How old B4 you let your kids smoke with you? - Page 3

verklingen · 10-05-2009, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by turmaline

Is everyone going to be mad if I said I would prefer my children didn't smoke at all?

Unless it's medicinal.

I just think back to when I was young....I want my kids to be so much more then what I was....or am today.

i'm sure you feel the same about alcohol and for that reason i more than respect your preference that your kids stay clean.

hijabihippie · 10-05-2009, 08:55 AM

Right on, Verk. I'll second that.

**~~stateofkane~~** · 10-05-2009, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by flappy

OK, money then. What's w/guys wanting to have kids. . .I always thought it was a chick thing. You need more things in your life to love, peer pressure ?

It's mostly the thought of worrying something bad will happen... My 2nd nephew is less than 1 and needed a kidney removed and about to go on chemo.

The thought of shit like that turns me off. Money too.

ahippy · 10-24-2009, 10:39 AM

my dad let me smoke with him when I was 13 If my kid smoked weed and hes in highschool I'd tell him he's only allowed to smoke in the house so he wont get in trouble. Besides you dont want your kid to be hiding stuff from you its more important to be a good parent to the kid then to be the typical parent that society wants you to be that will ruin your relationship with your kid and he could get into other drugs but let the kid do what he wants so he wont have to lie to you about what hes doing and he'll grow up a happy kid

Color-Me-Cliche · 11-07-2009, 01:00 PM

Would suppy them safe weed when ever they started,because you can prevent, but you cant stop a kid from doing things. At least they wont be smokeing street weed. And I wouldn't let them smoke around me, until they're like, 14.

zerodown · 11-21-2009, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by turmaline

Is everyone going to be mad if I said I would prefer my children didn't smoke at all?

Unless it's medicinal.

I just think back to when I was young....I want my kids to be so much more then what I was....or am today.

In other words, you will prohibit your kid from smoking the sacred herb because you didn't like you childhood? As if his life will just some how be extraordinarily better because of it.

I am not a father, and pardon my observation, but I think it would be better for our kids if we inform them and accept it instead of prohibiting and looking away ignoring the fact that once out the door he'll do it anyway, worse yet, he'll be uninformed on the subject, probably becomes a statistic in our jail system by age 17.

Qui-Bong Jinn · 11-22-2009, 02:57 PM

If I have kids, Ill smoke with them as soon as I find out they do it, and show them the ropes, hook them up with the good shit. lol Ive asked my mom to smoke with me a few times, sadly she said no

B. · 11-22-2009, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by flappy

Verk, wish you could step outside your office for a minute and see how many people are making over $ 40,000/year out there. That's what it takes minimally for responsible people to start having babies. You know about the economy, right? I know it doesn't affect you, but a lot are hurting now. Let's just say, babies are expensive.

I just read through the thread, I don't see what this has to do with smoking around/with your kids.

people who smoke weed don't earn??

Anyway, I was introduced to weed by my dad, knew he smoked it from an early age, started smoking when I was 14... smoked with him first time when I was about 17... guess what?? I'm not irresponsible, am not a loser, was never taken into care... so I fail to see the problem... each to their own, but getting high and mighty about how people bring up their kids is condescending... especially over herb.

Me personally, I will do like my dad did... not hide anything from my kids, be honest and educate them... and smoke with them when it is appropriate... if they so wish.

Kishar · 11-25-2009, 12:02 PM

i have a family member who thought it was ok to smoke with their son...it seemed like no big deal at first. after awhile thats all he wanted to do was smoke weed...always asking for a hit...asking them to get him a sack then it lead to beer then he started drinking whiskey cuz they allowed it too then he started taking pills and now you cant trust him as far as you can throw him. if you got pills or weed hide it cuz he'll steal it in a heartbeat...hes a little fucking thief. everyone in the family including me thought they were idiots for letting him smoke with them in the house, now their paying the price.

i will never smoke with my son no matter the situation... i may have a talk with him when he's old enough to know better but i will NEVER condone drug use...even though i smoke weed. call me a hypocrite but it's a problem i've dealt with since i've been about 17 and i dont want my son to follow in my footsteps..as far as using goes.

verklingen · 11-25-2009, 12:11 PM

if it's been a problem it sounds like the drug was using you

i don't think any of this really matters anyhow as i feel policies regarding drugs as well as our society's view of them in general is shifting at an ever-increasing pace

