The key to happiness

TheGrandPuba · 02-28-2009, 05:14 PM

is not giving a shit.

Also, drugs.

Mercury · 02-28-2009, 07:48 PM

I'm gonna have to disagree 100%. My philosophy is that if a person wants to be happy they need to completely give a shit.

For example, your house stinks? Light a candle. Your clothes don't fit right? Get them tailored. You're not feeling well? Eat something that's good for you.

Give a shit.... Also, drugs.

TheGrandPuba · 02-28-2009, 08:01 PM

We can agree on the drugs..

But giving a shit just makes you angry/causes pain..... I've been really depressed for the last 7 years of my life.. give or take, and I chalk it all up to caring about what's fucked up in this world.

I no longer care, I'm no longer depressed

shelbert008 · 02-28-2009, 08:03 PM

I would say moderation is the key to happiness.

The Rev · 03-01-2009, 11:08 AM

Especially in moderation.

Happiness is about focus. If you're focused on shit all day, that's how you're going to feel. If you're focused on the good, then that's how you will feel. The problem is, most of us unhappy people are habitually focused on the negative. I think the media, especially in the US, has a hand in this.

The Rev

**Mafoo** · 03-01-2009, 11:30 AM

^ i agree with the media comment, rev. it seems like they broadcast more and more stories about what you should be fearing as an american. people like my mother buy into that and live with fear of whats lies just out the front door of the house.
i try to tell her that, yes, negativity exists in the world, but we cant be paralyzed by it, and we shouldnt dwell on the negativity, rather we should recognize it for what it is and move on seeking the positive aspects of life.

**SageTree** · 03-01-2009, 12:16 PM

Not giving a shit sort sounds similiar to the idea that nonattachment to the outcomes of our work will lead to less suffering/expectations.

I don't know if I'd say its the same thing for this thought. It's kind of the apathetic sounding side of the coin, but hey man, whatever works for you.

I agree totally with the Rev though. Having a PMA goes along way in seeing the brighterside when things are less than splendid, and keeps you flexable about what to do with then unexpected......alth ough, not giving a shit is a broad brush stroke.

Perhaps, Don't give a shit with a positive outlook would be good though. I wouldn't phrase myself as a don't give a shit, in my words, but I would say I'm usually whatever if people want me to do something...' sure whatever I'm not up to anything '

rambllllllllllllllll lllllle,
Sage

slapstick · 03-01-2009, 12:19 PM

personally, I say the secret to being happy is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.

Qui-Bong Jinn · 03-01-2009, 02:21 PM

A bong and half an ounce of weed, is my key to happiness.

Lord X · 03-01-2009, 05:36 PM

The key to happiness is simply rolling with the waves. You are just a leaf floating in the breeze and you have little control of what you are doing. Try as you might you cannot change your path as dramatically as you wish. If you just realize that there are things you can control and things you cant, you will be happy. Just roll with the punches, and do what little you can.

Xil · 03-01-2009, 05:58 PM

Dont just tune shit out completely. I tuned out all negative aspects in my life and it did get rid of my depression/thoughts of suicide but now my life hasn't moved in the direction i want and i can feel a wave of depression coming on like never before.

So i guess what i'm saying is its ok to be apathetic, just don't try to tune out the negative completely. Its like the AA thing, however it goes. Feel satisfaction by working to fix what you can, and accept what you can not fix.

Grieves · 03-01-2009, 06:18 PM

the key is honesty...

do you mask feeling under 'happiness'/drugs....or are you truly happy...

Nothing will ever feel right if you can't be first be honest with what's really going on, big picture and smalll...

Lord X · 03-01-2009, 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xil

Dont just tune shit out completely. I tuned out all negative aspects in my life and it did get rid of my depression/thoughts of suicide but now my life hasn't moved in the direction i want and i can feel a wave of depression coming on like never before.

So i guess what i'm saying is its ok to be apathetic, just don't try to tune out the negative completely. Its like the AA thing, however it goes. Feel satisfaction by working to fix what you can, and accept what you can not fix.

Again change what you can, and ignore what you can't (I'll never be tall so I ignore it).

Lord X · 03-01-2009, 07:04 PM

Or, a group of friends who you can be you around. Nothing need be changed, people who just get you.

Ego Tripping · 03-01-2009, 08:20 PM

"Get rich quick...count your blessings."

The Rev · 03-02-2009, 05:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by slapstick

personally, I say the secret to being happy is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.

The Buddha would agree. In fact, he said this very thing. If you want to be happy, want what you have.

The Rev

clive · 03-02-2009, 05:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGrandPuba

is not giving a shit.

Also, drugs.

i know exactly where you're coming from, I spent too many years giving a shit and it really holds you back in life. to have freedom is to not give a shit at all.

02-28-2009, 05:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
TheGrandPuba amateur gynecologist Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: in my head Posts: 2,588 Thanks: 43 Thanked 59 Times in 38 Posts	The key to happiness is not giving a shit. Also, drugs.

