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Old 05-03-2014, 12:53 PM   #1 (permalink)
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EX is saying she is pregnant.

Holy fuck you guys. i am very scared right now. I think i might have fucked up big. Me and my ex dated for 5 months and it was a very shitty relationship. I would not call or text her for weeks at a time and she still tired like hell to make us work. She is 22 and i am 26. We never used protection and i always pulled out (FUCKING IDIOT!!!!!)
So on the 4th of april my ex and me had a talk about what would happen if she got pregnant. I told her that i am not ready to be a dad, financially, mentally. She is not ready because she only works 10 hours a week at a convinience store, starting school next month, and had just enough money for rent and utilities and thats IT!! Her answer was i had abortion when i was 16 and i am not sure i can go through it again because it fucked her up mentally.
Two weeks go by without any contact, i decide to break up with her. I did and it went well, she agreed. 4 days later she calls me and tells me she is pregnant. i booked it to her house and brought 2 pregnancy kits to her house. she is 2 weeks and 6 days pregnant as of today. She did blood work two days ago, and has ultra sound this tuesday. I offered her a ride to both of them and she said her friends and her mom will give a ride so not to worry about it. I asked her to pee on the two kits i brought over and she said that she didnt want to pee and will do it and text me a pic of it (DA FAQ?) then she showed me kit that she used to find out and it showed ( yes with 2 positives on the display). She is giving me and out and told me to take two days to think about everything. I called her the next day and said i want to be at the ultra sound and wanted to know time and place. She said she had to ask her mom, since she booked the appointment. (wierd she didnt know the place and time) then half hour later she texts me and says she doesnt feel comfortable with me being there because of the way i was when she told me ( scared, clueless, helpless), and that i was NOT ready to hear the heartbeat and know the due date of the baby....( at three weeks??). She is saying she has mad headaches, morning sickness, and tired, sensitive breasts. That night i tried to meet up with her and talk in person and she was at her grandpas house that night, the next night she was going to pedicure and massage with her friend to relax. while i am running around scared shitless. she doesnt call me or texts me, she blocked me on facebook. I messaged her dad and told him to contact me. 20 minutes later she calls and freaks out because her dad called her and wanted to know whats up. She was furious!!! well she wasnt communicating with me so what was i supposed to do? Her dad calls me later and we talk and he said that he supports her descision either way. I told him that this isnt fair to me and that we should consider abortion and that it would be the most logical solution since she has no money, no job, and starts school next month. /
So here are the things i find very suspicious.
1) she will not do a pregancy test in from of me.
2) she will not tell me results from blood test.
3) Heartbeat and due date at week 3?????
4) All the pregnancy symptoms are very early and shes had them for the last two weeks, so they started after week one.
5) She is my Ex now and how convieniet for her to get pregnant right after we break up and she knows i cant want kids.
6) her best friend works in the lab and deals with these issues everyday........( not suspicious at all. She shows me a positive test but will not due a test for me in my presence)
7) Her diet is non existant, she eats a salad and thats it. She sleeps about 4,5 hours a day if that.
8) She is always stressed out with not getting hours at work and going to school and not having money.

Overall i think that this whole situation is very fishy. not doing test in my presence, doesnt want me in babies life or hers now, didnt want to give me date to ultra sound, not talking to me, hiding it from her dad and freaking out when he found out, hanging out with her friends when i am freaking out and we have a big descicion on our hands while she is out relaxing. When she told me she was pregnant she was very calm, not panicked. Said after i left, she cried for hours. She threw up when she told me she was pregnant, but ran into the bathroom and locked the door and was "throwing up". It just seems so fishy.
what do you guys think ? i fucked up big and need help guys
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Old 05-03-2014, 12:59 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Wait and see if it's real.

If it's real get a paternity test when it's born.

If it's yours, get a court order for child support, stay out of your ex's life, and make your payments.



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Ok hun... take a deep breath.

In all honesty, It DOES sound like she is lying. I don't see why she wouldn't take the test in front of you. Ok maybe not in FRONT of you... but with you there... you get what I mean. She really said "I don't want to pee?" wtf?
You are right her symptoms seem early. Umm... I don't have much experience with this, but I'm not even sure a test would come up positive this early.
This all seems like something a little girl would do... how old is she?

Edit: oh I saw... 22. Ya, dumb little girl shit.

OK, that being said, I still feel you should be preparing for the possibility that she may be pregnant or trying to get pregnant. It's not unheard of for girls to go get pregnant by Guy B to trap Guy A. You need to be writing all this down. The dates and the contact you had with her, or lack of contact. What was said, what she did. It all seems sketchy as fuck and can help you in a paternity case. Seriously, just do it. It wouldn't hurt.

IMO I really wouldn't trip out THAT much. You will probably get some notification in the near future telling you she lost the baby.
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Old 05-03-2014, 01:19 PM   #5 (permalink)
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In the meantime she has to stay away from you because she doesn't want to have to act pregnant all the time.
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Damn, IDK how they get thru 9 months of that
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Sorry for the multiple posts I just keep thinking of shit.