Kishar · 11-25-2009, 12:18 PM

i had a problem with pills in the past and even now i still get a hankering to pop and i feel if i never had smoked weed or been around drugs in the first place i wouldnt have a problem. i just want better for my son...being a dad yourself i think you can understand that verks.

verklingen · 11-25-2009, 01:06 PM

yeah bro i can for sure i just don't see the value in forcibly limiting my kids' experiences. i feel like it would close them off from me and set them off down the path to making bad decisions without really caring what i thought about it. kids're gonna make bad decisions anyhow, it's part of growing up. i want to be there to help them along instead of just playing catch-up damage control

zerodown · 11-25-2009, 03:06 PM

Informing them is part of the deal, you have to accept it if your kids start doing it, for the health of the relationship, we've known for a long time prohibition doesn't work, what will you do if your kid gets home high? Ground him?

Thats actually the question that should be asked, what will you spot him? What did your parents do? Did it help the relationship? Put it on the scale, its better to accept and work with it that prohibit and watch them stray away...

Sugar420 · 11-25-2009, 03:23 PM

why is everyone acting like is either/or?
if we teach kids about decision making, then they can make good decisions. if we teach them all or nothing thinking, they are probably going to choose all. the thing about kids is that they dont realize that decisions/actions can have long term effects.
so i think its not so much an issue of being in control of kids as it is of teaching/helping kids to be in control of themselves

Debaser · 11-25-2009, 11:27 PM

I'm not setting any particular age, but I will definitely keep my ey on things. I mean who knows, maybe he won't even like it? However, if i come across a stash of his, or otherwise find out he smokes, I'm going to sit down with him, get really baked and give him the talk...something along the lines of don't be a dumbass and do some stupid shit that will get you arrested or hurt, take care of your shit before you smoke (depending on his age his, "shit' will most likely be school), and don't flaunt it, just because I know you smoke, doesn't mean you can walk in the door red-eyed whenever you feel like it, be discrete nigga!

I'll probably try to discourage excessive use, and the few times I do smoke with him will be special occasions. Birthday, holidays, 'bonding moments" like golfing together or something, you get the idea...

Bad dog · 11-25-2009, 11:57 PM

I still can't work out what I should say to my 6 year old when he asks me "what are you putting in your cig?"

zerodown · 11-26-2009, 05:04 AM

Excessive use should be discouraged indeed, but thats the case with everything else as well.

11-25-2009, 12:11 PM	#50 (permalink)
verklingen Radical Dreamer Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: texas Posts: 8,005 Thanks: 811 Thanked 1,491 Times in 946 Posts	if it's been a problem it sounds like the drug was using you i don't think any of this really matters anyhow as i feel policies regarding drugs as well as our society's view of them in general is shifting at an ever-increasing pace __________________ “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” rip matt

11-25-2009, 01:06 PM	#52 (permalink)
verklingen Radical Dreamer Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: texas Posts: 8,005 Thanks: 811 Thanked 1,491 Times in 946 Posts	yeah bro i can for sure i just don't see the value in forcibly limiting my kids' experiences. i feel like it would close them off from me and set them off down the path to making bad decisions without really caring what i thought about it. kids're gonna make bad decisions anyhow, it's part of growing up. i want to be there to help them along instead of just playing catch-up damage control __________________ “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” rip matt

11-25-2009, 03:06 PM	#53 (permalink)
zerodown Mafutero Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: PR Posts: 782 Thanks: 41 Thanked 169 Times in 131 Posts	Informing them is part of the deal, you have to accept it if your kids start doing it, for the health of the relationship, we've known for a long time prohibition doesn't work, what will you do if your kid gets home high? Ground him? Thats actually the question that should be asked, what will you spot him? What did your parents do? Did it help the relationship? Put it on the scale, its better to accept and work with it that prohibit and watch them stray away... __________________ "I've seen people so poor all they got is money." We have to learn to unlearn Its not contradiction, its amendment Not everything we see is reality Not everything we hear is the truth Not everything we're taught helps us grow ~Cultura Profetica "La locura se lleva en la cabeza y las drogas en los bolsillos" ~Roberto Iniesta

11-25-2009, 11:27 PM	#55 (permalink)
Debaser Baked Fresh Daily Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Winnipeg Posts: 1,186 Thanks: 32 Thanked 303 Times in 177 Posts	I'm not setting any particular age, but I will definitely keep my ey on things. I mean who knows, maybe he won't even like it? However, if i come across a stash of his, or otherwise find out he smokes, I'm going to sit down with him, get really baked and give him the talk...something along the lines of don't be a dumbass and do some stupid shit that will get you arrested or hurt, take care of your shit before you smoke (depending on his age his, "shit' will most likely be school), and don't flaunt it, just because I know you smoke, doesn't mean you can walk in the door red-eyed whenever you feel like it, be discrete nigga! I'll probably try to discourage excessive use, and the few times I do smoke with him will be special occasions. Birthday, holidays, 'bonding moments" like golfing together or something, you get the idea... __________________ Wouldn't it be great to heal the world with only a song? Message CM47: Let's go pay some hookers to knock our junk around.

