YaHooka Forums  

Go Back   YaHooka Forums > Helpful Buds > Guidance And Support
Home FAQ Social Groups Links Mark Forums Read

Guidance And Support Questions and issues of a serious nature including health, medicinal cannabis use, personal issues, relationship issues, communication problems, parenting, cross-generational issues, problems with parents, giving up and overcoming obstacles.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 12-04-2015, 10:25 PM   #1 (permalink)
Hippie slayer
 
Bondi Bad Dog's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: up in your bitch is where you might find me
Posts: 2,943
Thanks: 908
Thanked 1,371 Times in 776 Posts
Self-Harm

Just found out that my 10 year old daughter is cutting herself. She has 7 or 8 cuts on her hand in a neat line. She admitted to doing them at school.

She has told me and her therapist but is too scared to tell her mom.
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Captain Cannabis View Post
sometimes you just gotta agree with bondi.
Quote:
Originally Posted by stoneric View Post
I like Iranian donkey dick,.
Quote:
Originally Posted by slunt View Post
There is no political correctness in FFA
Quote:
Originally Posted by silverleaf View Post
It's probably just you. Marijuana users tend to be mentally ill and the THC just exacerbates their shortcomings as human beings. You can't believe anything a pot-head says, they're all incompetent and unreliable, not to mention liars and murders.
Quote:
Originally Posted by kitch View Post
God I hate being on bondi's side

Video meliora probeque deteriora sequor.
Bondi Bad Dog is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Bondi Bad Dog For This Useful Post:
kamikazi89 (12-05-2015), mothernature (12-05-2015)
Old 12-04-2015, 10:39 PM   #2 (permalink)
KONERS!
 
turmaline's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: CANADA
Posts: 9,546
Thanks: 5,113
Thanked 9,771 Times in 4,572 Posts
She has told you so she trusts you and is aware it's a problem or not right at least.. Probably starting puberty. Puberty will fuck a kid up, especially girls. If she gets moody.. Don't try to hard to understand.. Just steer clear!

I always ask my kid.. ". Do you think it's because your coming into your period you're being so moody?" And then she gets a lightbulb moment and chills.

10 is young but not too young to have a talk about it and don't be a fraud because you're a guy. Just do it matter of fact.

Poor kid.
Hope she'll be okay.
__________________
BONERZ!


"I browse at work. If some nerd had a problem with dicks I'd stare him in the eyes then magnify the picture in question without saying a word."

"Shit is cash I love to lose myself to narrative while simultaneously soaking in nature and watching the frogs bang."
__________________
Terry


"NCC: A Cautionary Tale of Condoms and Crises", OR "YOLO: Ballsack Barnacles & Babies"

silverleaf
turmaline is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-04-2015, 10:47 PM   #3 (permalink)
KONERS!
 
turmaline's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: CANADA
Posts: 9,546
Thanks: 5,113
Thanked 9,771 Times in 4,572 Posts
3rd post in a row.
Confession.
I used to hurt myself (not cutting) because my mother was mentally and emotionally abusive. Dad the same.
Just saying.
I did it out of extreme frustration and self hatred because I felt worthless , useless and it still effects me today.
Maybe ask what she needs from you or how you can help.
Keep it simple though and don't pressure or interrogate.
__________________
BONERZ!


"I browse at work. If some nerd had a problem with dicks I'd stare him in the eyes then magnify the picture in question without saying a word."

"Shit is cash I love to lose myself to narrative while simultaneously soaking in nature and watching the frogs bang."
__________________
Terry


"NCC: A Cautionary Tale of Condoms and Crises", OR "YOLO: Ballsack Barnacles & Babies"

silverleaf
turmaline is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to turmaline For This Useful Post:
Bondi Bad Dog (12-04-2015)
Old 12-05-2015, 02:48 AM   #4 (permalink)
ancientbongmaster
 
mothernature's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 3,703
Thanks: 8,672
Thanked 4,265 Times in 2,068 Posts
I know you must be worried, I would be too. It's good she has people to talk to and a loving dad by her side.
__________________
Sometimes sleep is the best revenge- Luke



BLACK LIVES MATTER


RESIST
mothernature is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to mothernature For This Useful Post:
kamikazi89 (12-05-2015), reverie (12-05-2015)
Old 12-05-2015, 07:25 AM   #5 (permalink)
Al Talib
 
Sage Tree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2000
Posts: 33,786
Blog Entries: 26
Thanks: 20,356
Thanked 13,912 Times in 8,710 Posts
No profound insights here.... I agree it's good you're having a discussion instead of having her committed like some folks would've.
__________________
Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.
Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmi



#BLACKLIVESMATTER

Sage Tree is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-05-2015, 11:43 AM   #6 (permalink)
Life is Subtext
 
The Rev's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Samsara
Posts: 25,267
Thanks: 14,936
Thanked 11,465 Times in 5,548 Posts
I have a cousin who cut herself when she was younger. She explained that the sensation tended to hit the reset button when she felt overwhelmed with feelings and anxiety. She was never suicidal, tho. Cutting was just a way to handle her feelings. I don't know if that info helps, but it's all I got.



The Rev
__________________


Budforce - My Friend
August 29, 1973- May 25, 2012


The Rev is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to The Rev For This Useful Post:
Bondi Bad Dog (12-05-2015), kamikazi89 (12-05-2015), turmaline (12-05-2015)
Old 12-05-2015, 06:00 PM   #7 (permalink)
Trapeze Artist
 
reverie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,481
Thanks: 2,294
Thanked 1,904 Times in 955 Posts
10? Gosh that seems so young. I'm so sorry your lil girl is experiencing this.

Patience is mostly what I feel I can really recommend, as the problem likely won't be solved immediately. It's great that she is seeing a therapist, and able to tell you. Maybe help her identify when she typically cuts (what instances lead up to it) could be a good way to bring some awareness to the act, as well as trying to minimize and help her cope with stress in her life.
__________________
"The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in."
-Jelaluddin Rumi

"Not self-wrought is this puppet form,
Nor other-wrought this mass of woe;
Condition-based it comes to be
Condition-ceased it endeth, lo."
-Sister Sela

#BLACKLIVESMATTER
reverie is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to reverie For This Useful Post:
kamikazi89 (12-05-2015)
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 08:01 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2
Inactive Reminders By Icora Web Design