Debaser

Copied this post from godlike productions.com, being an introvert myself I found it pretty spot on:


What is an introvert?:
Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.


Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.



[link to jerrybrito.org]



Myth #9 interests me in particular, if introverts and extroverts have differing dominant neural pathways, it would be interesting to find out how weed or other drugs differently affect introverts and extroverts.

(I know I haven't been around in awhile, my computer is all jacked up and Yahooka is slot easier to read than to post on when you're on an iPhone. Even now I'm posting this from my brother in laws iPad.)

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Canuck Wisdom

I like the read, but when I got to this part
I thought it sounded a little bit like it got pulled out of an ass. A) 25-40%, thats a pretty big range, and b) how could they even measure that accurately.

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SageTree

Damn... that was a good read.
I concur with much of it.

The only thing I'd change is instead of labeling people as introverted, they could have made it more fair by saying "People with introverted tendencies" or just used the word "Introversion" more.

The problem is the dichotomy of being one OR the other, when in fact, life is more often a mix.

I'm going to take the time to plug a thread about this topic. Jung-Myers-Briggs Personality Test

There is a poll there and it's pretty cool to look at. This helps us see people tendencies and can in a work setting for instance, open up a manner of good communication.

Myself, I see a lot of room for compassion when two 'opposing' types interact with each other, and perhaps wearing out numbers could be like an 'ah... I see why we aren't communicating effectively' ...... yea right It'd likely just get used against people.


SO anyways... I've always fallen on the introversion side of life, which a lot of people find hard to believe My Wife is the opposite though. Sometimes I think it'll kill me, other times I'm glad to get out of my comfort zone a little. Over time we've come to a middle event so she can get some social and I don't go into 'shut down' mode ,as the article mentioned.

And there I suppose is a fine example of looking at our tendencies and needs that come from them, making a more satisfying rich compromise.

Good find Debser. Hope your comp get going soon

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Mafoo

ive taken personality tests where i got introverted, and then taken it again months later and got extroverted.

i guess i like a little bit of both. i like to chill alone, i get alot done. but i also like to socialize on and get wasted TBEHONEST

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SageTree

I think it'd be best to look at the number between the two, or perhaps consider the situation and time of life you took it. If you look at the link I posted I talk a little about that in my results which I've taken 4 times on Yahooka and posted.

There is also a 'work' Myers-Briggs, which is to say you preform differently at your job.
God I know I do

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Waves

its not about "like" at all. its about what energizes you. i cant stand being in crowds for more than a few hours before i start to feel tired and sick of being there. its not that i dont "like" crowds, im not shy and i love talking to people, i just start to literally feel drained after awhile.

introverts will generally also stick to small crowds when socializing because its not as overwhelming as the large crowd can be. in large crowds they will stick to small groups of people who are familiar to them as opposed to extroverts who are comfortable wandering around, meeting new people, mingling among the crowd. introverts do this of course but they dont do it nearly as much as extroverts.

for example at a music fest introverts will sit around the fire and talk for the majority of the time while extroverts will be out walking among the crowd the majority of the time.

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fenderbender

good read. Feels like it describes me to a tee.

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The Rev

Yeah, that all sounded incredibly familiar. I catch a lot of shit from everyone for keeping to myself at parties and such. I don't like pointless socializing. Now, I feel like I have a good reason. Thanks for posting this, Debaser.



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Geeno

My problem with these tests is that I'm likely to choose answers based on the results I'd like to see, within a spectrum of feelings I have.

I definitely express introverted tendencies, I have great social skills but I'm more than comfortable being alone.

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SageTree

No doubt something for people to keep in mind who want some answer like information, instead of hoping to solidify what they already believe about themselves.

Cheers

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BudSniffer

Thanks mang fits me to a tee.... I get flack from my family even, cause I don't care much for those big get togethers. And I catch it from work, cause I don't go to their "events".

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