I would continue to call her dad if she continues to avoid you. Play the concerned father AND piss her off. You deserve to know what is going on with your child. (real or imaginary) And again, write it all down.
HOWEVER, don't keep bringing up abortion. It's not good if it looks like you are trying to pressure her. Especially when speaking to her parents.
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It does seem extremely early but if it's true, then go with what Sir-Ex said.

Solid advice right there.
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My son who is 28 has had this happen to him and some of his friends.
It seems to be the "thing" to do by some young women who think playing mind games is a form of revenge. She is full of shit, and exaggerating symptoms to fire you up.3 weeks into a pregnancy is a little early to have all that exact info and far to early for most women to experience morning sickness. As mentioned above, be ready for the "Miscarriage "news as she runs out of dumb things to jerk your chain with.
Tell her you went for a test too and found out you're sterile due to a sports injury when you were younger.
If you were not seeing each other regularly you can be sure she was having sex on the side or she would have been calling you daily as most insecure 22 year olds can't stand to be ignored especially in todays world of texts and everyone carrying their celly.
If she's pregnant, demand a paternity test.
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Ya lol I have thousands of kids and not one of them I knew 3 weeks into.

Even the first two when I had morning sickness like the exorcist... Which didn't occur until months into the pregnancy and that was with twins.

Paternity test.. Don't sign any birth certificates!
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I texted her today and to see how she was doing and to my surprise she answered. Every text message had something to do with her pregnancy. Her health is fine and she picked up PARENTAL VITAMINS....everythi ng else is good except the SICKNESS.....did her blood work and results were "fine" after i asked her about it. Said they gave her a prescription after blood test ??????....She said she went to the mall and bought some stuff for the "peanut", like what could she buy with no money and not knowing the sex of the baby?
It just seems absolutely ridiculous !! her blood test was "fine" and she got a prescription? Does that sound normal at all guys? Or is this bitch absolutely crazy?
At this point i have ZERO evidence that she is pregnant other then the preg test she showed me but i was not there when she did it and her best friend works in the lab with this shit. all i have to go on is her word.
When i talked to her dad he seemed very calm about this whole thing and said that if i want to leave then leave, baby will be fine. Like what kind of dad would say that to the guy who supposedly knocked up his little girl and wants nothing to do with her? just seems very unrealistic.
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sounds like you're making things way more complicated than it needs to be, tell her to take a piss test while you're there otherwise stop texting you. thats all there is to it
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sounds like you're making things way more complicated than it needs to be, tell her to take a piss test while you're there otherwise stop texting you. thats all there is to it
I agree with Clive.

Whyd you have to go and make things so complicated?
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The thing is, last time i said that she got super angry and said she didnt want to pee and will text me a pic of it when she does do it.... OH OK! then we talked on the phone and i told her that nothing is adding up and i want to see her do the test and she freaked out again and said WOW i cant believe you would say that. and thats it. She is hiding something. You guys agree?
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Yes that's why do what Clive said.
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lol you poor kid

I'm sorry that you are letting her get to you. Sounds like the standard package of crazy.
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Even if it's obvious she's fucking with you (and it seems obvious) it's such a big thing that I can't see how you wouldn't be freaking out, at least a little. When it's all over, I think you are going to be really, really pissed off.

Try to be patient and wait it out. This is going to turn out alright, believe me.



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So i just texted her and wanted to meet up and she said she is with her mom and is staying with her for a few days. i asked her if i could pick her up to go eat something and she said no and doesnt want me at the ultrasound because of the way i acted. But said she will send me a pic ( text message i figure)
i ask her the symptoms and she said she is excited to find out what kind of food the baby eats, says there are a lot of things she cant eat. I asked her how far along is she and she said she doesnt know exactly ( but last time it was 2 weeks and 4 days) but the ultrasound will say. Asked her is there still movement in her belly and she says she feels her body change and feels fluttering and makes her tummy make noise. Said that her doctor said that she has about another month of sickness and prescribed her some organic pills.
sound legit?
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Are you keeping in contact with her to find out if this is all legitamite?

It might give her the wrong idea about your intentions.
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Ya the baby is maybe the size of a grain of rice.

She's lying.

Quit communicating.

She's messing with your head.
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Yeah as I was saying in the post I deleted, there's no movement in a 2.5 week embryo.. but I thought, well there can be some physical reaction on the part of the mom at that point.. bloating or whatever.


But man whatever, whether it's true or not, you don't want a life with this girl. Having a kid's a big deal and if she's the sort of person that's going to hide the whole experience from you.. plus the fact that you guys had a shitty relationship to begin with.. just stay away man. Focus on something else, take the law into your hands if need be and protect yourself when the time comes, and keep your head straight.
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