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Old 04-23-2012, 10:21 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Snitch or not to snitch.

What do you guys think? So pretty much my ex girlfriend has a boy friend. She and I hooked up for awhile after we broke up and she was with the new boyfriend. Now my belief has been that its between them to figure that out.
However this weekend (I haven't hooked up with her in months) she hit me up pretty much demanding sex. I couldn't as I was busy hanging with my cousin and always believe in "bro's before hoes". She never was this pushy about sex before.
I ran into her old friend at a music festival yesterday and we were talking about her and their crew was surprised I didn't have moral qualms about not telling the current boy friend.
All these events have got me thinking

I don't really want to be a relationship killer but obviously the poor sap is just wasting his time I do kinda feel bad for the guy. So guys who had girlfriends that were cheating on them. Would you rather of known the truth or continued living in a happy illusion?

Also there is to consider she I am sure will be totally pissed but at this point I'm not too sure how much I even care. Glad I see her true nature now and sure hope she never deceived me when I was with her.
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Old 04-23-2012, 10:24 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Yea I stopped doing that although its hard honestly if I wasn't busy at the time I would have seriously considered it. Sucks how much power a hot body and nice pussy have over me. The issue I am more considering is wether the guy should be told or if its better to just stay away and let them worth it out.
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hmmmm I would tell him if I was in your situation .. I think.. it's hard to really say since I wouldn't knowingly put myself in your situation.

IF I did have a one night stand with a girl NOT knowing that she was with another guy, and then later found out that there was, I wouldn't say shit.


But you knew before hand and still did..

so..


basically if this guy's a nice guy, you and her are both dickheads and I don't care what you do lol
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you should tell him in some anonymous fashion, therefor you save him from a lieing cheating bitch, and then since she doesnt know it was you ... you can rawdogandbail the horny hotty after.


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id want to be told if i was getting cheated on...
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I was happy to hear the truth, when I was with my sons whorish mother, not joyous happy, but happy to have someone man up and let me know what was going on, being super trusting and woking 8 hrs away all week kept me unaware of what was going on. So I guess tell him is what im getting at. At least find a way to let him know. My opinion..
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You should deff tell him. This bish thinks she can get away with this kind of shit and will only continue to commit these treasonous acts.

If the dude was phucking around, you can bet your pants off she'd go ape shit.
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Yep tell him.

You fucked up by letting her manipulate you TBH, but feel no qualms about telling the truth.
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I take it you want nothing to do with her so do the bloke a favour and tell him.
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Why do you owe this guy anything? You aren't friends with him. She was in the relationship and she needs to own it.

You will be creating un-necessary drama and for what? Just be great full you got laid and don't needlessly start lighting fires.

I'm sensing an underlying motive here. Sounds to me like you may still have feelings for the dirty little whore. Just be sure you are being honest with yourself.
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If she gets outed, rather than being the one to tell him, he at least gets the upper hand in the break up, which will save him from feeling like a complete tool during those first, totally irrational weeks of emotional pain. Take it from a guy who's been dumped for other dudes on multiple occasions. All you think about, before you finally get your head wrapped around it, is how you not only lost something you thought you had, but you got totally pwned in the process. It's a shitty place to be.



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On the other hand, if you tell him that it was YOU who was fucking her, he might wanna kick your ass, and it will still feel like pwnage. It would be better to have a mutual friend out both you and the girlfriend. He'll be less likely to seek you out for vengeance than just go apeshit on you in the moment, and it will save his ego from, "Dude, I don't know how to tell you this, but your girl's been guzzling my pecker milk for the last 6 months..." That never goes over.



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It's not snitching IMO.
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no its not, its helping out a fellow dude, and putting the dumb lying bitch in her place.
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^One would only feel so strongly negative towards another only if they cared one way or the other.

If you truly don't care about her then let it go. This other guy needs to fight his own battles - I try to worry about myself and not worry about others I'm not vested in, generally speaking. I don't understand how this benefits you in any way or what you would be trying to accomplish by telling him.
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Why do you owe this guy anything? You aren't friends with him. She was in the relationship and she needs to own it.

You will be creating un-necessary drama and for what? Just be great full you got laid and don't needlessly start lighting fires.

I'm sensing an underlying motive here. Sounds to me like you may still have feelings for the dirty little whore. Just be sure you are being honest with yourself.
Thanks wellfleation. You got a point I not sure how I truly feel but I don't want to be telling him cause I am mad at her. I'll think about it some more once time passes.

I do agree it would most likely cause me a lot of drama. Drama I would like to avoid. I hope the guy figures it out on his own.
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