11-26-2009, 05:04 AM	#57 (permalink)
zerodown Mafutero Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: PR Posts: 782 Thanks: 41 Thanked 169 Times in 131 Posts	Excessive use should be discouraged indeed, but thats the case with everything else as well. __________________ "I've seen people so poor all they got is money." We have to learn to unlearn Its not contradiction, its amendment Not everything we see is reality Not everything we hear is the truth Not everything we're taught helps us grow ~Cultura Profetica "La locura se lleva en la cabeza y las drogas en los bolsillos" ~Roberto Iniesta

10-05-2009, 08:55 AM	#42 (permalink)
hijabihippie YaHookan Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,481 Thanks: 1,152 Thanked 655 Times in 515 Posts	Right on, Verk. I'll second that.

10-24-2009, 10:39 AM	#44 (permalink)
ahippy YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: milton ON Posts: 13 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	my dad let me smoke with him when I was 13 If my kid smoked weed and hes in highschool I'd tell him he's only allowed to smoke in the house so he wont get in trouble. Besides you dont want your kid to be hiding stuff from you its more important to be a good parent to the kid then to be the typical parent that society wants you to be that will ruin your relationship with your kid and he could get into other drugs but let the kid do what he wants so he wont have to lie to you about what hes doing and he'll grow up a happy kid

11-07-2009, 01:00 PM	#45 (permalink)
Color-Me-Cliche YaHookan Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 44 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Would suppy them safe weed when ever they started,because you can prevent, but you cant stop a kid from doing things. At least they wont be smokeing street weed. And I wouldn't let them smoke around me, until they're like, 14.

11-22-2009, 02:57 PM	#47 (permalink)
Qui-Bong Jinn Jedi High Council Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Kingston, Ontario Posts: 2,121 Thanks: 905 Thanked 496 Times in 368 Posts	If I have kids, Ill smoke with them as soon as I find out they do it, and show them the ropes, hook them up with the good shit. lol Ive asked my mom to smoke with me a few times, sadly she said no

11-25-2009, 12:02 PM	#49 (permalink)
Kishar loading user title.. Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: subcutaneous layer Posts: 2,236 Thanks: 121 Thanked 223 Times in 156 Posts	i have a family member who thought it was ok to smoke with their son...it seemed like no big deal at first. after awhile thats all he wanted to do was smoke weed...always asking for a hit...asking them to get him a sack then it lead to beer then he started drinking whiskey cuz they allowed it too then he started taking pills and now you cant trust him as far as you can throw him. if you got pills or weed hide it cuz he'll steal it in a heartbeat...hes a little fucking thief. everyone in the family including me thought they were idiots for letting him smoke with them in the house, now their paying the price. i will never smoke with my son no matter the situation... i may have a talk with him when he's old enough to know better but i will NEVER condone drug use...even though i smoke weed. call me a hypocrite but it's a problem i've dealt with since i've been about 17 and i dont want my son to follow in my footsteps..as far as using goes.

11-25-2009, 12:18 PM	#51 (permalink)
Kishar loading user title.. Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: subcutaneous layer Posts: 2,236 Thanks: 121 Thanked 223 Times in 156 Posts	i had a problem with pills in the past and even now i still get a hankering to pop and i feel if i never had smoked weed or been around drugs in the first place i wouldnt have a problem. i just want better for my son...being a dad yourself i think you can understand that verks.

11-25-2009, 03:23 PM	#54 (permalink)
Sugar420 Freedom Bird Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 6,135 Thanks: 40 Thanked 178 Times in 729 Posts	why is everyone acting like is either/or? if we teach kids about decision making, then they can make good decisions. if we teach them all or nothing thinking, they are probably going to choose all. the thing about kids is that they dont realize that decisions/actions can have long term effects. so i think its not so much an issue of being in control of kids as it is of teaching/helping kids to be in control of themselves

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