker and her daughter would babysit her kid. I didn't think anything of it. I got home for my days off and something just felt wrong. She said she got her period on the day i got back and said that she doesn't have sex when she is on it. Strange that it was in the middle of the month, on the day i got back. My instinct was telling me that something was wrong, wake up and think. I went on the internet and searched " how to hack facebook" and found this program called keylogger. I downloaded it on her computer. For those who don't know what keylogger is, its a program that records EVRYTHING you do on your computer, and i mean everything you type, search, what movies you watch, what pictures you look at and etc. I waited for her to log in on her facebook. And then we all went out to go see a movie with her and the kid. As always she is kissing me and touching me and it felt good but shit, something was still wrong. So when we got back to her place, i checked keylogger and sure enough, there was her password. I logged in and found emails from two guys. one was a male stripper and one i have no idea. and she was flirting with them and setting up dates while i was gone. The night she went out with her cooworker, she facebooked the male stripper to come with them and have drinks but could not have sex because there were kids at her place. So she asked for rain check. She described how she enjoyed him cumming in her. The other guy was the same thing. The worst thing is, I checked the dates and it has been going on since the day i met her. I closed her laptop and went to her bedroom and packed all my shit up. i was so hot and filled with rage that i couldn't think, i couldn't speak, i just wanted to break everything in sight. After i got my shit packed, i went to the living room and took my phone and went to put my boots on. She was puzzled and asked me what was wrong. I didn't answer, but in her eyes i could tell that she knew what was going on. The only thing i could say was how could she do that to me.
Fellas i dont know what i did wrong but its killing me. i fell for her and wanted her, i had so many chances to cheat on her but never did because i knew that my Sarah was waiting for me at home. Well little did i know. She hasn't called me or texted me since last night when all of this happened. Guys i need advice and strategies on how to handle this. Last night i couldn't sleep, all i could think about is the emails i read and visioning all of it. i threw up a few times, tried to get drunk but couldn't, smoked two packs of cigarettes and i don't even smoke. There is a constant battle in my mind about her. love her but she doesn't love me but maybe she did it because i am so much younger than her and she had doubts about me staying with her. i don't know what to do. i Just can justify her actions. Everyone has reason for why they do things. But this is beyond me.
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Mafoo

first off, im really sorry that someone could be so heartless, and that you had to be on the recieving end of all this.

secondly, you say you dont know what you did wrong... you didnt do anything wrong. sounds like shes a lowlife, and i doubt your behavior had anything to do with her acting this way.

i wouldnt try to make much sense of any of it. i think it just comes down to the fact that some people are not worth caring for, and it looks like you found one. probably kinda hard to hear that, but i think its the truth.

as for handling it.. time is your best friend. youll probably think about it alot for a while, but eventually youll think about it less, and after that youll eventually think about it not at all.

sorry man, some peolple are just like that i guess.

how old are you btw?

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HTAM

Sorry you were kicked in the balls. I just don't think there is much else to say to you about this.

So...here's what you do.

Walk away. No calls, no texts, no interaction. Not interested.

The truth? You were played. You know how I know that? I've been played.

Walk away.

You can't maintain a relationship with a liar, platonic or intimate.

Mafoo

ya thats the best advice,imo. im also speaking from experience here.

if you try to confront her it wont make you feel any better.

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SageTree

Thanks for sharing man.

Good advice in here so far.

It sucks when it's happening, but in a couple of weeks, a couple of months, a couple of years.... you perspective will grow.

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Roach

sounds like she has a sex problem.

As that seems to be of more interest than a relationship to her.

based on your post/observations.

many guys fantisize about nymphomaniacs.

The reality is not so good.

Nymphomania is a mental disorder marked by compulsive sexual behavior. Compulsions are unwanted actions, or rituals, that a person engages in repeatedly without getting pleasure from them or being able to control them. In the case of nymphomania, people act out their compulsions by engaging in risky behaviors such as promiscuity. Whether or not nymphomania qualifies as a true mental illness is often debated in the medical community, but evidence suggests that compulsive sexual behavior is a real and serious illness.

Nymphomania - Symptoms, Causes, Treatments - Better Medicine

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Sir-Ex

Forget about that bitch, man.


But see the love you had for her as something good about yourself and don't lose that.

Your capacity to love is more important than your hate for an evil slut,.

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Smile

Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

wellfleation

Male strippers are usually gay or bi. She has unprotected and let's guys blow loads in her. She's an AIDS factory. I would get tested.

I would be more upset that she was selfish enough to expose you than the fact she cheated on you.

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KGB

Thanks brothers. Wellfleation you are right FUCK.
She just texted me and said her kid misses me. like what am i supposed to do? i haven't replied yet.

Geeno

Don't reply bro.

You need to come to terms with the fact that this shit is over, asap.

Dont even consider seeing her again.

edit: dont even dump your rage on her, dont give her any closure

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my_scatterheart

block her number and order a pizza

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Geeno

yeah fuck cigs too man go get a big greasy cheeseburger and a beer

seriously though dont develop some shitty habbit just because you got burned, its a bad play

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Terry

Fuck her, dump her. Sucks you can't see the kid anymore sounded like you two got on well enough but fuck that ho, seriously.

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Roach

autographed photo ?

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wellfleation

Oh, she's good. I guess it's not above her to use her kid even. Wow.

Run very fast.

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FIGHTPOWER

HTAM

Listen to me when I tell you not to buy into that.

WallStreet

She's a cum dumpster - don't wanna be swimmin' in others guys puddin' - do ya???

Geeno

Breaking things off is like jumping in to a cold pool

Dont be that faggot that sticks one leg in at a time.

hold you breath do a cannonball and then a handstand, then splash some people and see how long you can hold your breath for. After that do a couple laps and scope out the chairs to see if any hotties showed up.


Damn i miss swimming.

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