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Old 10-11-2012, 01:21 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Well the inevitable happened

We were together 3 years, I knew something had changed in the way she was acting the past 5 or so months. the letters she used to write me saying how much she loved me, the attention and intimacy together. it all stopped.

my first love, the first girl i ever kissed, the first i ever made love to. 3 years dedicated to her, not a day passed in which she wasn't on my mind. everywhere around me there are reminders of what we had. photos of us together, letters pinned up that she wrote to me. drawing. the keyrings on my keys, the pictures on my phone. the reminder of what we used to have.

i feel numb with pain and like i want to throw up. she admitted what I already knew, that she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. from loving me to death to just loving me as a friend.
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Old 10-11-2012, 06:17 AM   #2 (permalink)
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i'm really sorry dude.

i understand what you're going through, and i hated hearing this myself but time heals all wounds.

just try to focus on positive stuff and keep yourself busy.

but i'm sorry, that really sucks.

hated to hear this too but just try not to dwell on it

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Old 10-11-2012, 06:21 AM   #3 (permalink)
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It's weird isn't it.. you knew for a while.. but are still not ready for it when it happens/ But.. now..



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Old 10-11-2012, 06:25 AM   #4 (permalink)
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It's weird isn't it.. you knew for a while.. but are still not ready for it when it happens/ But.. now..



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you can be a real insensitive piece of shit sometimes mesc.

"hey, looks like you knew your relationship was in the shitter for a while! let me play you the song of my people *links youtube video of chick playing violin* "
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Old 10-11-2012, 06:28 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Moi!? Insensitive!?

Just saying.. NOW he is free!

Always look on the bright side of life yo. If she felt like he wasn't the 'one' for her.. then it is in Clive's interest that it finished sooner rather than later.. even though it sucks balls at the moment.

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Google translate..

Yes, you, you're a osti asshole.
collise going to shit.

I will take it as a compliment. Thanks.

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it was something like that.

still.
my heart goes out to clive.
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Old 10-11-2012, 08:38 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry, Clive! Just keep reminding yourself that no matter how much it doesn't seem true, it will get better. We all have relationships that seem like the real deal, only to realize much later in life that those were learning experiences, preparing us for something even better. One day you will thank her for helping you to grow as a man and teaching you many life lessons about being with another human being. I've been through a shitty, gut-wrenching breakup myself and I feel for you. All I can say is that I hope it passes quickly because I know you'll be okay in the long run.
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i hope so. i feel like im having a bad dream.
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Old 10-11-2012, 09:20 AM   #12 (permalink)
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This is the worst life will ever be. This is as bad as it will ever get. When you get through it, and you will, you'll know that you could weather anything. Not much solace now, but really, there are no words that can make this feel any less shitty.



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Old 10-11-2012, 09:38 AM   #13 (permalink)
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thanks for trying guys but nothing is going to get me over this.
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Trust me dude time will. Just be happy it wasn't more years and a kid or two involved. If it wasn't going to work out best you find out now. I'm sorry dude
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thanks mikey i really feel for you too. how are you feeling these days are things getting easier yet?
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Oh dude, my heart goes out to you!
I know the feeling... you feel her pulling away, but you tell yourself, "stop you are being silly, she still loves me" but deep down you know better....

well at least that part is over... no more wondering. I think that part is the worse... its all you think about, the wheels turn in overdrive... now you know, what you have known deep inside for a while.
I know you might not want to, but get out. Be around people... and not us people... really people, laugh, flirt it will be good for you.
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thanks for trying guys but nothing is going to get me over this.
what about this gif:







what about this gif posted a bunch of times in a row?






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it DOES eventually get easier man



like 6 months ago i was basically suicidal, and that shit has passed even while sitting in a room wallowing in it for months.

If you go out and live life a bit it'll probably half that time at least lol.


freal tho, i know you wont believe us, but itll pass.

Truth is part of you probably doesnt want it to pass, but it will one way or another.
Best just accept things for how they are and roll with it.


also, i know it is gonna be incredibly hard(near impossible even so you should just have someone else do it or something maybe?) but you should get rid of like EVERYTHING you can that has a memory of her attached to it. Burn that shit and move on.

It will cut down your miserable time considerably.

If you have any money saved up i say you bail for a long vacation too. The same scenery can be a bitch during times like this.. fuck your shitty job, you can get another one.


just dont get all hopeless. You are gonna be miserable yeah, but in the back of your head KNOW that things will eventually brighten up a bit for ya because we are Telling you that is what happens.
It is one of the harder lessons ive learned.. that your love wasnt all that unique and most of us have had an experience just like this so you should listen and trust what we say when we tell you the pain will lessen.

As long as you know(or keep telling yourself UNTIL you know) it'll eventually be OK in the back of your head, then things will be fine.


Good luck man.

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Old 10-11-2012, 10:49 AM   #19 (permalink)
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there's part of me that still hopes she will realise that we had something special. it's stupid of me though and will only continue the pain
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