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shelbert008 stoner Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: hell on earth aka texas Posts: 1,043 Thanks: 101 Thanked 157 Times in 113 Posts	I would say moderation is the key to happiness. __________________ one pill makes you larger, one pill makes you small, and the one that mother gives you, doesnt do anything at all Feed Your Head

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The Rev Clear Light Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: In my head, somewhere. Posts: 17,863 Thanks: 5,015 Thanked 5,419 Times in 2,864 Posts	Especially in moderation. Happiness is about focus. If you're focused on shit all day, that's how you're going to feel. If you're focused on the good, then that's how you will feel. The problem is, most of us unhappy people are habitually focused on the negative. I think the media, especially in the US, has a hand in this. The Rev __________________ Budforce - My Friend August 29, 1973- May 25, 2012

03-01-2009, 11:30 AM	#6 (permalink)
Mafoo nice daze Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: the anguish of anticipated transformation Posts: 5,975 Thanks: 3,776 Thanked 2,651 Times in 1,697 Posts	^ i agree with the media comment, rev. it seems like they broadcast more and more stories about what you should be fearing as an american. people like my mother buy into that and live with fear of whats lies just out the front door of the house. i try to tell her that, yes, negativity exists in the world, but we cant be paralyzed by it, and we shouldnt dwell on the negativity, rather we should recognize it for what it is and move on seeking the positive aspects of life. __________________ PLUR For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

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SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,767 Times in 4,664 Posts	Not giving a shit sort sounds similiar to the idea that nonattachment to the outcomes of our work will lead to less suffering/expectations. I don't know if I'd say its the same thing for this thought. It's kind of the apathetic sounding side of the coin, but hey man, whatever works for you. I agree totally with the Rev though. Having a PMA goes along way in seeing the brighterside when things are less than splendid, and keeps you flexable about what to do with then unexpected......alth ough, not giving a shit is a broad brush stroke. Perhaps, Don't give a shit with a positive outlook would be good though. I wouldn't phrase myself as a don't give a shit, in my words, but I would say I'm usually whatever if people want me to do something...' sure whatever I'm not up to anything ' rambllllllllllllllll lllllle, Sage __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

02-28-2009, 07:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mercury Special Delivery Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The States Posts: 8,150 Thanks: 294 Thanked 801 Times in 539 Posts	I'm gonna have to disagree 100%. My philosophy is that if a person wants to be happy they need to completely give a shit. For example, your house stinks? Light a candle. Your clothes don't fit right? Get them tailored. You're not feeling well? Eat something that's good for you. Give a shit.... Also, drugs.

02-28-2009, 08:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
TheGrandPuba amateur gynecologist Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: in my head Posts: 2,588 Thanks: 43 Thanked 59 Times in 38 Posts	We can agree on the drugs.. But giving a shit just makes you angry/causes pain..... I've been really depressed for the last 7 years of my life.. give or take, and I chalk it all up to caring about what's fucked up in this world. I no longer care, I'm no longer depressed

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slapstick serial time killer Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: las cruces, New Mexico Posts: 332 Thanks: 75 Thanked 105 Times in 86 Posts	personally, I say the secret to being happy is not having what you want, but wanting what you have. __________________ ^ nigga went to "dont know what the fuck is going on" college - GHM "well, they say that life is a joke. so try not to wait til the last moment to laugh at it." -verklingen

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Qui-Bong Jinn Jedi High Council Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kingston, Ontario Posts: 2,121 Thanks: 905 Thanked 496 Times in 368 Posts	A bong and half an ounce of weed, is my key to happiness.

03-01-2009, 05:36 PM	#10 (permalink)
Lord X YaHookan Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Planet Earth Posts: 120 Thanks: 8 Thanked 10 Times in 12 Posts	The key to happiness is simply rolling with the waves. You are just a leaf floating in the breeze and you have little control of what you are doing. Try as you might you cannot change your path as dramatically as you wish. If you just realize that there are things you can control and things you cant, you will be happy. Just roll with the punches, and do what little you can. __________________ Three Rings for the Elven-kings under the sky, Seven for the Dwarf-lords in their halls of stone, Nine for Mortal Men doomed to die, One for the Dark Lord on his dark throne In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie. One Ring to rule them all, One Ring to find them, One Ring to bring them all and in the darkness bind them In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie.

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Xil OD'ing on sobriety Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mizzura Posts: 3,334 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 1,036 Thanked 1,158 Times in 717 Posts	Dont just tune shit out completely. I tuned out all negative aspects in my life and it did get rid of my depression/thoughts of suicide but now my life hasn't moved in the direction i want and i can feel a wave of depression coming on like never before. So i guess what i'm saying is its ok to be apathetic, just don't try to tune out the negative completely. Its like the AA thing, however it goes. Feel satisfaction by working to fix what you can, and accept what you can not fix. __________________ "we'll show these fascists what a couple of hillbillies can do"

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Grieves The Worst Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Interstate 8 Posts: 12,081 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 2,560 Thanked 3,111 Times in 1,708 Posts	the key is honesty... do you mask feeling under 'happiness'/drugs....or are you truly happy... Nothing will ever feel right if you can't be first be honest with what's really going on, big picture and smalll... __________________ "And no matter what they said dollar is not your friend and it's the feelings that are hard to know are the feelings that all come slow No matter what they said dollar is not your friend and these feelings that so hard to know are the feelings that wont let go No don't let go, till you find a home World Unite and I'll love you forever"

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Lord X YaHookan Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Planet Earth Posts: 120 Thanks: 8 Thanked 10 Times in 12 Posts	Or, a group of friends who you can be you around. Nothing need be changed, people who just get you. __________________ Three Rings for the Elven-kings under the sky, Seven for the Dwarf-lords in their halls of stone, Nine for Mortal Men doomed to die, One for the Dark Lord on his dark throne In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie. One Ring to rule them all, One Ring to find them, One Ring to bring them all and in the darkness bind them In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie.

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Ego Tripping Are you in? Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 13,468 Thanks: 229 Thanked 665 Times in 443 Posts	"Get rich quick...count your blessings." __________________ God appears, and God is light, To those poor souls who dwell in night; But does a human form display To those who dwell in realms of day.

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