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Old 09-09-2014, 05:13 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Go book a nice family vacation in a romantic spot like San Francisco or Vancouver. Get a really nice hotel and then just mention to him casually that he's coming ,and that he paid for it because he's an inconsiderate asshole.
He has no argument.
Also say "You can call your ex and bring her along for this too if you want and when were done I'll book another vacation, until you get it.
Do not expect him to read your mind. we don't do that. Explain, without whining that you are not happy and do not wish to deal with this type of scenario again.
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Old 09-09-2014, 05:17 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 09-09-2014, 05:23 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Ugh, shitty situation.

I'd think about your level of happiness w the relationship before you heard this news. Do you want to get back to that level or do you want to potentially let this decision ruin your relationship? Don't do anything drastic.

I think at this point you have to either 1) go and deal with it or 2) be willin to pay the cost of her flight to have her not come.

Does your husband realize how much he fucked up and why?
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Old 09-09-2014, 05:41 PM   #24 (permalink)
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Trust me, he definitely knows I'm upset. But I decided I am not going to fight about it anymore. I refuse to fight over her... at least not right now. When we get to Vegas, if she want's to play tag-along or tries to in any way elbow her way into MY time with MY family I will make it perfectly clear to her how unwelcome she is. If hubby has a problem with that, we can resume the fighting.
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Old 09-09-2014, 05:50 PM   #25 (permalink)
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this is the type of thing that would make me hesitant to get involved with someone that has a kid
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Just remind him that from now until then it's just hands stuff...
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Old 09-09-2014, 06:14 PM   #27 (permalink)
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this is the type of thing that would make me hesitant to get involved with someone that has a kid

So like.. just kill my dreams about the future, just like that huh Geeno?
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Sucks though cause not only are you getting involved with a person and their child...

but that childs biofather and other biofamily slightly removed

fuuuuuck thats a lot
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yes you're over reacting.
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You are not overreacting.

It is not up to your husband.. To establish a relationship between his child and the child's mother. That's between the mother and the child.

Your husband is a dumbass.

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This is why I no longer engage with my ex.

He does not exist in my world.

My children were created in a test tube.
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You are not overreacting.

It is not up to your husband.. To establish a relationship between his child and the child's mother. That's between the mother and the child.

Your husband is a dumbass.

I'd be fuckin pissed the fuck off fucktard dick shittyBALlZ!!

They must not get along but is it all really related to that old hag?
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You are not overreacting.

It is not up to your husband.. To establish a relationship between his child and the child's mother. That's between the mother and the child.

Your husband is a dumbass.

I'd be fuckin pissed the fuck off fucktard dick shittyBALlZ!!



This is why I no longer engage with my ex.

He does not exist in my world.

My children were created in a test tube.
he's the father of your children. he most certainly exists. There has to be some good reasons you two got together.
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Ya I needed to network. He knew alot of people.

So back to the original topic.

There is no reason for the two parents to get back together and confuse the child by going on vacation.
Like I said. The father has no business trying to establish a relationship between the child and the mother. That's the mothers business.. If she can't do that herself. Then well. She's showing what kind of a mother she really is...vice versa for the dads.
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this lady shadow wont hush up about that old hag..

slip some cyanide in her oatmeal or something
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what what???? the f you want
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It's her thread. You should chill.
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