José

Dunno why, I just think it's really repetitive and completely unnecessary in most cases.

I can see how it's the "proper" thing to do out of respect in a formal setting, otherwise I don't see a use for formal greetings.

i.e. when you ask someone how they are doing...

unless they are really stressed out or something just happened in their life, the typical answers are always,"fine, good, etc.." I realize not everyone is like this, but most people are. I also realize not everyone always wants to talk to me, but still...

on a semi-related note...

like some people think it's rude to join a conversation you weren't "invited" to, but by that logic you shouldn't even be talking about it if you didn't want someone to bust in on the conversation.

this hasn't happened to me in along time, I'm just ranting for no real reason at all.

Captain Cannabis

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José

I definitely don't have asperger syndrome.

I guess repetitive wasn't really the correct word.

It's just kind of like how some people I can talk to non-stop without ever having met them or even have a formal greeting. Then I will shake someones hand and WANT to talk to them but it just doesn't happen. I just think greetings should come naturally. A lot of people seem to force it, you know?

The Rev

I hate saying, "Bless You" after someone sneezes, and "Thanks" to those who say it to me. I had really bad allergies one year, and was sneezing like a motherfucker all the time, and it started to feel like a job always having to say, "Thanks, thanks, thanks" so as not to offend the concerned party who was courteous enough to offer me the Lord's blessing.

I understand the point of it, if you believe that sneezing ejects a demon from your body. However, if we have advanced in your critical apprehension of reality beyond the Middle Ages (and I think it's safe to say most of us have), then what's the point?



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You guys, all the talk is in the small talk...

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I think people who say, "Bless you" after someone sneezes, are stupid. I hate it, I don't thank them, I don't even acknowledge them.

SageTree

The intro ritual that bothers me is the 'names' I smile politely given them my name, and then tell them I hardly ever remember names, but I'll probably remember their face and will treat the like a friend every time.

And most people say they aren't good with names either and we laugh.....

I don't say hi to everyone in the room when I walk in but I smile when I walk in greeting everyone. It's not my way, and its not comfortable for me.

Over all, I just try to treat people the best that I can, like their a friend first... innocent until proven guilty, if you will lol...

But on that same note... I AM that person who can meet some one the first time and talk for hours... unfortunately I'm sometimes in the grocery store line up talking to the checker....

I consider myself introverted, but when I connect, when I'm comfortable my memory refreshes... I remember names, I am more engaged when it's 'real' to my body and not just my mind preforming rituals.

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José

yep, well put Sage. I can relate with 100% of your post. Hell there's people in my classes that I talk to everyday in class and I have deep conversations with them and I still don't know some of their names.

Flamingnun

How about social skills?

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Mafoo

i think its important to greet people, especially people you will probably be seeing again. 1st impressions are HUGE! and its so easy to make a good one by just smiling and saying hello. even if that doesnt lead to conversation, that minute expendature or energy has put you in that persons mind as "good". if you mean mug and stay quiet, you go in the "bad" category. people dont even realize they are in essence sorting the people theyve met, so if you can easily get in someones good graces, why not do it?

same with goodbyes, its important to let people know you are leaving, even if youll definitely see them tomorrow or later, it lets people know you value them and their part in YOUR life. ever have a friend whos known for just up and disappearing? no one really likes that person, or wants to be that close with them. acting like that seems to signal people that the person is not worth spending time with.

so basically, even though you think its unneeded, hellos and goodbyes are for the other person, not for you.

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José

that's a good point, but what about saying good night and good morning.

Mafoo

same idea, different words. greetings are just a way of showing others that you value their presence, or in other words you can stand having them around. if you dont expressly say it, people may think you CANT stand having them around.

its a reassuring gesture, even though its probably more of a subconcious one.

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José

yeah but like you were talking about "mean mugging" earlier. I'm one of the nicest people you'd ever meet. I have my own way of letting people know I care about them. anyways this thread was a dumb idea. lol